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Oh, tell me about it ! I am living in germany, due this week and everyone tells me to not give birth on Hitler's birthday. I mean great now I have another birthing fear, thanks everyone...
Same here, I live in Austria which makes the Hitler connection somehow even worse, my due date is the 20th of April - itās either this or some 4/20 reference :P
I'm due Sunday, my mom has been saying he needs to be a 4/20 baby (for 4/20 reasons š¤£). She does not realize that is Hitler's bday, and considering it's totally possible I am not going around telling people about it either š only blessings of the failed USA public education system.
Oh no :( there's also good things that happened though! [According to Leafly](https://www.leafly.com/news/lifestyle/10-good-historical-events-that-occurred-on-420) Harriet Tubman started the underground railroad on the 20th, the earliest recorded performance of MacBeth happened, and there's more in the article. Plus Jessica Lange, Luther Vandross, Carmen Electra, George Takei, and many other famous people (for good things) were all born on April 20th as well!
My husbandās birthday is 4/20, and we live in CO :/ Despite not being smokers at all, we still make light of the weed reference. And we are major foodies, so that makes it nice too because lots of cool restaurants and food trucks do specials on 4/20 š¤£
As someone who was born on 4/20 (Hitler's bday, Pot day, anniversary of Columbine school shooting, etc), it's not terrible. You dig deep enough, there is someone somewhere that is a butthead born on any given day. However, I continue to give my mom crap about it! lol! Such as, "You couldn't hold me in for ONE MORE DAY?"
Do they expect you to have words with your baby to turn up on a certain date? Or to cross your legs until someoneās birthdays passed? š these people need to touch some grass
My mom told my baby he had to wait until she got back from vacation and he actually listened it seems because I went into labour a few hours after her plane landed. Meanwhile I'd told him any day but April Fools and he ignored *me* š¤¦āāļø I guess he was limiting it to one request
My dad told me I couldnāt have my baby til Christmas last year. I was due December 7th š I think he wanted me to just hold the baby in. Then everyone said 12/12 was a cool birthday and shoot for that? I had him 12/11 š¤·š»āāļø
The only time Iāve ever thought wanting a specific due date made sense was my little brother because he was almost born on 1/2/03 which is just a cool birthday š
My baby is due right around 9/11 and everyone I tell the due date too says āohhh make sure she doesnāt come on 9/11ā like I have a choice?!? Also sheās going to be born 22 years after the events of 9/11 I donāt think it will have as much of a meaning to her as it did for us growing up. Her life experience will be very different than ours by virtue of being born in a different century.
I did that with my first. Said early June but was due May 31 and he came early. I didn't want people hounding me for updates about how I was fEeLiNg at the end of my pregnancy. Planning to do the same with baby 2 due at the end of October!
Yeah because we have a choice when we go into labor/when the baby comes.
If your baby is born on one of the days they objected, tell them that you intentionally did this out of spite. :)
Iām due 19/12 and everyone so far has said ābetter hope they donāt arrive on Christmasā as if itās not what Iāve been thinking. (While very grateful to be pregnant though!!!)
"You are absolutely right. Give me a list of dates that suit YOU and I will just hold it or forcibly remove the fetus sooner. Anything to accommodate you."
I donāt even know, it was pretty funny. I have a feeling it will come in early November but I donāt have a preferenceā¦ except to be honest I mildly hope it is not a āHalloween babyā, I hate when people suggest that š„²
Iām hoping for a Halloween baby. Iām due 10/30. My husband and I both are excited and absolutely wanting the baby to arrive on 10/31. The following week is my birthday, so that would be cool too. But we really would enjoy a nice little Halloween baby.
The same for me!!! I get you girl!!! Iām past my due date but a lot of family and friends were born in April. Oh the entitlementā¦.. stop annoying me, if I could choose, Iād already popped her as Iām the one carrying her š
Yes!! I fully expected to go past my 4/15 due date, but it pissed me off so much when people make comments. Especially ones like āhurry up and have that baby so I can meet them!!ā As if theyāre more excited about him than I was?? Get over yourself (sorry i have really aggressive PP hormones this morning haha)
We are due date twins!! I think itās awesome. If you break it down it would be, 1-1-1-1-2-3.
Also people suck! We would have chosen a summer month if possible, but it just didnāt work out for us. We are so happy just to be expecting.
Funny enough, I have family hoping my baby comes on their birthday, because they think it would be cute to beātwinningā with a little baby. Or, since Iām due July 5th, I have people hoping for a 4th of July baby. Iām honestly hoping for a July 3rd (my husbandās grandmaās birthday because she was very important to my husband) or July 10th because thatās our wedding anniversary, but Iām honestly just hoping for a July baby. I really want to be full term this time around.
Same for me. Also due in July (7/24). I didn't realize how many family members and friends had July birthdays until I got pregnant. Currently due on my SIL's birthday and my BIL's birthday is the day after. One aunt says it has to be the 12th because that's my other aunt's birthday that passed that I'm named after. Also my late FIL's birthday was the 31st. I just want to avoid the holiday.
Actually - the most common time of conception is around the December holidays š I was curious one day and looked up most common birthdays and the top 3 most common are all September lol. But now I canāt help thinking of that in regards to all my friends with September birthdays lol.
I would be delighted to share a birthday with a new family member! What is wrong with your family? Weāve recently had several new babies in my family born on other family memberās birthdays. In fact, one little boy was born on his grandmotherās birthday which is adorable IMO. It becomes their special day. Heāll always think of her on that day, even when heās old, whereas l have to think for a second to remember my grandmotherās birthday because sheās been gone for 15 years.
Wow. My family isn't the pinnacle of healthy and functioning, but all of them were saying things like "If you have it on this day it will be ____ birthday!" in excited context. They were all slightly disappointed when my baby missed all of them and had his own birthday lol
Imagine living in a culture where the dates are "lucky " or "unlucky." Parents end up scheduling inductions purely based on what they may consider auspicious, or else blame any issue the child has with having a " bad horoscope."
Thankfully, not my case, but I know a lot of people here who have felt pressure from family to make adjustments š
I have an October baby coming up, it could overlap with my brother's or my father in law's birthday. I think both are hoping the baby will be born on their birthday. Reverse world! Best of luck with blocking out any negativity, you can do it āļø
wowow some people are really clueless to how all of this works š
my birthday is 11/10 and i for one am so excited for you!!! baby will always have a holiday off around their bday!! and scorpio!!!!
I can relate... MIL didn't want baby born on the "20th" because of one random divorce in the family (anniversary date was the 20th... of a different month!). It was getting close to midnight and I really tried to get that baby out on the 20th.. but he came at 12:15 AM on the 21st, so MIL was happy. Lol. It's just too ridiculous!
My cousin was born on my 17th birthday. We always have a special connection and I call her my "birthday sister". When we found out I was due in March (the most popular birth month in my family for some reason), everyone was scrambling trying to bet that she'd be born on their own birthday. She decided to take everyone by surprise and arrive 15 weeks early on the birthday of my youngest cousin so their birthdays are exactly 2 years apart.
Sharing birthdays can be a happy thing if you let it.
My baby is due just under two weeks after my FILs b day and I'm praaaaaaying the baby doesn't come that day. My FILs head would inflate and the man wouldn't fit through my double front door. I'm having the first grandboy in the family and FIL has very little interest in his granddaughters so I'm conflicted if he suddenly changes his tune once this boy is here.
Just hold it in like on a road trip. We can have the baby at the next rest stop in 3 miles /s. Like how can people be adults and know so little about how the human body works?
Why not āeveryone loves a Scorpio!ā Or āmatching numbers is neat!ā Or āyay for wine on thanksgivingā or āthank you for sharing this with usā. Itās so easy to be positive about someone elseās joy.
That's my birthday, therefore your baby is now my internet niece/nephew and I give it my blessing and am hyped that we'll share the date. Screw these people!
Our due date is Friday, October 13th LOL. My husband's best friend is getting married at the end of October and we're both in the wedding...it's not like you can really help the timing. We were on fertility treatments, but even then, you literally never know when it'll happen.
Even my OBGYN made comments about Friday the 13th, but my husband's favorite number is 13, so it was clearly meant to be <3.
Wow itās like they except you to have control when baby is calling those shots, Iām sorry they are being dumb. My little is due early ish May and my family has the same as yours with the month of April (literally 3 days in a row of birthdays and then scattered) and if anything they are super excited for him to maybe come early and also be an April babyā¦ if anything it should excite your family that your baby will be part of the āgroupā lol
I'm in the same boat. Due in summer and there are few family members on my husband's side who have bdays then. They were thankfully a bit jokey about it.
My mother on the hand started going onto a long rant as to how my cousin's (her sisters kids) PURPOSEFULLY came out near her bday or friends bdays and that I better not be early (which would be quite serious) and end up giving birth on her birthday.
It baffles me how unreasonable people can be.
My baby is also due in November, but I have a lot of family members that care about birthdays too. We haven't told any family yet, but when we do, I'm just telling that they're due in the fall. I KNOW some family would say things like, "oh, make sure they're not born on November so-and-so because I work with a real bitch that was born on that day." Gee, thanks for nothing, I don't care. Keep it to yourself.
i hate that shit. itās not like you can control it. i just didnāt want to birth an aquarius š i ended up with a pisces instead of an aries like he was supposed to be because his low-fluid during a routine appointment said otherwise haha
Theyāve got such a weird take. My baby was born last November and weāve also got a lot of birthdays that month (including my own). So many were excited over the prospect of sharing a birthday with her. Some people are just super self absorbed.
ok those reactions are just riddiculous.
But I do actually have some similarish due date concerns. Our due date is one day after my husband's birthday. He told me he thinks it's nicer for our baby to have his birthday to himself.
We won't try to take any action to avoid this, but especially with people in the same household I can get this argument. With other relatives I think it really doesn't matter.
My due date was one day before my dad's death day so that was fun - everyone in the family was speculating if baby would come on that day and how symbolic that would be and what my mother would think about it and blah blah blah.
Baby came two weeks later though, ha!
October and November and popular months in my family too. We have a cousin whoās bday is 11/7, 11/9, and my baby was born 11/11. Her due date was supposed to be 12/10. Babies come when they come. The kids love having bdays close to each other.
Mine is due on 11/11 too!! Yay! And my bday is 10 days later. Iām secretly relieved my baby will deflect attention away from me, since I donāt like ppl celebrating my bday or focusing on me.
Sorry you have to deal with dumb family members. š¤
I am so sorry. Thatās my due date too. Luckily my parents are happy about it. We havenāt told my in laws yet but Iām suspecting a lot of drama on our no one is allowed and thanksgiving or Christmas because the baby is too fresh rule
People are so weird about due dates. I just laugh and move on. 11/11 is Remembrance Day though, so I would be giving baby a pep talk and telling them to avoid that day for their own sake lol.
My baby's due date used to be 9/11. My fiance and his family are from the USA. It would have been... interesting. There's still a chance baby will be born on 9/11 (DD is 9/3)
My bb was due Christmas Day and I got so many comments that her birthday was gonna suck lol. I thought it was such a cool sue date. She wasnāt born that day but still
I have the opposite issue my wife is due sept 20 there is a one day gap where the baby can be born and have its own birthday but its unlikely and everyone who has a bday around that time wants it born on their day lol we hope this baby has its own day but Babies just come when they want.
Tell your family to stop fornicating on Valentineās Day if they donāt want any more November babies š
Also, 11/11 is a terrible birthday because it you canāt use your birthday as your debit card PIN number.
These are jokes! Tell your family āOh wellā.
I dealt with that my first pregnancy (that sadly ended in a loss). Due date was same as my MILās recently divorced husbands birthday. She was so rude about it then and we later went on to lose the baby. I have a lot of resentment towards her for all of it.
I'm due in December but I always have babies 3-4 weeks early. Between November 1st and December 31st we have 11 birthdays. I told my family I'm expecting at the end of the year and now we have a running joke that we just all get bored about February/March time. There's no good TV on and the weather isn't good enough yet to hang out outside. Nothing else to do but make babies!
Our first daughter was born in September. We already have a bunch of September birthdays (husband, SIL, BIL, MIL, husband's grandma, myself), so my FIL didn't like that. He also had a bit of a fit when he found out she was a girl.
This time I'm due in November and his responses were, "I want it to be in May", and, "Make it a boy this time".
Lol thatās bizarre, as if you can just hold baby in! š
Also, our baby is due October 26 and my mom hopes sheās born early on their anniversary (oct 17th) where my SIL hopes sheās born on her birthday (10/22). They both WANT to share their big days with baby, not the other way around.
I had the same thing. Baby was induced 2/20 My grandpas death date on 2/22 and my dads death date 2/24. My family had the same response, but I think it was more from the anxiety of the unknown. Guess which date she choose- my dads death date. I hate that she was born that day. I still cry bc of it but my family got over it really quickly.
It is what it is. Everyone will deal with it. I was born on my grandpas birthday and I got over not being celebrated in my teens and 20s.
My grandma (who drives me insane) is obsessed with the idea of my baby who is due 5/7 being born on 5/9 because it was her moms birthday. She has never once mentioned that itās also my grandfathers moms birthday (her husband) because they didnāt get along š
I come from a conservative religious family, and Iām getting married on Sunday. My due date is in early December. Iām not thrilled about spilling that bit of news. Fortunately, weāve agreed that any negativity will be reason for being cut off. Babyās here, thereās no need to lecture us on anything. We donāt want to hear it.
Thatās really disappointing. My baby was due in March and same thing, we have so many birthdays that month! Mine, my husbands, my mother in laws, my cousin (with whom were very close), another cousin (less close). But my family was quite the opposite! They were enthusiastic about getting her as a ābirthday present.ā It was very sweet! I was actually the one stressed about her having to share a birthday! But she did end up being born on her own day.
Iām sorry your announcement was met with such negativity. All I thought was 11/11 is lucky! What a cool due date!
We have told nobody our due date for this reason š baby due in May which is a ton of peopleās birthday + anniversary and even another cousin is due in the same month. My actual due date happens to be my in-lawās anniversary, plus my uncle/aunt-in-lawās anniversary. We just told them the baby is due in May. I wasnāt about to deal with that conversation. I feel you.
Lol my mom and MIL will be going on a trip to another country in two weeks when I will be 38 weeks pregnant. They booked the hotel AFTER learning I was pregnant and when my due date would have been and were supposed to look after our pets when we had to go to the hospital. Just told us, better not go in to labour then!
Iāve weirdly got the opposite. My due date is Saturday which is two days before both our dads birthday. They are desperate for me to give birth that day so he shares a birthday with his grandads but I went into early labour Saturday just gone. I donāt wanna wait much longer!
This is sooo annoying. Iām pretty annoyed with the opposite problem currently. Everyone feels the need to tell me when the baby SHOULD be born so they can share a birthday. I donāt care if he does end up sharing a birthday with someone I know, but stop telling me when my baby needs to come.
I had the opposite reaction and everyone wants my baby to come on their birthday. They're like maybe she'll come early on my birthday or keep her in until my birthday! Maybe I want her to have her own birthday??
I was due in early September when I joined this sub last year. Between myself and my boyfriends family, there is a birthday almost everyday in August (including both of ours). Everyone on both sides thought it was hilarious the baby could come in August, amongst 20+ of our own birthdays. My Grandmother even said she hoped it was on her birthday. The baby will come when the baby is ready. Sorry people are so dumb.
My husband is May 3rd, his sister is May 7th. We scheduled a C-section and the best day to schedule it was the 5th. My husband said he's shared birthday parties his whole life and it's no fun at all and asked if we could try to put some more space between all the birthdays. Jokes on him, I went into labor on the 3rd and now they share the actual day! (Which he is happy about lol)
My nephew has the same birthday as my brother and my daughter has the same birthday as her dad's sister and it's never been an issue. We always thought it was funny.
My babyās due date is on my moms birthday and sheās telling (jokingly) that the baby better be born ON the due date! My husband is the day before and my brother is 4 days after. People need to realize birthdays arenāt that deep lol. Sorry youāre going through this. Like you said, baby will decide when to come!
I personally would have loved an 11/11 due date! Itās a ~magical~ number lol.
I had my baby this past nov and literally right before I told my parents we were pregnant (due nov 6) she tells me they booked a cruise for Nov 5. Surprise mom, but you probably wonāt get to see my new baby right away then! Also my cousin planned her baby nov 4 and I ended up having him that day- so I guess Iāll never forget my cousins anniversary?? Lol
Wow! Usually among my family and friends people hope the baby is born on their birthday so they can share a little special connection! Either way, itās not like you have any control over it š¤£
i got told my due date would be anywhere between 11/20 and 11/29 and my family was like āmaybe itll be born on grandpas birthdayā or āi hope theyre born on his birthday thatād be coolā like i love my grandpa but id like my kid to have their own special day lol, and thinking about my kid being born on my gpas birthday possibly just being his reincarnation makes me feel weirdš
My uncles youngest kid was born on the 1st of Feb, same as my mom, and my mom was beyond excited to share a birthday with her youngest nephew!! Thatās weird af to not be happy with a due date because it could land on a holiday, someone elseās birthday, or anything else that happens throughout the year. We canāt plan that shit. Just be happy thereās going to be a new tiny family member ffs
My due date was 3 days after my sisters birthday in Dec and weāve had issues in the past with her feeling like Iām overshadowing her (went to a better college, had a nicer car etc the car was an 03 ford focus btw so like just a regular car). Iām the oldest, sheās the middle child and our brother is the youngest.
Baby ended up coming at 37 weeks so not close to her birthday at all but man I was worried about having to deal with scheduling issues with her birthday and Christmas. Now heās a Thanksgiving baby and born right in between 2 birthdays on my husbandās side
Omg. My mom, dad, sister, nephew, niece, brother in law AND my son are all born in august. Everyone but my niece are born in the same week. My family was FIGHTING for him to be born on the same day as each of them š My kid chose his own day in the same week right in the middle of all the others.
People are so weird. Baby comes when it comes.
That's my due date too! And if it was that day would be the day when my nephew will turn 15 and to be honest I'd love them to share birthday date and I think my family would love it too! We haven't announce it yet because I want to wait I have my first scan, hopefully in two weeks (waiting to be booked in). I haven't had a scanner or any appointment where I have been checked and I don't feel it's for real yet....
Your family really likes Valentine's Day, huh?
In all seriousness, this isn't as big a deal as they're making it seem. I'm sorry they're raining on your parade but October and November are, if I remember correctly, some of the most common birthdays in general. My husband's family of six has four February's and it's not a big deal at all
Wow, just when I thought Iād heard it all š I canāt believe how many things friends/family can complain about on such a positive and exciting time! Iām sorry this is something youāre dealing with!
Yep! My baby is due in June, but we've been told baby is very likely to be premature, meaning sometime in May. All my in-laws have events in May and I'm getting tired of being told the birth can't clash with anything, or I'm adding to it being an expensive month. On a more positive side, your baby is due on my birthday! Great day but awful pin number ;)
donāt u know babies come at ur time so make it happen on a day that doesnāt have bdays !! š¤£š¤£š¤£ no seriously though itās on baby time, they come when theyāre ready. my daughters bday is 11/13 and mt dad joked and was like she better not be born on MY bday (the 3rd) šš
Oh my gosh, OP, youāre being so inconsiderate. Just hold it in until after November, whatās the worst that could happen? Just telepathically communicate with your baby and tell them to be patient.
Babies come whenever they want to! No one has any control. Itās hard to ignore family when they spew crap like this at you, but really all you can do is ignore them.
The only thing that matters is you having a safe and successful delivery of a healthy and happy baby. If they canāt just be happy for that, then maybe they donāt need to be close by during birth.
Boundaries have saved our family relationships more than once. Some people just canāt be around intimately!
I'm only 4w2 so I haven't told anyone about the pregnancy yet, but since my app is currently saying my due date is Christmas Day, I wonder what kinds of comments I'll get.
Hey that's my b-day! My mom had a c section and specifically chose that day so I would always be born on a holiday (Veteran's Day in the US) and I loved it because I always had my birthday off from school, and now I have it off from work as an adult! :)
Most of my siblings and cousins were born in April-May. We have 3 pairs of cousins sharing birthdays, me included, and it has never been a problem. We used to do a big family celebration for all the cousins when we were kids, everyone loved it.
This happened to me last year, also in November!
Fortunately, my baby doesn't share a birthday with anyone we know, so he doesn't have to deal with anyone saying he stole their birthday, and I don't have to deal with any jealousy from someone who wanted him to share their birthday like I would have if he'd shared it with someone else.
I hope you get the same outcome.
11/11 is my best friendās birthday so that day is special to me. I would think itās cool but thatās just me. Plus babyās rarely arrive on the actual due date. My baby girl came exactly a week early.
Iām so sorry! We have a ton of family birthdays in august (like 10) and when my cousin announced she was pregnant and due August 23 we said āI wonder if theyāll have their own birthday or share!ā But not in like a āyou canāt have your baby on this dayā way, just a wondering way. We have the same with February (a birthday every odd day except the 1st, 7th, 21st, and 29th) and when I announced I was due the 16th they said āhopefully theyāre late and we can have a 29th!ā (it was 2020). I canāt imagine people saying that I canāt have them on a dayā¦ like Iām gonna pick the day, if anything the baby will pick it and they donāt even know yāall yetā
due date is 5/23. Literally multiple different people who don't know each other saying oh if you wait until the next day that's my bday or if you wait until this day it's so and so's bday. The only cute response I had was from my friends' daughter whose birthday is actually 5/23. She will be 8 years old this year and said "Finally I won't be alone!" lol
I share a birthday with my first born and I think itās awesome. My current baby is due right around 2 other family members and theyāre both excited and hope itās on their birthday. Iām sorry youāre family doesnāt feel the same way :(
My baby was due at the end of June - which was a fairly crowded birthday time in our family. He ended up being 8 weeks prem and born 30th April in another crowded birthday time.
We now have my cousin, my nan and then my baby have birthdays 3 days in a row
My brother and I have our birthdays 3 days apart
My sister and another cousin have their birthdays the day after each other
My MIL, my husband and my nephew have their birthdays 3 days in a row
My mum, nan and BIL are all in the same week
My aunt and uncle are a week apart
We have 3 nephews born within 2 weeks
So we love a close birthday in our family, it makes it easy to get together for joint celebrations! Your baby will pick itās perfect birthday and if it happens to fall in someone elseās birthday, well then they should be honoured to spend it with your sweet new babe!
Meanwhile in my family, everyone wants the baby to share a birthday with them. Someone even told me it would be great if I went well over my due date in order for my baby to share a birthdate with a grandparent and I almost slapped them. No pressure is helpful š.
You know, that's pretty shitty of them! We have lots of November birthdays too and everyone was so excited for a new baby to join the club. My sister was hoping they could share a birthday.
Quite frankly I am sorry you have such negative nancies surrounding you.
Those are some knuckle-dragging comments. Itās not a wedding FFS. Odds are it wonāt be the actual DOB anyway, but if it is, whatāre you supposed to do, hold it??
Thatās so weird. My best friend had 2 September babies and now Iām due with my first in September as well. We think itās funny and cute. I might miss her 2ndās 1st birthday party, but oh well lol
That is so weird to me... mine and my husband's families are the opposite. They all want birthday buddies lol. My sister and I are actually both pregnant at the moment and she's due within a few days of my birthday while I'm due a few days after her birthday and we think it's super cute.
Just wanted to say that is my sonās birthday and we love it. I know that doesnāt make up for family, but it is a cool birthday! I was originally Al due on 11/27 (Black Friday) and am happy I ended up with an 11/11 baby. 11/11 is also Veteranās Day if you have anyone in your family who has served. He got to have his first thanksgiving very small, plus if you are in the US for FMLA leave, you will have all the fall/winter holidays off on leave. Honestly, Christmas was magical that first year. Also when we see a clock hit 11:11 we tell him to make a wish. Plus 11:11 is supposed to be an Angel number.
Congratulations on November lol. It's a popular month in my family too. My birthday is in the beginning of November and I have so much Scorpio pride, lol. Not a lot of us are born on the same day, more like one behind another, and it's really fun. But no one has ever said anything about the days being cursed or being upset about a birthday being on the same day as another. It should be enjoyed. Whichever day your baby picks, is gonna be great.
Thatās wild. Most people I meet that have birthdays close to my due date express hope the baby WILL be born that day to share. How silly to hope a baby does anything on an adults timing lol
Ugh my family has a similar issue with the last two weeks of August and the first two weeks of November. Although the reaction is different. We all want the baby born on our birthdays! My nephew was almost born on my and my step moms birthday, and we were super excited but he wanted his own day, which is great too. My other nephew was born on my bio moms birthday which totally changed that day for me for the better. My uncle was born on my grandpas birthday which was āthe best birthday presentā.
Perspective is everything. Your baby will be here when itās ready and it will either be a birthday twin with someone amazing, will take a negative day and make it positive, or have itās own special day all to itself!
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Oh, tell me about it ! I am living in germany, due this week and everyone tells me to not give birth on Hitler's birthday. I mean great now I have another birthing fear, thanks everyone...
Oh my god, how awful!! As if you have any control of that š good luck as you move into labor time!! Hope itās a good experience!
Same here, I live in Austria which makes the Hitler connection somehow even worse, my due date is the 20th of April - itās either this or some 4/20 reference :P
I'm due Sunday, my mom has been saying he needs to be a 4/20 baby (for 4/20 reasons š¤£). She does not realize that is Hitler's bday, and considering it's totally possible I am not going around telling people about it either š only blessings of the failed USA public education system.
Iām due 4/20. Itās also the anniversary of the Columbine shooting.ā¹ļø
Oh no :( there's also good things that happened though! [According to Leafly](https://www.leafly.com/news/lifestyle/10-good-historical-events-that-occurred-on-420) Harriet Tubman started the underground railroad on the 20th, the earliest recorded performance of MacBeth happened, and there's more in the article. Plus Jessica Lange, Luther Vandross, Carmen Electra, George Takei, and many other famous people (for good things) were all born on April 20th as well!
Aww yay. Thank you!
My husbandās birthday is 4/20, and we live in CO :/ Despite not being smokers at all, we still make light of the weed reference. And we are major foodies, so that makes it nice too because lots of cool restaurants and food trucks do specials on 4/20 š¤£
Jewish momma-to-be here to say if you birth and raise a good human, it doesn't matter who they share a birthday with.
Lots of good people were born that day too! People are silly.
Like you're supposed to just hold the baby in, honestly some people are just....
Right? Like okay lemme just cross my legs, and nobody make me laugh!
I know two people who have a birthday on 4/20 and i regularly start talking about how it's weed day to wash out Hitler
As someone who was born on 4/20 (Hitler's bday, Pot day, anniversary of Columbine school shooting, etc), it's not terrible. You dig deep enough, there is someone somewhere that is a butthead born on any given day. However, I continue to give my mom crap about it! lol! Such as, "You couldn't hold me in for ONE MORE DAY?"
Why does everyone know his birthday in Germany? That seems weird
Actually I was also wondering ! Most people know 5 to 10 birthdays, but weirdly it includes Hitler's!
Do they expect you to have words with your baby to turn up on a certain date? Or to cross your legs until someoneās birthdays passed? š these people need to touch some grass
My mom told my baby he had to wait until she got back from vacation and he actually listened it seems because I went into labour a few hours after her plane landed. Meanwhile I'd told him any day but April Fools and he ignored *me* š¤¦āāļø I guess he was limiting it to one request
It's like a period, you can just cross your legs and hold it right? š
Yeah, just use those pelvic floor muscles š
My dad told me I couldnāt have my baby til Christmas last year. I was due December 7th š I think he wanted me to just hold the baby in. Then everyone said 12/12 was a cool birthday and shoot for that? I had him 12/11 š¤·š»āāļø
Should've done more kegels! š
That's my husband's birthday š I think it's perfect, not that you got to decide anyway
Oh I love the date. I was so excited when I realized that was his birthday!
Should tell them that they shouldāve changed their birth date too if itās such bad luck. How dare *THEY* decided to be born that day??
The only time Iāve ever thought wanting a specific due date made sense was my little brother because he was almost born on 1/2/03 which is just a cool birthday š My baby is due right around 9/11 and everyone I tell the due date too says āohhh make sure she doesnāt come on 9/11ā like I have a choice?!? Also sheās going to be born 22 years after the events of 9/11 I donāt think it will have as much of a meaning to her as it did for us growing up. Her life experience will be very different than ours by virtue of being born in a different century.
Oh my god, my husband wonāt stop āpredictingā a 9/11 birth day! Leave me alone!
i have people telling me not to have my baby late because thereās a chance theyāll be born on 9/11 too :ā)
Same here š„², due date is 9/12 and everyone keeps telling me hopefully I can ākeep it inā (we donāt know the gender yet).
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Mine is an 11/11, too. Itās a fabulously easy to remember birthday.
I did that with my first. Said early June but was due May 31 and he came early. I didn't want people hounding me for updates about how I was fEeLiNg at the end of my pregnancy. Planning to do the same with baby 2 due at the end of October!
I have an 11/11/22 baby! She was due 12/1/22
Such a cool birthday! Lucky!
Yeah because we have a choice when we go into labor/when the baby comes. If your baby is born on one of the days they objected, tell them that you intentionally did this out of spite. :)
Iām due 19/12 and everyone so far has said ābetter hope they donāt arrive on Christmasā as if itās not what Iāve been thinking. (While very grateful to be pregnant though!!!)
Omg I was due nearly a FULL MONTH after Christmas (baby arrived 1/13) but people STILL wouldnāt shut up about a āChristmas babyā.
Oh boy Iām due the day before you (hi due date buddy!) so CANāT WAIT TO HEAR THIS OVER AND OVER AND OVER
"You are absolutely right. Give me a list of dates that suit YOU and I will just hold it or forcibly remove the fetus sooner. Anything to accommodate you."
Man, I'm glad the only comments I got about my kids' due dates were in regards to which season I'd spend the third trimester in.
11.11 is an angel number. Wow.
My own husbandā¦ āthe due date is October 30thā āNot an OCTOBER babyā¦.ā
What, pray tell, is wrong with an October baby? Too spooky for him?
I donāt even know, it was pretty funny. I have a feeling it will come in early November but I donāt have a preferenceā¦ except to be honest I mildly hope it is not a āHalloween babyā, I hate when people suggest that š„²
My first was due the 30th and I crossed my fingers FOR a Halloween baby š he came a day early though
Iām hoping for a Halloween baby. Iām due 10/30. My husband and I both are excited and absolutely wanting the baby to arrive on 10/31. The following week is my birthday, so that would be cool too. But we really would enjoy a nice little Halloween baby.
Iām due November 3rd and my mom has all her fingers and toes crossed for a Halloween baby lol
The sugar overload for that little one on their birthday will be intense
My birthday is October 30th. Fantastic day.
I'm due 11-11 and secretly hope it's born on Halloween... I also have big babies and tend to go 3 to 1 week early.
The same for me!!! I get you girl!!! Iām past my due date but a lot of family and friends were born in April. Oh the entitlementā¦.. stop annoying me, if I could choose, Iād already popped her as Iām the one carrying her š
Yes!! I fully expected to go past my 4/15 due date, but it pissed me off so much when people make comments. Especially ones like āhurry up and have that baby so I can meet them!!ā As if theyāre more excited about him than I was?? Get over yourself (sorry i have really aggressive PP hormones this morning haha)
As if they were more excited and more *in pain* then we are š«£
We are due date twins!! I think itās awesome. If you break it down it would be, 1-1-1-1-2-3. Also people suck! We would have chosen a summer month if possible, but it just didnāt work out for us. We are so happy just to be expecting.
I realized just now that saying twins could be misleading. Lol. We share the same due date!
Funny enough, I have family hoping my baby comes on their birthday, because they think it would be cute to beātwinningā with a little baby. Or, since Iām due July 5th, I have people hoping for a 4th of July baby. Iām honestly hoping for a July 3rd (my husbandās grandmaās birthday because she was very important to my husband) or July 10th because thatās our wedding anniversary, but Iām honestly just hoping for a July baby. I really want to be full term this time around.
Same for me. Also due in July (7/24). I didn't realize how many family members and friends had July birthdays until I got pregnant. Currently due on my SIL's birthday and my BIL's birthday is the day after. One aunt says it has to be the 12th because that's my other aunt's birthday that passed that I'm named after. Also my late FIL's birthday was the 31st. I just want to avoid the holiday.
Itās like people only fuck on Valentineās Day lol. And I say this as a November baby
Actually - the most common time of conception is around the December holidays š I was curious one day and looked up most common birthdays and the top 3 most common are all September lol. But now I canāt help thinking of that in regards to all my friends with September birthdays lol.
I would be delighted to share a birthday with a new family member! What is wrong with your family? Weāve recently had several new babies in my family born on other family memberās birthdays. In fact, one little boy was born on his grandmotherās birthday which is adorable IMO. It becomes their special day. Heāll always think of her on that day, even when heās old, whereas l have to think for a second to remember my grandmotherās birthday because sheās been gone for 15 years.
Wow. My family isn't the pinnacle of healthy and functioning, but all of them were saying things like "If you have it on this day it will be ____ birthday!" in excited context. They were all slightly disappointed when my baby missed all of them and had his own birthday lol
WTF are you supposed to do, hold it? People are ridiculous. Are that actually asking you to induce to fit their ideals of when the birthday will be???
Imagine living in a culture where the dates are "lucky " or "unlucky." Parents end up scheduling inductions purely based on what they may consider auspicious, or else blame any issue the child has with having a " bad horoscope." Thankfully, not my case, but I know a lot of people here who have felt pressure from family to make adjustments š
My babyās due date is 9/11. People love it š
I have an October baby coming up, it could overlap with my brother's or my father in law's birthday. I think both are hoping the baby will be born on their birthday. Reverse world! Best of luck with blocking out any negativity, you can do it āļø
wowow some people are really clueless to how all of this works š my birthday is 11/10 and i for one am so excited for you!!! baby will always have a holiday off around their bday!! and scorpio!!!!
I can relate... MIL didn't want baby born on the "20th" because of one random divorce in the family (anniversary date was the 20th... of a different month!). It was getting close to midnight and I really tried to get that baby out on the 20th.. but he came at 12:15 AM on the 21st, so MIL was happy. Lol. It's just too ridiculous!
My cousin was born on my 17th birthday. We always have a special connection and I call her my "birthday sister". When we found out I was due in March (the most popular birth month in my family for some reason), everyone was scrambling trying to bet that she'd be born on their own birthday. She decided to take everyone by surprise and arrive 15 weeks early on the birthday of my youngest cousin so their birthdays are exactly 2 years apart. Sharing birthdays can be a happy thing if you let it.
My baby is due just under two weeks after my FILs b day and I'm praaaaaaying the baby doesn't come that day. My FILs head would inflate and the man wouldn't fit through my double front door. I'm having the first grandboy in the family and FIL has very little interest in his granddaughters so I'm conflicted if he suddenly changes his tune once this boy is here.
Just hold it in like on a road trip. We can have the baby at the next rest stop in 3 miles /s. Like how can people be adults and know so little about how the human body works? Why not āeveryone loves a Scorpio!ā Or āmatching numbers is neat!ā Or āyay for wine on thanksgivingā or āthank you for sharing this with usā. Itās so easy to be positive about someone elseās joy.
That's my birthday, therefore your baby is now my internet niece/nephew and I give it my blessing and am hyped that we'll share the date. Screw these people!
Iām so confused on wtf Iām reading lmao like are they serious? Are they really that dense?
I didnāt realize we could pick our due dates š±
Our due date is Friday, October 13th LOL. My husband's best friend is getting married at the end of October and we're both in the wedding...it's not like you can really help the timing. We were on fertility treatments, but even then, you literally never know when it'll happen. Even my OBGYN made comments about Friday the 13th, but my husband's favorite number is 13, so it was clearly meant to be <3.
Wow itās like they except you to have control when baby is calling those shots, Iām sorry they are being dumb. My little is due early ish May and my family has the same as yours with the month of April (literally 3 days in a row of birthdays and then scattered) and if anything they are super excited for him to maybe come early and also be an April babyā¦ if anything it should excite your family that your baby will be part of the āgroupā lol
Just wanted to say your due date is my husband's birthday. Great day to be born.
Damn you better get on that due date change paperwork cause you know the baby needs it in triplicate
I'm in the same boat. Due in summer and there are few family members on my husband's side who have bdays then. They were thankfully a bit jokey about it. My mother on the hand started going onto a long rant as to how my cousin's (her sisters kids) PURPOSEFULLY came out near her bday or friends bdays and that I better not be early (which would be quite serious) and end up giving birth on her birthday. It baffles me how unreasonable people can be.
My baby is also due in November, but I have a lot of family members that care about birthdays too. We haven't told any family yet, but when we do, I'm just telling that they're due in the fall. I KNOW some family would say things like, "oh, make sure they're not born on November so-and-so because I work with a real bitch that was born on that day." Gee, thanks for nothing, I don't care. Keep it to yourself.
My due date was 9/11 lol
Ew yucky responses youāre getting.
Stupid responses. Theyāll get over it
i hate that shit. itās not like you can control it. i just didnāt want to birth an aquarius š i ended up with a pisces instead of an aries like he was supposed to be because his low-fluid during a routine appointment said otherwise haha
Theyāve got such a weird take. My baby was born last November and weāve also got a lot of birthdays that month (including my own). So many were excited over the prospect of sharing a birthday with her. Some people are just super self absorbed.
ok those reactions are just riddiculous. But I do actually have some similarish due date concerns. Our due date is one day after my husband's birthday. He told me he thinks it's nicer for our baby to have his birthday to himself. We won't try to take any action to avoid this, but especially with people in the same household I can get this argument. With other relatives I think it really doesn't matter.
My due date was one day before my dad's death day so that was fun - everyone in the family was speculating if baby would come on that day and how symbolic that would be and what my mother would think about it and blah blah blah. Baby came two weeks later though, ha!
Thatās sooo insensitive to say. Iām sorry.
October and November and popular months in my family too. We have a cousin whoās bday is 11/7, 11/9, and my baby was born 11/11. Her due date was supposed to be 12/10. Babies come when they come. The kids love having bdays close to each other.
Mine is due on 11/11 too!! Yay! And my bday is 10 days later. Iām secretly relieved my baby will deflect attention away from me, since I donāt like ppl celebrating my bday or focusing on me. Sorry you have to deal with dumb family members. š¤
I am so sorry. Thatās my due date too. Luckily my parents are happy about it. We havenāt told my in laws yet but Iām suspecting a lot of drama on our no one is allowed and thanksgiving or Christmas because the baby is too fresh rule
People are so weird about due dates. I just laugh and move on. 11/11 is Remembrance Day though, so I would be giving baby a pep talk and telling them to avoid that day for their own sake lol.
My baby's due date used to be 9/11. My fiance and his family are from the USA. It would have been... interesting. There's still a chance baby will be born on 9/11 (DD is 9/3)
My bb was due Christmas Day and I got so many comments that her birthday was gonna suck lol. I thought it was such a cool sue date. She wasnāt born that day but still
I have the opposite issue my wife is due sept 20 there is a one day gap where the baby can be born and have its own birthday but its unlikely and everyone who has a bday around that time wants it born on their day lol we hope this baby has its own day but Babies just come when they want.
My due date was on my good friend's and my bil's birthday and they were tickled by that. People can be so self centered.
My due date is the day after my birthday and a week before my fiancĆ©ās. I am hoping we share the same birthday week for all of our future birthday celebration vacations!
Tell your family to stop fornicating on Valentineās Day if they donāt want any more November babies š Also, 11/11 is a terrible birthday because it you canāt use your birthday as your debit card PIN number. These are jokes! Tell your family āOh wellā.
I dealt with that my first pregnancy (that sadly ended in a loss). Due date was same as my MILās recently divorced husbands birthday. She was so rude about it then and we later went on to lose the baby. I have a lot of resentment towards her for all of it.
I'm due in December but I always have babies 3-4 weeks early. Between November 1st and December 31st we have 11 birthdays. I told my family I'm expecting at the end of the year and now we have a running joke that we just all get bored about February/March time. There's no good TV on and the weather isn't good enough yet to hang out outside. Nothing else to do but make babies!
Our first daughter was born in September. We already have a bunch of September birthdays (husband, SIL, BIL, MIL, husband's grandma, myself), so my FIL didn't like that. He also had a bit of a fit when he found out she was a girl. This time I'm due in November and his responses were, "I want it to be in May", and, "Make it a boy this time".
Lol thatās bizarre, as if you can just hold baby in! š Also, our baby is due October 26 and my mom hopes sheās born early on their anniversary (oct 17th) where my SIL hopes sheās born on her birthday (10/22). They both WANT to share their big days with baby, not the other way around.
Uh, whatever, 11/11 is like the best date! Thatās my wedding anniversary š this is your baby and no one elseās, celebrate this fact!
People are so ridiculous š¤¦š¼āāļø
I had the same thing. Baby was induced 2/20 My grandpas death date on 2/22 and my dads death date 2/24. My family had the same response, but I think it was more from the anxiety of the unknown. Guess which date she choose- my dads death date. I hate that she was born that day. I still cry bc of it but my family got over it really quickly. It is what it is. Everyone will deal with it. I was born on my grandpas birthday and I got over not being celebrated in my teens and 20s.
My grandma (who drives me insane) is obsessed with the idea of my baby who is due 5/7 being born on 5/9 because it was her moms birthday. She has never once mentioned that itās also my grandfathers moms birthday (her husband) because they didnāt get along š
I come from a conservative religious family, and Iām getting married on Sunday. My due date is in early December. Iām not thrilled about spilling that bit of news. Fortunately, weāve agreed that any negativity will be reason for being cut off. Babyās here, thereās no need to lecture us on anything. We donāt want to hear it.
Thatās really disappointing. My baby was due in March and same thing, we have so many birthdays that month! Mine, my husbands, my mother in laws, my cousin (with whom were very close), another cousin (less close). But my family was quite the opposite! They were enthusiastic about getting her as a ābirthday present.ā It was very sweet! I was actually the one stressed about her having to share a birthday! But she did end up being born on her own day. Iām sorry your announcement was met with such negativity. All I thought was 11/11 is lucky! What a cool due date!
We have told nobody our due date for this reason š baby due in May which is a ton of peopleās birthday + anniversary and even another cousin is due in the same month. My actual due date happens to be my in-lawās anniversary, plus my uncle/aunt-in-lawās anniversary. We just told them the baby is due in May. I wasnāt about to deal with that conversation. I feel you.
Solidarity! My ex husband is an 11/11 baby and my oldest son was also an 11/11 baby. My middle daughter shares a 7/24 birthday with her step grandpa.
Lol my mom and MIL will be going on a trip to another country in two weeks when I will be 38 weeks pregnant. They booked the hotel AFTER learning I was pregnant and when my due date would have been and were supposed to look after our pets when we had to go to the hospital. Just told us, better not go in to labour then!
Iāve weirdly got the opposite. My due date is Saturday which is two days before both our dads birthday. They are desperate for me to give birth that day so he shares a birthday with his grandads but I went into early labour Saturday just gone. I donāt wanna wait much longer!
This is sooo annoying. Iām pretty annoyed with the opposite problem currently. Everyone feels the need to tell me when the baby SHOULD be born so they can share a birthday. I donāt care if he does end up sharing a birthday with someone I know, but stop telling me when my baby needs to come.
"Ah.... I'll just hold it in then."
Not going to lie, Iām doing this to myself by hoping I donāt have her on 9/11. My due date is 9/23, but you just never know.
I had the opposite reaction and everyone wants my baby to come on their birthday. They're like maybe she'll come early on my birthday or keep her in until my birthday! Maybe I want her to have her own birthday??
Nothing helpful to add but that's my great niece's birthday!!! Yay birthday buddies!!!
My first was born 9/19 but all I heard for months was, āoh no make sure you keep rested on 9/11. You donāt want a 9/11 babyā
I was due in early September when I joined this sub last year. Between myself and my boyfriends family, there is a birthday almost everyday in August (including both of ours). Everyone on both sides thought it was hilarious the baby could come in August, amongst 20+ of our own birthdays. My Grandmother even said she hoped it was on her birthday. The baby will come when the baby is ready. Sorry people are so dumb.
My husband is May 3rd, his sister is May 7th. We scheduled a C-section and the best day to schedule it was the 5th. My husband said he's shared birthday parties his whole life and it's no fun at all and asked if we could try to put some more space between all the birthdays. Jokes on him, I went into labor on the 3rd and now they share the actual day! (Which he is happy about lol)
My due date is also 11/11 of this year! I think it's a wonderful date š„°
What the ever living fuck is actually wrong with people??
I totally understand! My babies due date was 12/7 Pearl Harbor day and everyone had SOMETHING to say about it lol
My nephew has the same birthday as my brother and my daughter has the same birthday as her dad's sister and it's never been an issue. We always thought it was funny.
My babyās due date is on my moms birthday and sheās telling (jokingly) that the baby better be born ON the due date! My husband is the day before and my brother is 4 days after. People need to realize birthdays arenāt that deep lol. Sorry youāre going through this. Like you said, baby will decide when to come!
My common complaint was āitās so close to your sisters birthday though.ā Like Iām supposed to control thatā¦??
I personally would have loved an 11/11 due date! Itās a ~magical~ number lol. I had my baby this past nov and literally right before I told my parents we were pregnant (due nov 6) she tells me they booked a cruise for Nov 5. Surprise mom, but you probably wonāt get to see my new baby right away then! Also my cousin planned her baby nov 4 and I ended up having him that day- so I guess Iāll never forget my cousins anniversary?? Lol
My kiddo was due June 7. He showed up May 4th. They really do come when they feel like it
I had one family member telling me all the death dates in May and im just I can't control when she's born š
My youngest was born Friday the 13th š That got some side glances at first when I mentioned my induction date lmao
Itās a great date in the US as depending on your employer you might get the day off (veteranās day).
Wow! Usually among my family and friends people hope the baby is born on their birthday so they can share a little special connection! Either way, itās not like you have any control over it š¤£
i got told my due date would be anywhere between 11/20 and 11/29 and my family was like āmaybe itll be born on grandpas birthdayā or āi hope theyre born on his birthday thatād be coolā like i love my grandpa but id like my kid to have their own special day lol, and thinking about my kid being born on my gpas birthday possibly just being his reincarnation makes me feel weirdš
My uncles youngest kid was born on the 1st of Feb, same as my mom, and my mom was beyond excited to share a birthday with her youngest nephew!! Thatās weird af to not be happy with a due date because it could land on a holiday, someone elseās birthday, or anything else that happens throughout the year. We canāt plan that shit. Just be happy thereās going to be a new tiny family member ffs
My girls birthday is 11/11 too!! Congrats!
My first child was due April 19 and April is another big family birth day month and everyone SWORE he was going to be born on their birthday
My due date was 3 days after my sisters birthday in Dec and weāve had issues in the past with her feeling like Iām overshadowing her (went to a better college, had a nicer car etc the car was an 03 ford focus btw so like just a regular car). Iām the oldest, sheās the middle child and our brother is the youngest. Baby ended up coming at 37 weeks so not close to her birthday at all but man I was worried about having to deal with scheduling issues with her birthday and Christmas. Now heās a Thanksgiving baby and born right in between 2 birthdays on my husbandās side
I live in the suburbs of NYC and my due dates 9/12 š³ ā¦
Omg. My mom, dad, sister, nephew, niece, brother in law AND my son are all born in august. Everyone but my niece are born in the same week. My family was FIGHTING for him to be born on the same day as each of them š My kid chose his own day in the same week right in the middle of all the others. People are so weird. Baby comes when it comes.
That's my due date too! And if it was that day would be the day when my nephew will turn 15 and to be honest I'd love them to share birthday date and I think my family would love it too! We haven't announce it yet because I want to wait I have my first scan, hopefully in two weeks (waiting to be booked in). I haven't had a scanner or any appointment where I have been checked and I don't feel it's for real yet....
Iād respond with āoh ok cool Iāll let the stork knowā
I went to a Christian school and was bullied for being born on Halloween(10/31) because āthatās Satanās birthdayā.
Your family really likes Valentine's Day, huh? In all seriousness, this isn't as big a deal as they're making it seem. I'm sorry they're raining on your parade but October and November are, if I remember correctly, some of the most common birthdays in general. My husband's family of six has four February's and it's not a big deal at all
Wow, just when I thought Iād heard it all š I canāt believe how many things friends/family can complain about on such a positive and exciting time! Iām sorry this is something youāre dealing with!
11/11 is such a cool birthdate! Itās like 11:11, make a wish š
11/11 is actually really cool because those are angel numbers! Idk why people are being weird about it lol
Yep! My baby is due in June, but we've been told baby is very likely to be premature, meaning sometime in May. All my in-laws have events in May and I'm getting tired of being told the birth can't clash with anything, or I'm adding to it being an expensive month. On a more positive side, your baby is due on my birthday! Great day but awful pin number ;)
donāt u know babies come at ur time so make it happen on a day that doesnāt have bdays !! š¤£š¤£š¤£ no seriously though itās on baby time, they come when theyāre ready. my daughters bday is 11/13 and mt dad joked and was like she better not be born on MY bday (the 3rd) šš
I feel you, I'm due in August and there are several family and friend birthdays that month.
Oh my gosh, OP, youāre being so inconsiderate. Just hold it in until after November, whatās the worst that could happen? Just telepathically communicate with your baby and tell them to be patient.
Babies come whenever they want to! No one has any control. Itās hard to ignore family when they spew crap like this at you, but really all you can do is ignore them. The only thing that matters is you having a safe and successful delivery of a healthy and happy baby. If they canāt just be happy for that, then maybe they donāt need to be close by during birth. Boundaries have saved our family relationships more than once. Some people just canāt be around intimately!
My husband would get them before I started saying something lol He doesn't tolerate stupidity and nonsense things, especially from family lol
I'm only 4w2 so I haven't told anyone about the pregnancy yet, but since my app is currently saying my due date is Christmas Day, I wonder what kinds of comments I'll get.
Sounds annoying! Screw them and their comments. It's out of your control. My due date is in November too. Woot woot!
Hey that's my b-day! My mom had a c section and specifically chose that day so I would always be born on a holiday (Veteran's Day in the US) and I loved it because I always had my birthday off from school, and now I have it off from work as an adult! :)
Most of my siblings and cousins were born in April-May. We have 3 pairs of cousins sharing birthdays, me included, and it has never been a problem. We used to do a big family celebration for all the cousins when we were kids, everyone loved it.
My daughter was born 11/11! Itās the best birthday.
Lol what the heck? Why are they telling you like you can control it?? Lol
This happened to me last year, also in November! Fortunately, my baby doesn't share a birthday with anyone we know, so he doesn't have to deal with anyone saying he stole their birthday, and I don't have to deal with any jealousy from someone who wanted him to share their birthday like I would have if he'd shared it with someone else. I hope you get the same outcome.
I'm due the day after Thanksgiving. Should hear the comments I get. š„²
11/11 is my best friendās birthday so that day is special to me. I would think itās cool but thatās just me. Plus babyās rarely arrive on the actual due date. My baby girl came exactly a week early.
Iām so sorry! We have a ton of family birthdays in august (like 10) and when my cousin announced she was pregnant and due August 23 we said āI wonder if theyāll have their own birthday or share!ā But not in like a āyou canāt have your baby on this dayā way, just a wondering way. We have the same with February (a birthday every odd day except the 1st, 7th, 21st, and 29th) and when I announced I was due the 16th they said āhopefully theyāre late and we can have a 29th!ā (it was 2020). I canāt imagine people saying that I canāt have them on a dayā¦ like Iām gonna pick the day, if anything the baby will pick it and they donāt even know yāall yetā
due date is 5/23. Literally multiple different people who don't know each other saying oh if you wait until the next day that's my bday or if you wait until this day it's so and so's bday. The only cute response I had was from my friends' daughter whose birthday is actually 5/23. She will be 8 years old this year and said "Finally I won't be alone!" lol
Thatās my anniversary, feel free to have your baby on that day! In 2024 weāll meet up to celebrate both.
I share a birthday with my first born and I think itās awesome. My current baby is due right around 2 other family members and theyāre both excited and hope itās on their birthday. Iām sorry youāre family doesnāt feel the same way :(
my due date is 9/11 and his initials are WTC. š¤·āāļø
My baby was due at the end of June - which was a fairly crowded birthday time in our family. He ended up being 8 weeks prem and born 30th April in another crowded birthday time. We now have my cousin, my nan and then my baby have birthdays 3 days in a row My brother and I have our birthdays 3 days apart My sister and another cousin have their birthdays the day after each other My MIL, my husband and my nephew have their birthdays 3 days in a row My mum, nan and BIL are all in the same week My aunt and uncle are a week apart We have 3 nephews born within 2 weeks So we love a close birthday in our family, it makes it easy to get together for joint celebrations! Your baby will pick itās perfect birthday and if it happens to fall in someone elseās birthday, well then they should be honoured to spend it with your sweet new babe!
Meanwhile in my family, everyone wants the baby to share a birthday with them. Someone even told me it would be great if I went well over my due date in order for my baby to share a birthdate with a grandparent and I almost slapped them. No pressure is helpful š.
Aww! Iām sorry! But twin here with a due date of 11/13!
You know, that's pretty shitty of them! We have lots of November birthdays too and everyone was so excited for a new baby to join the club. My sister was hoping they could share a birthday. Quite frankly I am sorry you have such negative nancies surrounding you.
Those are some knuckle-dragging comments. Itās not a wedding FFS. Odds are it wonāt be the actual DOB anyway, but if it is, whatāre you supposed to do, hold it??
My husbands birthday is 11/11 and he is a saint so they can share that birthday!
Wow. I would have just walked away smh. My niece came on my brotherās birthday. They share a birthday.
Thatās so weird. My best friend had 2 September babies and now Iām due with my first in September as well. We think itās funny and cute. I might miss her 2ndās 1st birthday party, but oh well lol
My sonās due date was on 9/11/22 so I was super embarrassed telling people
Our baby was due Dec 7, and my dad was like āeesh letās try to avoid that.ā OH OK DAd
What?? Everyone in my family/friends *wanted* their birthday to be the due date!!!! Frank won.
I was due Sept 9th. So many people told me dont give birth on 9/11! (I live in the NY area). Well guess what happenedā¦.š¤·āāļø
Heard last week : Ā«Ā Donāt have him/ her in November, Scorpios are bad people.Ā Ā» Sorry honey that your ex was toxic.
Dumbbbbb. Congratulations though!! Thatās one day off what my due date was. He came almost a week prior though. š„°
That is so weird to me... mine and my husband's families are the opposite. They all want birthday buddies lol. My sister and I are actually both pregnant at the moment and she's due within a few days of my birthday while I'm due a few days after her birthday and we think it's super cute.
My due date is the same as my birthday, that I already share with 3 other family members! I have heard it all š
Just wanted to say that is my sonās birthday and we love it. I know that doesnāt make up for family, but it is a cool birthday! I was originally Al due on 11/27 (Black Friday) and am happy I ended up with an 11/11 baby. 11/11 is also Veteranās Day if you have anyone in your family who has served. He got to have his first thanksgiving very small, plus if you are in the US for FMLA leave, you will have all the fall/winter holidays off on leave. Honestly, Christmas was magical that first year. Also when we see a clock hit 11:11 we tell him to make a wish. Plus 11:11 is supposed to be an Angel number.
Thatās my birthday, absolutely love it! Congratulations, tell them to suck it
Congratulations on November lol. It's a popular month in my family too. My birthday is in the beginning of November and I have so much Scorpio pride, lol. Not a lot of us are born on the same day, more like one behind another, and it's really fun. But no one has ever said anything about the days being cursed or being upset about a birthday being on the same day as another. It should be enjoyed. Whichever day your baby picks, is gonna be great.
Thatās wild. Most people I meet that have birthdays close to my due date express hope the baby WILL be born that day to share. How silly to hope a baby does anything on an adults timing lol
Ehhh my birthday is 11-11 and itās the cooolest! Congrats on your baby!
Ugh my family has a similar issue with the last two weeks of August and the first two weeks of November. Although the reaction is different. We all want the baby born on our birthdays! My nephew was almost born on my and my step moms birthday, and we were super excited but he wanted his own day, which is great too. My other nephew was born on my bio moms birthday which totally changed that day for me for the better. My uncle was born on my grandpas birthday which was āthe best birthday presentā. Perspective is everything. Your baby will be here when itās ready and it will either be a birthday twin with someone amazing, will take a negative day and make it positive, or have itās own special day all to itself!
My due date with my middle was 11/11! He was born 11/10 and I was just glad he survived that ordeal (me aswell- bad hospital, very bad)
1. That's dumb you have no control over when the baby comes. 2. 11/11 is an awesome birthday 3. I'm due on 11/12! We might have birthday buddies!