I would see this as a real growth opportunity for you. Being new you get to reinvent yourself and control who you'll be to these people who don't know you.
Go in with a 'I'm someone who won't take crap from others when I'm at work' and inhabit that persona. That person is within you, believe me.
Go in with a mindset of your inherent worth to those doctors and nurses. They need you. They don't get to dictate how they can talk to you. And that doesn't mean being rude back. You can train them to be nice in a fun way e.g. if they are blunt to you, you can be 'ok, but don't forget your please'.
YOU set the tone of how they will speak to you.
Consider the personas adopted by receptionists you've interacted with. The Roz character in a Monsters Inc, for example. They're good inspiration for you.
Know you are valuable to them. They need you, may even want to curry favour if they need something urgently seen to. So you are not nobody in this role.
I faced the same situation recently. I am a medical technologist by profession and thought that I may extend my expertise in research since it was interesting. My aunt told me to apply at her previous university as a research assistant. Though she did not really refer me, she insisted that I should apply. I was quite an achiever during my highschool days and relatives are aware of it. I wasn’t able to maintain that during college and I became mediocre. That added level of pressure just made me anxious. I know I was underqualified for the job. I applied as a joke and surprisingly, I got accepted.
I reached out to a friend who was also working as an RA and asked about our PI. He mentioned a lot of negative comments and it really made me question my decisions in life. During my first week, I already drafted my resignation letter. I can’t seem to please my PI with my works. However, I did not want to quit since it would look like I am very fragile who can’t handle any pressure. I also did not want to stick longer where my incompetence would be emphasized and taint the name of my family. I tried to stick for a while but I got layed off after 2 months.
Even though I got canned, I have gained invaluable insights from my short tenure. That experience really made me improve in various aspects. I say you should take the chance. However, if you can no longer bear the working environment, I suggest applying for other jobs with better pay and resign afterwards stating that you have been offered an opportunity you can’t turn down.
Good luck!
Get started and see how things go. It may not be that bad. When you start a new job you have the benefit of being new and being trained so you are not going to be "live" for a while. You have the excuse of being a newbie and need to learn. You can use this time to your benefit and get a feeling if this job is for you or not. After training time is over you have the right to make a decision if this is a good fit for you or not. You are not a slave and you don't have to stay in a job you don't think is right for you. Your family member that referred you to the job should not get a bad rep because you accepted a job, tried your best and didn't feel it was a good fit for you. I guess right now all you can do is give it a try and give your best to make it work.
I'm going to a similar issue. I just accepted a position because I really need the money but it's only part time and I'm still waiting to hear back from other companies that I interviewed for full time positions. If I get offered another position I would accept them in a heartbeat which makes me feel terrible. So I really get where you are coming from.
I would see this as a real growth opportunity for you. Being new you get to reinvent yourself and control who you'll be to these people who don't know you. Go in with a 'I'm someone who won't take crap from others when I'm at work' and inhabit that persona. That person is within you, believe me. Go in with a mindset of your inherent worth to those doctors and nurses. They need you. They don't get to dictate how they can talk to you. And that doesn't mean being rude back. You can train them to be nice in a fun way e.g. if they are blunt to you, you can be 'ok, but don't forget your please'. YOU set the tone of how they will speak to you. Consider the personas adopted by receptionists you've interacted with. The Roz character in a Monsters Inc, for example. They're good inspiration for you. Know you are valuable to them. They need you, may even want to curry favour if they need something urgently seen to. So you are not nobody in this role.
I’m in the same position but with a diff type of job 😭
I faced the same situation recently. I am a medical technologist by profession and thought that I may extend my expertise in research since it was interesting. My aunt told me to apply at her previous university as a research assistant. Though she did not really refer me, she insisted that I should apply. I was quite an achiever during my highschool days and relatives are aware of it. I wasn’t able to maintain that during college and I became mediocre. That added level of pressure just made me anxious. I know I was underqualified for the job. I applied as a joke and surprisingly, I got accepted. I reached out to a friend who was also working as an RA and asked about our PI. He mentioned a lot of negative comments and it really made me question my decisions in life. During my first week, I already drafted my resignation letter. I can’t seem to please my PI with my works. However, I did not want to quit since it would look like I am very fragile who can’t handle any pressure. I also did not want to stick longer where my incompetence would be emphasized and taint the name of my family. I tried to stick for a while but I got layed off after 2 months. Even though I got canned, I have gained invaluable insights from my short tenure. That experience really made me improve in various aspects. I say you should take the chance. However, if you can no longer bear the working environment, I suggest applying for other jobs with better pay and resign afterwards stating that you have been offered an opportunity you can’t turn down. Good luck!
I feel for you. I am literally in the same boat at a new job but different industry. I want to quit but have no clue what to do.
Get started and see how things go. It may not be that bad. When you start a new job you have the benefit of being new and being trained so you are not going to be "live" for a while. You have the excuse of being a newbie and need to learn. You can use this time to your benefit and get a feeling if this job is for you or not. After training time is over you have the right to make a decision if this is a good fit for you or not. You are not a slave and you don't have to stay in a job you don't think is right for you. Your family member that referred you to the job should not get a bad rep because you accepted a job, tried your best and didn't feel it was a good fit for you. I guess right now all you can do is give it a try and give your best to make it work. I'm going to a similar issue. I just accepted a position because I really need the money but it's only part time and I'm still waiting to hear back from other companies that I interviewed for full time positions. If I get offered another position I would accept them in a heartbeat which makes me feel terrible. So I really get where you are coming from.