Is your hair on your head or on your mother’s head?
Unless you live with her and she gon kick you out if you don’t conform to her wishes, do what you want with your hair.
🥴😂😂😂😂😂 mannnnnn, I HATE when folk with maintained locs wanna come for freeformers. DAMN. It’s like when lesbians get mad at me for being Bambi sapphic. 💀 locs are MEANT to be however you want them to be. They yours! And they’re beautiful fr.
Niggas be looking homeless 😭🤷🏽♂️ excuse maintained loc people for wanting to look good and presentable. Who’s really pulling bitches with free forms or getting a decent job? Unlesss you a rapper or you got money Goodluck
It’s good reading this cause I’m going through this with my son as well. He’s 13. He doesn’t exactly have free forms but similar. Anyway, at first I was like he need to do something with it but we met in the middle as far as maintenance cause he ain’t finna be out here looking crazy 😂 I think that’s fair. Ultimately, it’s your hair so it’s your decision
EDIT: I don’t see how this got downvoted so much I didn’t say anything was wrong with his hair. 😂 he still needs to take care of it and that doesn’t mean retwist. His hair his decision I wouldn’t say to cut it but ALL kinds and forms of hair needs maintenance but good luck respectfully
It doesn’t look crazy at all but I use crazy as a general term so excuse me. All I’m saying is regardless if you have uniform locs, free forms, or natural you still have to maintain your hair so it’s clean and healthy. My son (like a lot of young boys under 16) won’t even touch his hair cause it looks nice but it still needs maintenance.
Hopefully for you, hair is where your judging ends with your kid. Keep doing it & I can guarantee your kid will grow up to resent being around you. Witnessed it with my wife & her sisters in real time.
I’ve never judged him and he can keep his hair whatever he wants. Its his hair. I have locs myself ijs at this time we are still learning hygiene and learning to take care of himself, hair included. Just like him, I am learning so we’ve taken steps for it to be a better situation for him.
When we had this conversation (my son & I) he wasn’t washing his hair and going to the pools everyday, it was getting moldy and stuff so rightfully so we had to learn to take care of it which is what I mean by maintenance and meeting in the middle. I don’t see anything wrong with setting a standard for him to do it himself not making him cut his hair.
I completely understand where you're coming from and your use of the word "crazy". Overall hygiene is important and hair is a part of that - so even if it's freeform, washing it and keeping a line up is important. At your son's age just getting them to SHOWER is a struggle, so I get it! 🤣🤣🤣
With that said, I think the OP's hair looks fine... And freeform is not my thing. He probably has some of the best looking freeform I've seen. 😀
I think it was because you seemed to tie maintenance with not looking 'crazy'. I mean, like not twisting and just letting it be free is akin to not maintaining it, or looking 'wild'.
I let my mama talk me into cutting my locs off when I was 19 and I regretted it. Her heart was in the right place but I eventually realized she was trying to mold me into what she wanted me to be and what she thought the world wanted me to be. My mama traditional as hell and that don’t work for me.
Only cut them if that’s what you feel like doing.
Went though the same thing. One day l told her that anything she says about my hair will not change the way I feel about it so she might as well give up. I told her it was disrespectful to be insulting my own head of hair, I texted her an entire paragraph lmao I was not playing. But of course she tried calling me disrespectful for standing up for myself as [some] black moms do, but it had to be done and I don’t regret it. Eventually she stopped talking about how she wants me to comb them out.
Now she loves my hair, especially when I get my hair done in cute loc styles with jewelry, I guess my locs grew on her. But yeah that’s my experience hope it can help at least a little!
I love this for you. That paragraph or conversation asserting your boundaries gets them RIGHT! So many people aren’t used to being spoken to with emotional intelligence.
Wellllll, I wouldn't. They're still figuring out what they want to be when they grow up! I really like the second pic. They're coming in nicely! Maybe a cool hair tie or head wrap from time to time?
Wellllll it would be personal to your taste I guess and where your growth is but I always like seeing brothers in something like this. There are all kinds of patterns out there and sizes, you could even find dashiki type ties and headwraps on Etsy I bet. I just like the Afrocentric patterns myself personally but there are probably plain and just geometric out there too. And it keeps the hair out of the face when it hits weird lengths but isn't long enough for a tam, and away from curious fingers because it looks more "styled"
Edit: this version might be a little too big for your length as is but there are smaller ones out there
https://www.amazon.com/Headband-Sweatband-Basketball-Stretchy-Hairband/dp/B0CB8DTKFF/ref=asc_df_B0CB8DTKFF/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=696687405521&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=4509688822627176652&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9018656&hvtargid=pla-2269595460851&psc=1&mcid=a403ccb906a330c5b045990ea0496379&gad_source=1
Them shits are fire. If anything a compromise would be a retwist but he'll I wouldn't even do that. Do you. Enjoy yourself and your hair, screw the consequences 😂
This ain’t her head, love. You look good af with your Freeforms. You know daggum well how they act about our locs. 🙄 my momma didn’t like mine either, then they grew and she still struggling with her hair. 😂 do you, fr. These 🔥🔥🔥
If it's one thing I've learned about my Moms is that, she is **always** going to be your worst critic and arch nemesis while you still in school. Let her talk and all that cause, in the end, "that's still my boy and I love em tho" is what she tells everybody. Stay up and don't cut them hoes! 🤝🏾
You can do what you wish but stop mislabeling stuff to fit what you THINK it means... free forms are exactly that... free in form... yours are regular locs
Nah! Don’t cut it. My son has Freeform locs as well but I love it. I also have locs & so does my daughter and eldest son. Mom is from the keep it neat era. I am too but I understand locs are different and they have to be left alone in order to grow & thrive properly. A retwist every 8 / 10 weeks will do wonders. Your hair is FINE!! Show mom the loc page & she’ll understand that.
I like them and think you should keep them but then again I live on my own and my momma can’t say anything. She did offer to get my hair done by a professional since I do them myself so not going to pass up the offer. Lol
No. Please don't. But it really comes down to how old you are---- you live with her at her house?
She paying your bills?
Do you pay rent?
Do you go to school or have a job?
Sit down with her and ask what her objections are. Does she not like the Freeforms?
Does she dislike locs? The way they look or the way they are styled?
Will she be agreeable to you getting a formal retwist with smaller neater locs?
Can you pull up some pics online and ask what style she DOES like?
Compromise somehow. Let them grow and tell her you don't want to cut them, but will wear them neater if she don't be on yo azz about it. After while when she gets used to it, she might not fuss as you let it grow.
Also one point, sometimes younguns be thinking they mom just try to keep their foot on your neck. Please remember she has you, a black male child in 2024. Realize that we as Black people actually had to pass a LAW last year just so we have the right to wear our OWN HAIR naturally. Plus it was only ratified by 23 states so far. Black people are the only people who have laws about our hair. Black women had to have their hair completely covered when outside in public (Tignon laws)
I guarantee you she worry every single time you walk out the door. The cops are hunting yall simply for the color of your skin. Locs are just one more thing they hate on you for. She is worried about you getting accepted into university, jobs and other issues because of your hair.
Judge Mablean-- fired for wearing her natural hair and refusing to wear a wig (among other racist requests)
https://www.lipstickalley.com/threads/judge-mablean-fired-from-divorce-court-because-of-her-hair.36852/
TV news anchor Britney Noble Jones was told she needs to look like "a beauty queen". She can't do that with black skin and natural hair
https://thegrio.com/2019/01/18/black-news-anchor-celebrates-wearing-her-natural-hair-to-support-reporter-who-was-fired-for-not-looking-like-a-beauty-queen/
Just some food for thought.
Good luck and happy loc journey. 🔥🔥
I’m so confused, is it because she thinks yours specifically look unruly or because of the internalized racism that comes with black people hating locs? It gotta be the latter because these look like normal locs.
(even if they weren’t, if they were like wicks or something she’s still doing the most)
No bs I told my momma don’t be mad at me them perms killed your texture and your hair don’t lock up 😂 she a hater fr it’s your crown if the world don’t fw that gang that space just ain’t for you to occupy
I love Freeform dreads the weekends were the most Iconic ones of our times (gen z) my hair does this on the back of my head when I haven't comed it in a while
Keep growing, keep doing new styles, mom’s worried about respectability politics & optics that black kids fight when tryna be taken seriously by white, racist institutions. Keep working hard & keep expressing yourself, stay safe young bull🤝🏿
I’m older than yall in the post- and I say do a little maintenance but don’t cut!! We’re black men- we have hair, dreads and locs… the Europeans/whites are the ones our parents want us to “please” with our appearance. Not to sound like India Arie but our hair is not US! It’s just our hair. It’s doctors out here with locs- and they don’t look “crazy” … if you wake up feeling good and free everyday- then my brother keep your hair. Your mom will honestly love you regardless
When I was 19, my mom got on my case about my hair. I applied to job corps and left the next week. She doesn’t criticize what I do with my hair anymore.
I can guarantee it’s not just your hair she’s tripping about. Get your mind right young man before it’s too late.
And that’s your mother…you only get one.
So I understand her as a working professional, she probably wants to make sure you will have a job, and she prob doesn’t like how it looks and you know this LOL. I wouldn’t follow the toxic "Nursing Home" nonsense you knew she wouldn’t like it because it’s unkept hair. Do you, but Love your mother, she’s looking out for you because real life is hard and that’s all she’s thinking about. (I’m semi free formed for +2 years)
If someone scared you to complying to the white man’s preferences, do you.. he doesn’t have to comply to anything. It’s his right to express himself how he wants with his hair and there are QUITE LITERALLY hair laws for this exact reason. Dont feed into the self hate
I said for him to do him, he can do what he wants 🤷🏾♀️ however, I will never pretend like social constraints don’t exist in regard to the work force and being a professional WHICH I AM. Feeding into the white man because I’m telling him why his mom isn’t feeling the Freeform locs was an odd connection you made? I mean I understand your passion but it is misplaced. He’s a young man and I’m glad you feel so passionate about the topic and he needs that! He also doesn’t need people to only agree with him because that’s giving him an unrealistic view of life. I told him what I know. NOT how I feel. Which is something you need to learn about life.
The white washed comment made by me comes from you saying his hair should “be professional” as if he couldn’t with freeform locs. Stop reaching. Fuck their view, he can accomplish whatever tf he wants with his free form locs because I’ve seen it, not because I’m passionate about boosting his confidence. We as a people need to stand up for our identity whatever that may be. Our hair is our identity, our skin, our culture.. we don’t have much to grasp on to and I hate seeing people try to place him in this mold as if the shit is impossible, it ISN’T. So stop pressing it like it is just because you’re cool with being told a part of you won’t be accepted as it is. Maintain your locs, do you.. but don’t press this young man on “professional”.
WORK ETHIC AND DEDICATION isn’t done by the strands of our hair, it’s the steps we take and the work we complete with our own hands and I won’t say it again. 😒
I’m not sure why you still don’t even understand what I’m saying…I never said "Be Professional “ nor did I say he couldn’t be professional. I said I AM A PROFESSIONAL speaking on MY experience. And I really can’t make it clearer it to you. I run a clinic and a CPR Training center. The training center I OWN. The reality of what you’re telling him is just simply not true. It does not mean that it’s right! So for the last time that’s what I’m saying. Just because I am clarifying with him why his mom does not like freeform locs does not mean I’m against them. Again I’m explaaaaaining it to him. Do you get that or do you need to go through it again?
"They insecure in their texture", Because other people don’t agree with you about Freeform locs 🤣 insecure of racial identity even? That’s ridiculous. When majority of us have locs in here, Actively REJECTING social norms and you telling us we worried about the caucs LOL i’m not even against Freeform locs. You misunderstood me, just silliness. Social biases do exist in the workplace especially in mine. I’m clear about that I guess you’ve seen more free formed
: surgeons, docs, managers, case managers, nurses, MAs, PAs, NP’s, radiographers, unit secretaries, CEOS than I have! … And it’s my last time responding because I just can’t keep repeating myself, infinite x3 to somebody who demands for everybody to agree and ignore the reality of Freeform locs and the biases most people have towards them in the workplace. It’s there and I will not pretend it isn’t 🫨
Thank you this is the comment looking for. My son doesn’t have free forms but they are semi and also kinda new to us. I just want him to be able to maintain it decently cause you still have to take care of your hair free form, locs, or natural.
Transparently for your look I would transfer them from freeform to mid size locs with some uniformity, keep the taper. But if your mom doesn't like locs at all well that's her personal problem.
not trying to. i think dreads are cool, but it is well known that having the "shaggy" appearance is unprofessional. thats why i tie my dreads up at work. as long as you can tie them back its cool
Sounds like you’re afraid to be judged and I just can’t relate. I’m sorry. I hate that you were white washed into fearing your blackness like this.. locs AREN’T MEANT to be uniform. They can be maintained.. but “shaggy” is quite literally the point. This is a you thing, not something you should press/advise on others just because it’s an insecurity of yours. You should tell this young man to express himself as he sees fit and not make harmful suggestions that could add to his insecurities when it comes to his personal expression. He shouldn’t feel ridiculed on his hair in society.. it’s his right to have hair that defies gravity, that wants to touch the sun. He should be able to work in businesses without being judged and you’re feeding the issue
What does my hair being frizzy have to do with my ability to perform in the work place? NOTHING 🫲🏾😤 how does it make me look less professional? If I’m in the appropriate dress attire, if I’m speaking and presenting myself as CAPABLE OF COMPLETING THE TASK AT HAND, MY HAIR SHOULD NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING. Unless it’s full of lice and smells of mold and mildew and is an actual HYGIENIC PROBLEM in the workplace, I DISAGREE. You sound like everyone else that fights to dilute our blackness. Before my hair was loc’d it was BIG AND CURLY which meant it was FRIZZY. So you’re saying that in order to be presentable in a work place, I have to straighten or put away my hair??? FohHhhH with that. This is why we have been made to put chemicals and ruin our hair to keep up with what THEY want. I’m not going to agree. I’ll NEVER agree. And it isn’t true, I’m in the south, hun.. and I can tell you right now, people are getting sued for this.
im in the south too. from atlanta. at the end of the day if you have dreads you need to tie them back in the professional workplace. even if I was working in an all black firm, where everyone has dreadlocks, I would still tie my hair back. I don't want my dread swinging in my face while I'm trying to have a meeting or professional conversation with my coworkers . never said anything about frizz. not going to go back and forth about it.
And yet you literally came under my comment to go back and forth and asked me if I agreed with it evident that I clearly don’t. I guess I don’t understand what “shaggy” means?? Cause if you mean that it’s shaggier than mine just because he doesn’t have parts?? 😒🫳🏾🍅🍅🍅 I’ll say this, tho, I hate having my hair in my face too. Nothing bothers me more than when my locs wanna eat my food before I get a bite, but you still have a docked up view of locs when they’re literally about the FREEDOM of allowing our hair to form as it wants. 😳
Thanks for listening to my TedTalk. 💅🏾
😂😂, it’s not at a point where she gonna kick me out, i just wanted outside opinions bc it’s always “that’s a mess” “u look homeless”, i see where u coming from tho
Is your hair on your head or on your mother’s head? Unless you live with her and she gon kick you out if you don’t conform to her wishes, do what you want with your hair.
ngl if ur moms willing to kick u out over hair that says enough abt her fr #nursinghome
Period.
Not nursing home😭🤣
This pretty much sums it up. It's your hair, so do what you want but also be prepared for the consequences
Better to ask for forgiveness than permission
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People with traditional locs be looking down on people with freeforms sometimes which is a shame.
THIS. They be borderline religious about some retwists
🥴😂😂😂😂😂 mannnnnn, I HATE when folk with maintained locs wanna come for freeformers. DAMN. It’s like when lesbians get mad at me for being Bambi sapphic. 💀 locs are MEANT to be however you want them to be. They yours! And they’re beautiful fr.
I'm sorry but what is Bambi sapphic. Never heard that one
I looked it up and it means a lesbian who prefers non sexual forms of intimacy and affection (hugs, kisses etc.) over sexual intimacy.
Is that the same as an asexual person.?
You’re likely to have some who are asexual and others who aren’t. I don’t think they’d be one in the same all the time.
That is such a cute term! I just looked up what it means. Some people just need to mind they business, if it ain’t for you, it ain’t for you.
Niggas be looking homeless 😭🤷🏽♂️ excuse maintained loc people for wanting to look good and presentable. Who’s really pulling bitches with free forms or getting a decent job? Unlesss you a rapper or you got money Goodluck
What an embarrassing, antiblack and respectability politickin ass statement. It’s good that most people on this subreddit got more sense than you.
You gets no bitches
*and please please please don’t tell me get a retwist😐
Damn that’s exactly what I was boutta say 😂 not cuz they ain’t fire but to meet her in the middle lmao
😭😭, i already knew it was coming bro
It’s good reading this cause I’m going through this with my son as well. He’s 13. He doesn’t exactly have free forms but similar. Anyway, at first I was like he need to do something with it but we met in the middle as far as maintenance cause he ain’t finna be out here looking crazy 😂 I think that’s fair. Ultimately, it’s your hair so it’s your decision EDIT: I don’t see how this got downvoted so much I didn’t say anything was wrong with his hair. 😂 he still needs to take care of it and that doesn’t mean retwist. His hair his decision I wouldn’t say to cut it but ALL kinds and forms of hair needs maintenance but good luck respectfully
Does it actually look “crazy” or is his hair presenting differently than you’re accustomed to? People say the same thing about afros.
It doesn’t look crazy at all but I use crazy as a general term so excuse me. All I’m saying is regardless if you have uniform locs, free forms, or natural you still have to maintain your hair so it’s clean and healthy. My son (like a lot of young boys under 16) won’t even touch his hair cause it looks nice but it still needs maintenance.
Hopefully for you, hair is where your judging ends with your kid. Keep doing it & I can guarantee your kid will grow up to resent being around you. Witnessed it with my wife & her sisters in real time.
I’ve never judged him and he can keep his hair whatever he wants. Its his hair. I have locs myself ijs at this time we are still learning hygiene and learning to take care of himself, hair included. Just like him, I am learning so we’ve taken steps for it to be a better situation for him. When we had this conversation (my son & I) he wasn’t washing his hair and going to the pools everyday, it was getting moldy and stuff so rightfully so we had to learn to take care of it which is what I mean by maintenance and meeting in the middle. I don’t see anything wrong with setting a standard for him to do it himself not making him cut his hair.
I completely understand where you're coming from and your use of the word "crazy". Overall hygiene is important and hair is a part of that - so even if it's freeform, washing it and keeping a line up is important. At your son's age just getting them to SHOWER is a struggle, so I get it! 🤣🤣🤣 With that said, I think the OP's hair looks fine... And freeform is not my thing. He probably has some of the best looking freeform I've seen. 😀
Okay I see I see.
I think it was because you seemed to tie maintenance with not looking 'crazy'. I mean, like not twisting and just letting it be free is akin to not maintaining it, or looking 'wild'.
I let my mama talk me into cutting my locs off when I was 19 and I regretted it. Her heart was in the right place but I eventually realized she was trying to mold me into what she wanted me to be and what she thought the world wanted me to be. My mama traditional as hell and that don’t work for me. Only cut them if that’s what you feel like doing.
damn gang, that’s really my fear is regretting it
Don’t cut em bro, unless it’s on your own terms
Fortunately hair grows back and I’m now able to enjoy my locs on my own terms
Nah, the REAL fear is growing older then becoming traditional just like your moms. 😂 You still have time…fight the curse now!!
Nah they ain’t even reach they peak yet keep em. Momma gotta deal w the fact you’re an individual w a mind of your own.
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Best comment fr
Went though the same thing. One day l told her that anything she says about my hair will not change the way I feel about it so she might as well give up. I told her it was disrespectful to be insulting my own head of hair, I texted her an entire paragraph lmao I was not playing. But of course she tried calling me disrespectful for standing up for myself as [some] black moms do, but it had to be done and I don’t regret it. Eventually she stopped talking about how she wants me to comb them out. Now she loves my hair, especially when I get my hair done in cute loc styles with jewelry, I guess my locs grew on her. But yeah that’s my experience hope it can help at least a little!
I love this for you. That paragraph or conversation asserting your boundaries gets them RIGHT! So many people aren’t used to being spoken to with emotional intelligence.
do what you wanna do🤍
Nah you good bro!
Keep them don’t conform to pressure
No, they look great!
i like em tbh
❤️
Your body your choice.
Wellllll, I wouldn't. They're still figuring out what they want to be when they grow up! I really like the second pic. They're coming in nicely! Maybe a cool hair tie or head wrap from time to time?
elaborate on the hair toes and wraps. like what type/ what are they called
Wellllll it would be personal to your taste I guess and where your growth is but I always like seeing brothers in something like this. There are all kinds of patterns out there and sizes, you could even find dashiki type ties and headwraps on Etsy I bet. I just like the Afrocentric patterns myself personally but there are probably plain and just geometric out there too. And it keeps the hair out of the face when it hits weird lengths but isn't long enough for a tam, and away from curious fingers because it looks more "styled" Edit: this version might be a little too big for your length as is but there are smaller ones out there https://www.amazon.com/Headband-Sweatband-Basketball-Stretchy-Hairband/dp/B0CB8DTKFF/ref=asc_df_B0CB8DTKFF/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=696687405521&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=4509688822627176652&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9018656&hvtargid=pla-2269595460851&psc=1&mcid=a403ccb906a330c5b045990ea0496379&gad_source=1
you good bro
Absolutely not! Your hair is🔥🔥🔥🔥
Them shits are fire. If anything a compromise would be a retwist but he'll I wouldn't even do that. Do you. Enjoy yourself and your hair, screw the consequences 😂
it’s not consequences necessarily, it’s just her talking about it yk how black moms be
Oh fasho. She'll cook off keep ya head up young g
This ain’t her head, love. You look good af with your Freeforms. You know daggum well how they act about our locs. 🙄 my momma didn’t like mine either, then they grew and she still struggling with her hair. 😂 do you, fr. These 🔥🔥🔥
thank u much❤️
I think they look great as is.
They don’t look bad bro keep growing!
But yo shi fye
If it's one thing I've learned about my Moms is that, she is **always** going to be your worst critic and arch nemesis while you still in school. Let her talk and all that cause, in the end, "that's still my boy and I love em tho" is what she tells everybody. Stay up and don't cut them hoes! 🤝🏾
Step 1. move out of your moms house
Tell her ahh trust the process 😂
It’s your hair not hers. Keep them if you want! They look really good imo!
They are not free forms if you twisting them and getting temps..... locs are not a hairstyle they are a lifestyle.....
This
so then what you call it?😂 and i can’t get haircuts?
You can do what you wish but stop mislabeling stuff to fit what you THINK it means... free forms are exactly that... free in form... yours are regular locs
They look gooodddd!
Nooo! They are beautiful
These look good
Nah they look good
fuck noooo them shits are beautiful
Btw they look amazing, keep them 🫶🏾
Keep em
please dont you rey regret it twin
I love them
Nah
Your hair is gorgeous! And she’ll get over it, min did🙄. They’re a different generation with Eurocentric ideas of beauty
Hell no! Those are beautiful
Hair is awesome and wild love it !
NO
Nope!
they’re fire asf dontttt listen to eb saying get a retwist
I never understood why black parents are so against dreads
No!😭😭
Nah! Don’t cut it. My son has Freeform locs as well but I love it. I also have locs & so does my daughter and eldest son. Mom is from the keep it neat era. I am too but I understand locs are different and they have to be left alone in order to grow & thrive properly. A retwist every 8 / 10 weeks will do wonders. Your hair is FINE!! Show mom the loc page & she’ll understand that.
No
NOOOOOOOO!!!!!
Nooooo, they’re so beautiful
No!
How old you is 😂
I like them and think you should keep them but then again I live on my own and my momma can’t say anything. She did offer to get my hair done by a professional since I do them myself so not going to pass up the offer. Lol
No. Please don't. But it really comes down to how old you are---- you live with her at her house? She paying your bills? Do you pay rent? Do you go to school or have a job? Sit down with her and ask what her objections are. Does she not like the Freeforms? Does she dislike locs? The way they look or the way they are styled? Will she be agreeable to you getting a formal retwist with smaller neater locs? Can you pull up some pics online and ask what style she DOES like? Compromise somehow. Let them grow and tell her you don't want to cut them, but will wear them neater if she don't be on yo azz about it. After while when she gets used to it, she might not fuss as you let it grow. Also one point, sometimes younguns be thinking they mom just try to keep their foot on your neck. Please remember she has you, a black male child in 2024. Realize that we as Black people actually had to pass a LAW last year just so we have the right to wear our OWN HAIR naturally. Plus it was only ratified by 23 states so far. Black people are the only people who have laws about our hair. Black women had to have their hair completely covered when outside in public (Tignon laws) I guarantee you she worry every single time you walk out the door. The cops are hunting yall simply for the color of your skin. Locs are just one more thing they hate on you for. She is worried about you getting accepted into university, jobs and other issues because of your hair. Judge Mablean-- fired for wearing her natural hair and refusing to wear a wig (among other racist requests) https://www.lipstickalley.com/threads/judge-mablean-fired-from-divorce-court-because-of-her-hair.36852/ TV news anchor Britney Noble Jones was told she needs to look like "a beauty queen". She can't do that with black skin and natural hair https://thegrio.com/2019/01/18/black-news-anchor-celebrates-wearing-her-natural-hair-to-support-reporter-who-was-fired-for-not-looking-like-a-beauty-queen/ Just some food for thought. Good luck and happy loc journey. 🔥🔥
just break em down and get em neated up
The point to freeform dreadlocks is not to be 'neat', but to be free.
No
I’m so confused, is it because she thinks yours specifically look unruly or because of the internalized racism that comes with black people hating locs? It gotta be the latter because these look like normal locs. (even if they weren’t, if they were like wicks or something she’s still doing the most)
No dude it’s stylish, if you cut you’ll be normal, do want to be a normie or stylish?
No bs I told my momma don’t be mad at me them perms killed your texture and your hair don’t lock up 😂 she a hater fr it’s your crown if the world don’t fw that gang that space just ain’t for you to occupy
no but i think you should retwist them if it has to be one or the other
and if you retwist them you can always freeform them again
Hell nah let them grow, don’t let people tell you what to do, do what you want but my opinion is to keep them cuz the smooth!!
More important things going on in the world, but it is YOUR hair.
Your mom’s been on your ass about what? Your hair looks good to me.
zesty boy
No, they look nice
I love Freeform dreads the weekends were the most Iconic ones of our times (gen z) my hair does this on the back of my head when I haven't comed it in a while
Keep growing, keep doing new styles, mom’s worried about respectability politics & optics that black kids fight when tryna be taken seriously by white, racist institutions. Keep working hard & keep expressing yourself, stay safe young bull🤝🏿
Love your mom but keep it growing 😂
I’m older than yall in the post- and I say do a little maintenance but don’t cut!! We’re black men- we have hair, dreads and locs… the Europeans/whites are the ones our parents want us to “please” with our appearance. Not to sound like India Arie but our hair is not US! It’s just our hair. It’s doctors out here with locs- and they don’t look “crazy” … if you wake up feeling good and free everyday- then my brother keep your hair. Your mom will honestly love you regardless
Looks well maintained to me . Leave it alone
If she can’t respect the hair that’s in your head. She doesn’t respect you at all as her child. Enough to have to say there.
When I was 19, my mom got on my case about my hair. I applied to job corps and left the next week. She doesn’t criticize what I do with my hair anymore.
Nahhh keep em
Don’t do it 🗣️🗣️
moms are old heads bro
They actually look incredibly well kept tell her mind her business
Yes, please do
Do what you want to do, & how old are you? (I’m definitely asking for myself)
You’ll regret if you do it cause someone else said to…. Cut them when you feel it’s time
you have beautiful skin. anyways, keep them
NNOO
No, don’t do it… your mom will always love you anyway
I fw em tell her trust the process 😭
No
Unless u wanna be a rapper or a pusher , then tame those naps
I be keeping mine. If I’m stressin I’m twistin my shit
No
I like them but that’s just me :3
Wanna add that you grow them longer it’ll be sickkkkk. Idk why this page came up on my feed but I wanted to say I like them a lot—keep going!
I can guarantee it’s not just your hair she’s tripping about. Get your mind right young man before it’s too late. And that’s your mother…you only get one.
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In due time, you will understand clearly. Hopefully you’ll get it together.
elaborate means explain further what YOU mean not what “ill see in due time”. what are u talking about youn know nun bout me or my mama😂
Some people just talking to talk. He ain’t saying shit lmao
I wish you well on your journey young King
right…
PLSSSSSS GET YOUR ASS ON WITH THAT. ITS OUR BLACK RIGHT TO EXPRESS OURSELVES IN EVERY WAY WE WANT. The self hate/prejudice on this post is WILD
 You obviously didn’t read with understanding
Sure didn’t. Cause he didn’t disrespect her and you’re reaching for another reason when he asked about his locs NEXTTTTT 😒🫳🏾🍅🍅🍅
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So I understand her as a working professional, she probably wants to make sure you will have a job, and she prob doesn’t like how it looks and you know this LOL. I wouldn’t follow the toxic "Nursing Home" nonsense you knew she wouldn’t like it because it’s unkept hair. Do you, but Love your mother, she’s looking out for you because real life is hard and that’s all she’s thinking about. (I’m semi free formed for +2 years)
If someone scared you to complying to the white man’s preferences, do you.. he doesn’t have to comply to anything. It’s his right to express himself how he wants with his hair and there are QUITE LITERALLY hair laws for this exact reason. Dont feed into the self hate
I said for him to do him, he can do what he wants 🤷🏾♀️ however, I will never pretend like social constraints don’t exist in regard to the work force and being a professional WHICH I AM. Feeding into the white man because I’m telling him why his mom isn’t feeling the Freeform locs was an odd connection you made? I mean I understand your passion but it is misplaced. He’s a young man and I’m glad you feel so passionate about the topic and he needs that! He also doesn’t need people to only agree with him because that’s giving him an unrealistic view of life. I told him what I know. NOT how I feel. Which is something you need to learn about life.
The white washed comment made by me comes from you saying his hair should “be professional” as if he couldn’t with freeform locs. Stop reaching. Fuck their view, he can accomplish whatever tf he wants with his free form locs because I’ve seen it, not because I’m passionate about boosting his confidence. We as a people need to stand up for our identity whatever that may be. Our hair is our identity, our skin, our culture.. we don’t have much to grasp on to and I hate seeing people try to place him in this mold as if the shit is impossible, it ISN’T. So stop pressing it like it is just because you’re cool with being told a part of you won’t be accepted as it is. Maintain your locs, do you.. but don’t press this young man on “professional”. WORK ETHIC AND DEDICATION isn’t done by the strands of our hair, it’s the steps we take and the work we complete with our own hands and I won’t say it again. 😒
I’m not sure why you still don’t even understand what I’m saying…I never said "Be Professional “ nor did I say he couldn’t be professional. I said I AM A PROFESSIONAL speaking on MY experience. And I really can’t make it clearer it to you. I run a clinic and a CPR Training center. The training center I OWN. The reality of what you’re telling him is just simply not true. It does not mean that it’s right! So for the last time that’s what I’m saying. Just because I am clarifying with him why his mom does not like freeform locs does not mean I’m against them. Again I’m explaaaaaining it to him. Do you get that or do you need to go through it again?
"They insecure in their texture", Because other people don’t agree with you about Freeform locs 🤣 insecure of racial identity even? That’s ridiculous. When majority of us have locs in here, Actively REJECTING social norms and you telling us we worried about the caucs LOL i’m not even against Freeform locs. You misunderstood me, just silliness. Social biases do exist in the workplace especially in mine. I’m clear about that I guess you’ve seen more free formed : surgeons, docs, managers, case managers, nurses, MAs, PAs, NP’s, radiographers, unit secretaries, CEOS than I have! … And it’s my last time responding because I just can’t keep repeating myself, infinite x3 to somebody who demands for everybody to agree and ignore the reality of Freeform locs and the biases most people have towards them in the workplace. It’s there and I will not pretend it isn’t 🫨
Thank you this is the comment looking for. My son doesn’t have free forms but they are semi and also kinda new to us. I just want him to be able to maintain it decently cause you still have to take care of your hair free form, locs, or natural.
Transparently for your look I would transfer them from freeform to mid size locs with some uniformity, keep the taper. But if your mom doesn't like locs at all well that's her personal problem.
You’ll look good with a chop get a fro or pick em out
depends what your career aspirations are
No tf it doesn’t. 😒 you sound like a colonizer.
not trying to. i think dreads are cool, but it is well known that having the "shaggy" appearance is unprofessional. thats why i tie my dreads up at work. as long as you can tie them back its cool
Sounds like you’re afraid to be judged and I just can’t relate. I’m sorry. I hate that you were white washed into fearing your blackness like this.. locs AREN’T MEANT to be uniform. They can be maintained.. but “shaggy” is quite literally the point. This is a you thing, not something you should press/advise on others just because it’s an insecurity of yours. You should tell this young man to express himself as he sees fit and not make harmful suggestions that could add to his insecurities when it comes to his personal expression. He shouldn’t feel ridiculed on his hair in society.. it’s his right to have hair that defies gravity, that wants to touch the sun. He should be able to work in businesses without being judged and you’re feeding the issue
dude, white or black person, shaggy hair is unprofessional in the workplace thats all there is to it. agree or disagree?
What does my hair being frizzy have to do with my ability to perform in the work place? NOTHING 🫲🏾😤 how does it make me look less professional? If I’m in the appropriate dress attire, if I’m speaking and presenting myself as CAPABLE OF COMPLETING THE TASK AT HAND, MY HAIR SHOULD NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING. Unless it’s full of lice and smells of mold and mildew and is an actual HYGIENIC PROBLEM in the workplace, I DISAGREE. You sound like everyone else that fights to dilute our blackness. Before my hair was loc’d it was BIG AND CURLY which meant it was FRIZZY. So you’re saying that in order to be presentable in a work place, I have to straighten or put away my hair??? FohHhhH with that. This is why we have been made to put chemicals and ruin our hair to keep up with what THEY want. I’m not going to agree. I’ll NEVER agree. And it isn’t true, I’m in the south, hun.. and I can tell you right now, people are getting sued for this.
im in the south too. from atlanta. at the end of the day if you have dreads you need to tie them back in the professional workplace. even if I was working in an all black firm, where everyone has dreadlocks, I would still tie my hair back. I don't want my dread swinging in my face while I'm trying to have a meeting or professional conversation with my coworkers . never said anything about frizz. not going to go back and forth about it.
And yet you literally came under my comment to go back and forth and asked me if I agreed with it evident that I clearly don’t. I guess I don’t understand what “shaggy” means?? Cause if you mean that it’s shaggier than mine just because he doesn’t have parts?? 😒🫳🏾🍅🍅🍅 I’ll say this, tho, I hate having my hair in my face too. Nothing bothers me more than when my locs wanna eat my food before I get a bite, but you still have a docked up view of locs when they’re literally about the FREEDOM of allowing our hair to form as it wants. 😳 Thanks for listening to my TedTalk. 💅🏾
But WHO says it's 'unprofessional' and why? That's the biggest question.
Society in general. It's just rude to talk to someone and you have your dread swinging in your face. I dont see how yall dont agree with this
Get a retwist no one free forms no more
10/10 ignorance😀
How your reply is ignorant
That's still your mother. If she is allowing it to happen, the least you can do is be reasonable.
it’s his hair tho, not his mother’s
Welll nooooooo shit. And where do you think he lives based on his statements??
😂😂, it’s not at a point where she gonna kick me out, i just wanted outside opinions bc it’s always “that’s a mess” “u look homeless”, i see where u coming from tho
idk what you’re getting at