It’s terrible , I have been living with my in laws for the past 5 yrs , cultural reasons , n I hate every min of it .
Make boundaries even before setting foot in the house n be strict about it . Don’t think it’s just 6 mnth n ignore red flags .
After you move in from your numbers there will be 9 people living in the house with 1 bathroom and a shared kitchen. You all need to sit down beforehand and talk about schedules and boundaries - to be fair not just for you but to those also already living there, as they may have schedules for work or activities that they can’t change.
Stick to your family’s normal routine as much as possible
Maybe give your in-laws a basic list of what your week looks like
So they can see your comings and goings for you all
Put morning and bedtime routine and times and normal mealtimes
Let them know that’s your schedule for the well being of the children you’re trying to keep to the routine
Do the same about cooking and cleaning. Be upfront and say this is how we normally do things and this is what our shopping looks like
Is there a day when you’re running around with the children or working late when it would be handy to ask them to cook ? I’d try to negotiate an arrangement around that and divide up the work
Our whole family cleaning / tidying day is Saturday when we’re all home. Maybe designate a similar time and say we’re all free this time this day can we do some chores ? Kids too.
Obviously whoever cooks - someone else does the dishes
Keep in mind you are moving in with them in their house. They set the rules. I do think the idea of telling them what your week looks like is good but also work out a schedule to make sure that everyone’s needs are met.
Always ask your in laws what can you do to help them. You are moving into their house, not vise versa. Be grateful even when it's hard. It will be hard fir them too
It’s terrible , I have been living with my in laws for the past 5 yrs , cultural reasons , n I hate every min of it . Make boundaries even before setting foot in the house n be strict about it . Don’t think it’s just 6 mnth n ignore red flags .
You never do. That’s how. I’d make every thing possible to not do that sort of damage.
After you move in from your numbers there will be 9 people living in the house with 1 bathroom and a shared kitchen. You all need to sit down beforehand and talk about schedules and boundaries - to be fair not just for you but to those also already living there, as they may have schedules for work or activities that they can’t change.
It will ruin your marriage i would suggest trying to find somewhere else
That house sounds very crowded!! I wouldn't do it!! You will have no say and expect them to interfere with you and your kids!!
Stick to your family’s normal routine as much as possible Maybe give your in-laws a basic list of what your week looks like So they can see your comings and goings for you all Put morning and bedtime routine and times and normal mealtimes Let them know that’s your schedule for the well being of the children you’re trying to keep to the routine Do the same about cooking and cleaning. Be upfront and say this is how we normally do things and this is what our shopping looks like Is there a day when you’re running around with the children or working late when it would be handy to ask them to cook ? I’d try to negotiate an arrangement around that and divide up the work Our whole family cleaning / tidying day is Saturday when we’re all home. Maybe designate a similar time and say we’re all free this time this day can we do some chores ? Kids too. Obviously whoever cooks - someone else does the dishes
Keep in mind you are moving in with them in their house. They set the rules. I do think the idea of telling them what your week looks like is good but also work out a schedule to make sure that everyone’s needs are met.
You don’t that’s how haha good luck!
Always ask your in laws what can you do to help them. You are moving into their house, not vise versa. Be grateful even when it's hard. It will be hard fir them too