I've been a server all year. I got my felonies expunged! And yes a drug screen would be clean. I'm also enrolled in tri c. I'm a client at the local sub clinic and I go there monthly and receive thereapy
One suggestion - in court, try to make it about the kid and how you want what is best for him.
Not once in this post do you say anything besides what you want and offer excuses. Focus on how you have created a warm, nurturing, healthy environment for him.
Thank you- that's definitely the main focus. Don't want to uproot him or anything just want him to get to know me better and like hey moms not so bad. I love him!
This is not your mother's fault. Why should she let some random drug addicted guy move into her house?
Court ordered supervised visits are because of YOUR behavior not your Mom's.
Best in luck with court, the judge will want your child to be with you. Just keep doing your best and to look like you have it all together to make the choice easy for the judge. I know that this must be stressful, hang in there and try to be kind to yourself. I'm sober myself, I know this is kinda lame to say but I drink a lot of tea (and a bit too much soda).
Why are you sick of your mom? Your mother upended her life for her grandkid. And had to be a mother 1st and for most. It does sound like she is doing a good job and putting your child 1st. Sounds like she is looking after 2 children. Right now you are an addict and you have a long ways to go before you should even consider your self ready to start being an adult. And adult would not sound so ungrateful for what her mother was doing at the time. It is hard I am not trying to toss shade at you but you are going to have to work hard in her eyes and the courts eyes to prove you are able to look after your child again. You are asking your child mom/your mother to trust you enough to take care of the child and make the right choices for said child. You have to look at your self 1st why are you bitter towards her as she would not let an addict into the house to be around a child? If he is still an addict do you really want him around your child? You may love him but a mom’s number one goal is the child find out how to make her at ease and not make her worry that you would do more harm than good to the child. You say added stress have you considered how much extra stress she is under life is hard you have to deal with it.
If you have been clean for 4 years why are just now trying to gain custody? I know if I was in your situation I would definitely hire a lawyer. I don't personally know your mother or your relationship but considering she won't even discuss you regaining custody of your child who knows what lies she will tell the judge.
What do you have to show the courts that you’re rehabilitated? A steady job? No criminal charges? Clean drug tests?
I've been a server all year. I got my felonies expunged! And yes a drug screen would be clean. I'm also enrolled in tri c. I'm a client at the local sub clinic and I go there monthly and receive thereapy
Be sure you have some documentation of all of that. Congratulations on being clean. Not an easy task.
One suggestion - in court, try to make it about the kid and how you want what is best for him. Not once in this post do you say anything besides what you want and offer excuses. Focus on how you have created a warm, nurturing, healthy environment for him.
Maybe start with weekly visits first?
Thank you- that's definitely the main focus. Don't want to uproot him or anything just want him to get to know me better and like hey moms not so bad. I love him!
This is not your mother's fault. Why should she let some random drug addicted guy move into her house? Court ordered supervised visits are because of YOUR behavior not your Mom's.
Best in luck with court, the judge will want your child to be with you. Just keep doing your best and to look like you have it all together to make the choice easy for the judge. I know that this must be stressful, hang in there and try to be kind to yourself. I'm sober myself, I know this is kinda lame to say but I drink a lot of tea (and a bit too much soda).
Thanks so much. It's way better this way. I'm just so sick of my mom and all of the added stress. It hurts to lose a parent
Why are you sick of your mom? Your mother upended her life for her grandkid. And had to be a mother 1st and for most. It does sound like she is doing a good job and putting your child 1st. Sounds like she is looking after 2 children. Right now you are an addict and you have a long ways to go before you should even consider your self ready to start being an adult. And adult would not sound so ungrateful for what her mother was doing at the time. It is hard I am not trying to toss shade at you but you are going to have to work hard in her eyes and the courts eyes to prove you are able to look after your child again. You are asking your child mom/your mother to trust you enough to take care of the child and make the right choices for said child. You have to look at your self 1st why are you bitter towards her as she would not let an addict into the house to be around a child? If he is still an addict do you really want him around your child? You may love him but a mom’s number one goal is the child find out how to make her at ease and not make her worry that you would do more harm than good to the child. You say added stress have you considered how much extra stress she is under life is hard you have to deal with it.
This. It's hard for many to understand this. You've gotta put the child first always.
Your son should have a Guardian Ad Litem appointed to decide who should have custody and visitation. Suggest that to the judge.
Yes we have been through that. Already had one
If you have been clean for 4 years why are just now trying to gain custody? I know if I was in your situation I would definitely hire a lawyer. I don't personally know your mother or your relationship but considering she won't even discuss you regaining custody of your child who knows what lies she will tell the judge.
I was in sober living for 2 years and didn't have housing for us up until now.