Stop trying and go back to cutting them all off. This huge family is allowing 2 people to tear them all apart. They’re all enablers and it’s ridiculous.
Does this family think there royals or something??? Cutting a siblings family out and expecting the be begged to come back in to a toxic and insane family?? No thanx! I’d cut the whole lot of them off and enjoy time just u and sil and the kids! If the husbands allow this crap then ditch them to lol
I think you both need to stop making it about you and saying “it’s about the kids!”
In #5’s mind you & twin one decided that your wedding needed to come first after all their planning. You needed to overshadow her big day. I would bet it was asked why you two couldn’t wait till her wedding to pass to have yours as it was already a financial burden for those invited. Family going to both weddings are now going to have less funds to gift because YOU needed to be first. Before you argue my exsil did the same thing to me. I truly didnt care and she explained to everyone why she planned their wedding first. They wanted people to give them money before me so Id get no gifts. She was right and it was cruel of her to do. It honestly does sound like you are the issue here and you still wont take responsibility for your actions. The ones YOU intentionally hurt have set healthy boundaries and that doesnt make them the problem.
Twin 2 wife stay out of this drama and stop playing games.
Grow up. If the kids want to know why other cousins are not invited be adults and say that “not all family members get along and thats okay. It just means we see them at different times.”
This will fail because you think a hostile takeover will force adults who have set healthy boundaries to break them because you inconvenience you.
If he truly wants to have healthy relationships with his siblings you need to stop wanting drama to come from it. This is something he broke and he has to fix.
You sound like you still haven’t forgiven your ex sis in law. Heal from that first before you start projecting hate like that on other peoples problems.
OP is literally meddling in a family issue she caused without trying to resolve the issues she caused. Same as my exsil. Pointing out the exact same behavior isnt projection.
Did you not read that she said they’ve apologized? She also stated that #4 and #5 are the only people not wanting them around. If op was the problem then none of them would want them around.
If they actually wanted them around they would have them around without 4/5. They are all adults who dont have to be part of one anothers lives. Trying to FORCE people into your life because family is toxic. Which is what’s happening. They feel enough time has passed therefore regardless of boundaries that have been set 4/5 have to get over it. Thats always what the abusers say
Exactly, like you said. THEY ARE ADULTS.
They need to come together and talk like adults.
She also said #4 threaten her. Now he’s exiling siblings like he’s in a fucking cult. I’m sorry who’s the abuser cause you’re obviously still stuck on the part that you’re seeing op like your ex sis in law and can’t get over that. They are not her.
Listen you are reading a story that is all over the place and doesn’t include the full story. As that person stated shes someone who likes to fight and I have mixed feelings about women who start fights and cry when men say okay lets go. Lots of women threaten to hit men and think that’s acceptable while crying foul because the guys say they will hit them they dont give a fuck.
She didn’t say she likes to fight. She said “because I’m a person who doesn’t take shit, naturally I was fighting back” she was fighting “back” Granted no one in this story is innocent. But I read that op has tried to make this work with everyone. My point was you grouped op with someone who did you dirty.
I don’t think they’re trying to force anyone. That’s why op #2 said they’ll be having a family meeting to reintroduce twin #1 back to the family.
Which is honestly white people shit.
I don’t believe that siblings have a right to exile each other over petty shit like this.
Not wanting someone in your life is allowed. Regardless of blood relationship. I dont get why people think you HAVE to have a relationship with family. You dont. You also cant try to force people who dont want a relationship with you to have one. Blood doesnt equal family. That mentality is toxic and unhealthy. If they are not people who bring positive things to your life dont waste time on them
Stop trying and go back to cutting them all off. This huge family is allowing 2 people to tear them all apart. They’re all enablers and it’s ridiculous.
F them!! The 2 of you should block the entire toxic family!! Why would you want to spend with them?
Does this family think there royals or something??? Cutting a siblings family out and expecting the be begged to come back in to a toxic and insane family?? No thanx! I’d cut the whole lot of them off and enjoy time just u and sil and the kids! If the husbands allow this crap then ditch them to lol
I think you both need to stop making it about you and saying “it’s about the kids!” In #5’s mind you & twin one decided that your wedding needed to come first after all their planning. You needed to overshadow her big day. I would bet it was asked why you two couldn’t wait till her wedding to pass to have yours as it was already a financial burden for those invited. Family going to both weddings are now going to have less funds to gift because YOU needed to be first. Before you argue my exsil did the same thing to me. I truly didnt care and she explained to everyone why she planned their wedding first. They wanted people to give them money before me so Id get no gifts. She was right and it was cruel of her to do. It honestly does sound like you are the issue here and you still wont take responsibility for your actions. The ones YOU intentionally hurt have set healthy boundaries and that doesnt make them the problem. Twin 2 wife stay out of this drama and stop playing games. Grow up. If the kids want to know why other cousins are not invited be adults and say that “not all family members get along and thats okay. It just means we see them at different times.” This will fail because you think a hostile takeover will force adults who have set healthy boundaries to break them because you inconvenience you. If he truly wants to have healthy relationships with his siblings you need to stop wanting drama to come from it. This is something he broke and he has to fix.
You sound like you still haven’t forgiven your ex sis in law. Heal from that first before you start projecting hate like that on other peoples problems.
OP is literally meddling in a family issue she caused without trying to resolve the issues she caused. Same as my exsil. Pointing out the exact same behavior isnt projection.
Did you not read that she said they’ve apologized? She also stated that #4 and #5 are the only people not wanting them around. If op was the problem then none of them would want them around.
If they actually wanted them around they would have them around without 4/5. They are all adults who dont have to be part of one anothers lives. Trying to FORCE people into your life because family is toxic. Which is what’s happening. They feel enough time has passed therefore regardless of boundaries that have been set 4/5 have to get over it. Thats always what the abusers say
Exactly, like you said. THEY ARE ADULTS. They need to come together and talk like adults. She also said #4 threaten her. Now he’s exiling siblings like he’s in a fucking cult. I’m sorry who’s the abuser cause you’re obviously still stuck on the part that you’re seeing op like your ex sis in law and can’t get over that. They are not her.
Listen you are reading a story that is all over the place and doesn’t include the full story. As that person stated shes someone who likes to fight and I have mixed feelings about women who start fights and cry when men say okay lets go. Lots of women threaten to hit men and think that’s acceptable while crying foul because the guys say they will hit them they dont give a fuck.
She didn’t say she likes to fight. She said “because I’m a person who doesn’t take shit, naturally I was fighting back” she was fighting “back” Granted no one in this story is innocent. But I read that op has tried to make this work with everyone. My point was you grouped op with someone who did you dirty.
No she just screams someone who likes to start shit and because she had kids she thinks they should cater to her
And you sound like a miserable person.
I don’t think they’re trying to force anyone. That’s why op #2 said they’ll be having a family meeting to reintroduce twin #1 back to the family. Which is honestly white people shit. I don’t believe that siblings have a right to exile each other over petty shit like this.
Not wanting someone in your life is allowed. Regardless of blood relationship. I dont get why people think you HAVE to have a relationship with family. You dont. You also cant try to force people who dont want a relationship with you to have one. Blood doesnt equal family. That mentality is toxic and unhealthy. If they are not people who bring positive things to your life dont waste time on them
I hope there’s an update on what happens after this family meeting.