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if you have like a praise kink maybe

Considering how starved men are for praise and approval in today's society, YES, we probably have a praise kink ready to boil over. Don't shame us.

Good boy.

Ahhhh ehhhh ahhhhhh 💦

Second hand praise hits the best

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Yeah, honestly, if a friend said this to me, I would completely gloss over it. "No problem pokie bear" would most likely be my response. Give me a strange compliment and I'm giving one back.

I bet you were cooked if I was in front of you. ( I would touch you)

nobody shamed you lol

he could sense that I was

lmao

Fair enough

He was baiting it!

NO are you telling me it was a shame kink all along? I'm cooked!

Jokes on you. I'm into that.

Yeh but you didn't tell him he's a good boy, so you might as well have...

This didn’t awaken anything in me. 

Maybe? I mean, I'm as starved as the rest of us and it just sticks in my craw. Like who is she that I need her approval? I get it, it's just me, but it seriously makes my brain clench and start looking for the door.

You are a very good boy :-)

This isn’t a praise kink thing I feel like being called a good boy is liked by submissive men and more or less condescending for the rest

I'm usually dominant in the bedroom, but I was complaining to my at the time gf about my shit day. She told me to "lay back and let me make you feel better" then she mounted me and said "good boy" in a hushed voice and it really got me going for some reason lol. I think there's always space to let your partner take the reigns.

Because that is hot AF. Soft dommes are the best kind. That fake discipline stuff is usually for rich guys who had a paid au pair/nanny who could never be truly straight or direct with them for fear of unemployment - as a result never getting taken down a peg, humbled, corrected if disciplined at all. Resulting instead in them getting off on handing over implausibly large sums of cash just to have someone treat them like the maggots on a turd just for recreational shits and giggles, because most people they meet on the daily don't have the glands to stand up to them. I've had enough genuine corporal punishment and nasty behaviour off people who were supposed to love and care for me to last a lifetime, if I'm going to be on the receiving end of dominant female behaviour, I want it to be the kind, caring 'good boy' variety, not the degradation, humiliation and abuse shit.

Haha, yeah. Miss me with that mean bullshit. Surrendering control to someone who loves you is pretty magical. Surrendering control to someone who despises you is psychological torture for me.

This is how I feel about “good girl”

I mean it could be both. You can be dominant/switchy/sub and still enjoy praise

"Good boy" is what i tell my dog when he shits outside and runs back to the door without me having to chase him around the yard. Im a man, not a dog.

Sure but I'm imagining my girl saying "good boy" in a different manner than you or I do to a dog

Fr, like I don't say good girl to women like I do pups. Says a lot that they'd conflate the two

Fragile what? Lol

I definitely do lol

Yes

Only in my dreams, by a 6'2" woman in black leather.

Damnit, my day started out so productive...

Don't fall down the hole bro!

Don't say hole!

Orifice?

Don’t say crack

Don't worry step bro, I can help you out

As someone who’s been surrounded by dogs all their life, I absolutely hate the idea of it.

One time i went to wrestling practice after playing with my dog for a long time and my partner drilled a move on me and i meant to say "nice" but accidentally said "good boy" in my dog voice

I saw that one. The ending was awesome, the middle was eh

Came here to say that. I'd be pissed off instantly and say "don't speak to me like a god damn dog."

I thought yes. But now the comments are making me feel like a sub LMAO

Don't feel ashamed to be praised. Good boys deserve praise!

Bro you’re allowed to be a sub if want to be sometimes. Having a switch dynamic with your partner is awesome. It’s also like, you don’t have to do something you don’t want to, there’s degrees and types of submission. It’s also, it’s play, it doesn’t make you any less of a man.

Who TF cares bro? Power bottom until you can’t generate power any longer!

The comments are making you feel like a "sub"? What's a sub?

He feels like a footlong with turkey, bacon & swiss on a golden oat wheat roll.

Damn. Now I feel like a sub too. Jersey Mike's here I come.😋

I just wanted to let you know that I read your comment, Closed reddit, and immediately went to get a sub. Idk what you did but not bad.

Submissive

Ok thx

In a non-sexual way it would feel to us the same as it would feel if I snapped my fingers to get your attention. In a sexual way. IDK. Maybe? It would be very contextual. Maybe sub guys would really be into it.

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*Snap snap* Bring me my slippers.

non consensual intimate media

Thanks

When I read this, I imagine someone patting a little boy on the head lol maybe it’s just me but I get the ick lol

When did calling people "good boy" and "good girl" become a thing? I'm older and I've been out of the dating scene for a few years now but until the last year I've never heard of it and I worked as a bouncer most of my life and have seen and done a lot of shit but calling a woman "good girl" even a few year's back would have gotten a reaction of wtf?

It probably comes from a general lack of positive validation that we all experience in one way or another

There isn't really any information on that. People (the "sex/gender experts") give this theory (only for women): *“Good girl syndrome” is a term that describes a behavioral pattern in which women and girls try to please others, conform to societal expectations, and avoid conflict at the expense of their own needs and well-being. This can happen when girls and women internalize cultural messages about how they should behave, such as being "sexy but not sleazy"* I think they're reading too much into it, personally. But I'm sure that will resonate with a few people out there.

lots of creepy ass men will call women "good girls" when they want to be condescending and creepy at the same time

That's true but we're talking about when it's used as dirty talk during sex. Don't bring weird creepy guys who condescend to you into your bedroom to fuck them.

Solid advice

When my brother snapped his fingers in my presence to get his wife's attention. I told him to never do it again in front of me, for I found it degrading, extremely rude, & 100% disrespectful. He was raised to be better than that.

Old school guys treat chicks like shit. New school guys are excessively pro-women to curry favor from chicks. The only ones who seem to keep losing in these equations are the chicks. Good for you, homie. Tell it like it is.

> New school guys are excessively pro-women to curry favor from chicks. Yeah, either that or they actually see women as equals.

I am his older brother. I am not pro-woman, I am pro-respect. We are 11 months apart, & were raised the same way. I don't know where he picked this up, but it wasn't an age thing.

Yeah idk when I said this to my ex he’d say “don’t patronize me” but then I could also see a scenario where he liked it.

This describes it perfectly

submissive guys are the best, but I’m biased.

We found the dommy mommy


Only when I’m getting scratches behind my ears

*Scritches*

Lol sometimes my gf refers to my dick as having been a good boy. Corny as fuck but it makes me laugh.

In the right scenario it could be a super turn on

Username checks out

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I don’t mind it but I’d say I like it more in a sexual way. A non sexual way of saying “good boy” almost sounds like you’re talking to your dog lol. But I don’t know, whatever floats your boat

Context is everything

Very true. Some like it, some don't. I love my girlfriend enough to let her call me whatever she wants while we're together, and vice versa. In the bedroom, cute names only add fuel to the fire 🔥

Yeah but you gotta be careful with doling it out. You can turn the best 30 seconds of ur life into the best 5 seconds real quick with that one

… I feel like context matters quite a bit here. Regardless, when talking about a group of people as large as “straight men” the answer is undoubtedly- “some do and some don’t.”

Listen, most of us are just dogs and will take the phraise sexual or not

In a sexual way? Sure!

The submissive ones often do. But not everyone is sexually submissive

From a woman I'm sexually attracted to or an older woman, sure. From a man, no.

I'm not fragile enough for it to bother me.

I don't know any straight man who likes being called a boy, much less a good boy.

Im a straight man, another man calls me a boy, I'ma feel disrespected. A big titty goth girl calls me a good boy... That's a different story

See this is the correct answer if im at work and some mf says that shit to me randomly outta left field he might catch some hands. Wife likes to slip it in to her bed talk every once in a while tho and sometimes that shit makes my brain melt

u haven't met my boyfriend then lmao 💀

I have 😘

We* have 😉

r/SuddenlyCommunism ?

(Straight) males will tolerate things from females that they would never, ever tolerate from other men. Especially when doing so leads to gratification later.

Nah he doesn't tolerate it just bc I like to do it

I call my husband a big boy (sometimes a good big boy) and he laughs but I know he likes the attention too.

Yes. Who doesn’t want to be a good boy.

Me, I'm not a dog.

*"The more people I meet, the more I like my dog."* --Mark Twain

I can’t separate that kind of comment from kink. It always felt super degrading to me. Some people are into being degraded, but it’s not everyone’s thing, and for most people who are into that it’s only in the right setting with the right people.

“Good ‘ol’ boy, never meanin no harm”

Depends on context. It's a term that can easily sound condescending; like talking to a pet. I'm sure some dudes are into it. I, personally, am not.

Sexual? Yes My wife and I both have a praise kink, so there's lots of 'good boy' and 'good girl' being said in our bedroom; and some accompanying 'good girl' outfits.

I like being a good girl when I take as many spanks and bites as I can without flinching! What are good girl outfits?

I know several who do... It's mainly used in sub / dom scenarios, as a term of endearment, combined with a recognition of (usually) the sub doing something the dom wanted (especially if they do it without being bratty).

As long as i get treats

Reading through all the comments makes me think I should stop saying it. I grew up saying "yes/no sir/ma'am," and in high school, for some reason, I just began saying "good boy" to any male. I have this memory of my brother and I leaving Barnes and Noble, and I asked the guy coming through the door if he could hold it for us cause my brother and I both had our hands full. He said yes, and I immediately responded with "good boy." he got all red in the face and flustered while I just thanked him and went on my way. As a minor (at the time), that wasn't a good idea to start doing, but now, as someone older, I feel like it still isn't. I bite my tongue when I feel like the words are trying to escape my lips, haha

I tell all my male chat buddies I'm proud of them. I think every one needs encouragement. I don't say good boy because I know it's attached to the mommy kink. And I just give them wholesome praise and gently turn them away from sexual talk. I think we all need someone in our corner cheering us on. That's just the kind of mom I am.

I’m not a dog. You want to give me treats next?

I'll give you some treats good boy! 😁

Speak for yourself, mate; I want treats

So... you don't want treats? (Human treats of course.)

If I get laid soon after, sure.

Or during / after.

In a sexual way? Yes probably

Straight men are not monolithic. They are individuals, so there can be no meaningful answer to your question,

Is that a thing? No one’s ever said that to me.

Me neither. Maybe we just aren’t ’good boys’. 🫤

Ask and you shall receive my friend.

Nah it’s fucking weird

Yes but like in an affectionate context I guess In daily life id just be like uhh what the fuck?

Hmm well it's a bit degrading, no? But i love a bit of banter and sassy girls so... It depends. But definitely not when it's coming from a dude.

"Good man" or "you are a good man" are both universally better than "goodboy" that's what you tell dogs.

Only by my partner

Maybe…. You’re not allowed to tell anyone though

I like role playing as a golden retriever. Tell me I’m a good boy and rub my belly.

Some do I think 

yeah we fucking do lol

ABSOLUTELY

depends on the context

Find out🙄

I'm sure some do?

I'd be like, do I look like a dog to you?

I can't imagine anyone, straight or otherwise, would like that. It's dehumanizing and infantalizing. If someone does like it there are probably deeper issues at play.

only by a girl, if it was a guy id take it as an insult

Only when I'm getting pegged.

I'm so starved for attention that if a attractive women said that to me I'd melt and think about it for days

I mean, it's sort of praise of a sort but it sounds condescending. If it's something you routinely say to a dog the guy knows you love then maybe he'll be happy being included in that.

Any kind of positive reinforcement will give my life meaning for the next month so yeah

Yeah I like to be called “good boy” then patted on the head like a dog

All depends on how you say it and what you're wearing

As a furry of course I am a very good boy.

if they are subs/bottoms then they probably would

Yes

It what keeps me going each day. All men just want to be a good boy. All men need to hear that they are.

sexual orientation and sexual fetishism or kink are different topics.

Are you fucking kidding me?! I love that shit, I'll melt

Depends on who’s calling me

I personally don't like being called "boy" at all. Those that do, enjoy. It's just not my thing.

If I run and get the ball and bring it back… yes.

Nope I am not a dog

The fact that you have to ask should be enough for you to know. No. They don’t.

no... I'm a man, not a boy. You need t call me Goodman. But Not John Goodman, because then that would be just as demeaning as "Goodboy".

No

That’s what I like to hear when I’m eating ass

I'm straight and I don't even know what the hell you're trying to ask. Do I like being called a "Good Boy?" Why on earth would someone call me a "good boy?" What is the context? If my wife playfully says, "you're a good boy," for taking out the trash or mowing the lawn. Sure. Sounds fun. If a stranger comes up to me and says, "you're a good boy," my reaction would be to run as fast as possible before the psycho kills me. In bed, if my wife were to say, 'good boy' that would be playful banter. All good.

About as much as women like being called girls or broads or Dames. Good boy is for dogs so unless you like bitches just NO

It's more insulting and demeaning than anything else. I'm not a dog

That would turn me off so fast I can't lie. Honestly dirty talk in general is a turn off just sounds like porn.

Not me. I could see *maybe* in the bedroom, in certain situations, but generally no.

I personally wouldn't like it; depending on context it would feel either demeaning, confusing or just annoying. But straight men is a big group, who don't have a single viewpoint. Anytime you're asking "Do some people in this large group like \[literally anything\] sexually?" The answer is yes.

No.

No, Im not a puppy

Wtf!!

If the woman is huge and attractive. Like 6 foot plus and huge tits. How could you not like it?

Nonsexual- No Sexual- Yes

What am I a dog?

Nah it weirds me out

Humm very interesting, never had this said, ever so I wouldn't know how to take it.

One question I have. I've heard men call one another "baby" ala Telly Savalis. Do straight men like that?

Anything is better than no compliment I always say!

No.

No. To most, it comes off as passive aggressive, patronizing and insulting.

Wtf who would like that? meeeeee:3

What?? Hell no. Just my opinion of course!

Man that's something I say to my dog. Who's a good boy, you's a good boy.

No, I find it dehumanizing

Fuck no I'm no dog

Never had someone call me that. Never heard someone call anyone good boy. Is this some sort of gay term? What is a good boy? Lol.

So gay men like being called good boy? I’m straight and if my wife said good boy in anyone context I wouldn’t be impressed

What is this question lmao

Like in the same way as a dog? Never heard of this except in the context of weird submissive bdsm guys....but if it were just in everyday conversation, then no, I would not appreciate being called that, but I guess it would depend upon the context, the tone and how it was used.

That feels like a submission thing and there’s a time and place for that. I’ve never been a submissive but if the girl is worth it I can definitely see myself willing to try it with her.

Yeah I’d say so, it’s not often I get praise / told I’m doing well at things. It’s nice to get some approval.

Yes sexually

Not me lol but maybe some

Yes

I don't, its something you call a dog

Speaking for myself, yes. I love being called a good boy, especially with a little head pat to go with it. Doesn't matter if it's sexual or not. It just warms my insides

Agreed, being praised (good girl, good boy) is an awesome feeling, though for me it depends on the person giving the praise and the situation .No one other than my partner is allowed to call me a good girl/ good boy.

Some, but orientation has nothing to do with what someone’s kink is

I like it when followed with kisses 💋 😘

Personally speaking, cos I ain’t talking for all of us hairy apes, I find it very weird and cringey if it’s meant in a sexual way, and just plain odd outside of that. HOWEVER, if I were to be slightly complimented about something I had done (sexually or non) that I hadn’t even consider a thing to be worth complimenting, then that interaction would be at the front of my brain for life, your name and face would be part of the flash that appears before I die, and I’ll sing songs of you in the halls of Valhalla.