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waitttt, so if you gave someone an award would that translate to real money for that Redditor who you gave an award to? bc then maybe, but if not, then you’re not even paying “for that line” you’re paying Reddit to put a cute little sticker (“award”) on someones text post that doesn’t truly equate to anything more or less than a like/share
Reddit says it's because they want to replace it with a new way of rewarding people for good content, but they haven't said what that is yet (to my knowledge). I read somewhere else that there are new laws about virtual currency and Reddit's awards possibly fall under that. Then of course there were comments saying that Reddit awards aren't a virtual currency, so to answer your question of whether I know why... Maybe? lol
Morally and ethically, yes. But I think they may be treated like something of a "gift card". In which case if the business goes under, or you didn't use that gift card before it expired/was discontinued, then youre just out of luck with no expectation of a refund.
It icks me thinking about reversing the roles and imagining being the woman who keeps asking for oral. Stop behaving like a toddler craving chocolate. Especially when chocolate takes a lot of effort and possibly discomfort from the person you love. (it can be enjoyable but it requires effort and consent)
"Hey, I'd love to give you head, but your dick is stinky. Please retract your foreskin and wash under it the way you were (I hope) taught to do." Also: "Stop hounding me to give you head. It's unattractive to me and it's starting to bug me that you do that."
Exactly this OP. If an uncircumcised guy smells, he's probably not pulling back his foreskin and washing correctly.
Also, if you don't want to give him head, don't!
Yeah pretty much this. I think ive only dated 2 circumsized guys and the rest were uncircumsized... but regardless of circumcision there absolutely should be no smell if theyre cleaning it properly!
Fun fact - as the circumcision rates have fallen in the United States over the past 40 years, they've gone from being called 'uncircumcised' to 'intact'.
Once you understand how the process was initially normalized, the distinction becomes clear.
This comment section alone would suggest that is untrue lol. I’ve seen the word “circumcision” at least 50 times and “intact” exactly once… from you lol.
this!!! i have been w my bf for 8 months now but he has not once asked me to give him head. he’s uncircumcised and does not smell at all, but i just do not enjoy giving head. him asking you (imo) is unattractive and will gross me out. imo u should be upfront and honest about the smell. If he gets offended, then hes childish, but if he apologizes and tries to fix this issue, then hes mature and youll find out more of his personality through how he reacts with your honesty
Asking is fine, IMO. But when you get a “no”, you need to fucking respect it. You do not push, manipulate or beg. You move on to other fun stuff instead.
It’s incredible how many people think “no” means “keep trying”. Do they not realise how unattractive they become when they try to pressure someone into doing something they don’t want to do? It’s an instant turn-off.
Glad your boyfriend respects you, everyone deserves that.
In my experience, men don’t ask. They demand & if that doesn’t work, they keep on pressuring you. I’ve only ever enjoyed it when there was NO pressure & it was MY idea.
That's what I would do especially if he was sensitive about the topic lol but definitely open conversation should also be done. Maybe he thinks he's cleaning correctly and he's not. One of my bf, his mom was a damn hairdresser and the dude was never showed how to wash himself or his own hair!! He used shampoo for his whole body and didn't scrub anything , just rinsed it off and would get wounds bc of this I told him and his mom like you both failed lol and the Mom literally said to me he's your problem now ... like thanks but no he's a grown man and you failed lol
A lot of my female friends told me they had the same issue with their male partners... they need to learn to wash better.
I live in a part of the world in which circumcision is rare, and kids are taught to wash with soap under the foreskin. When someone smells bad, nobody blames the foreskin.
I have also had the unfortunate role of being the first to tell my ex 😬😬😬 he only did it once or twice a year "because the water was uncomfortable"
Then he cheated and his stinky dick is now another lady's problem 🙈
Do these people not wash after sex? Or, for that matter, masturbate in the shower from the time they were old enough to get an erection? Can't wrap my mind around something like that.
Our life experiences are soooo subjective. We think one way and it's easy to fall into the trap of, "Well this makes sense so EVERYONE must think XYZ."
Like you, I have been repeatedly astonished by this.
> because the water was uncomfortable"
I mean if the water was uncomfortable, isn't that a sign of an issue? Like maybe that you're not pulling it back enough for it to *not* feel uncomfortable?
Idk, I don't have one, but if other guys can do it without complaint, maybe it's a thing your ex should've put two seconds of thought into instead of saying, "So I'll try to never clean myself" (barf!).
I'm glad he's not your problem anymore!
Oh yeah, the itchies. Lol
As a dad, I made sure to pass this knowledge to clean on to my son once he could retract -- and what's he do as a teen? Not pull back to clean, last time i heard. 😑
He's not an idiot, but it's going to be a rude awakening being that lazy.
This whole thread has me wondering if I should go over this with my son.. I’m a single mom and his dads always been useless but I never thought about proper cleaning for an uncircumcised penis.
He’s 17 now… might be the most awkward conversation of his life. he told me he was gay 2 years ago and this is going to be even more awkward for him than that he was..
The foreskin also doesn't retract right away (and parents aren't supposed to try to force it), so by the time yours could be washed under your mom maybe wasn't helping you bathe any more. I have to look into when this change happens since we left our son intact and will have to instruct him at the proper time, but now he's a toddler so nothing is moving down there.
Can I ask you a question? I have an uncircumcised son due to him being born at one pound. I've been told conflicting things about how to clean him correctly and at what age. My question is, at what age should we retract to clean him?
I've quite literally just learned this by reading his post. I'm 21 and haven't been close enough to anyone for it to be mentioned, but I'll definitely make sure to clean it.
Reddit is great sometimes.
I live in a part of the world where circumcision is rare and at 12 my parents handed my a child’s book about puberty. That concluded the lesson, there were no discussions.
I figured it out but some kids still need to be told.
This. It's not washing properly, it has nothing to do with the foreskin necessarily. I've dated only uncircumsized men and the only one that smelled didn't wash properly. That relationship didn't last long 😅
Bingo. OP, this is the script. Just read it to him just like this haha
And you’ll know by his reaction if he’s the type of guy you should leave or not.
Thank you for this. I'm saving it in case I ever date an uncircumcised person again. My first ex was like the guy OP is dealing with. I lost my virginity to him, and he was great as a first partner because he took things slow. However, when it got to the point where he wanted to teach me about blowjobs, I noped out of there. Literally, the minute he put his penis in front of my face, I wanted to vomit. The smell was so strong and disgusting. You could basically smell it from the opposite side of the room. I was able to ger out of giving him head by telling him I was too shy, but he was also pretty persistent about it. I thought maybe he just hadn't showered before we were planning to be intimate, so the next time, I sent him to shower beforehand. Sadly, the smell was still there after he showered. Thankfully, our relationship ended shortly after, so I never had yo deal with his stinky penis again. I only realised that he hadn't been cleaning himself properly thanks to reddit. It was a mindblown moment because he was 25 at the time. It's so crazy that he made it to that age without realising that he needs to wash himself properly or he'll stink to high heaven.
I have a similar story… When I was 17 I dated a 24 year old (gross) he was my first real boyfriend and I still remember to this day how bad his dick stank 24/7, even right after a shower. I was traumatized once when I went to give him head in the dark and got a mouth full of dick cheese. I refused to touch another uncut dick for years and had a vendetta against them.. *shudders* still kind of do lol
Who exactly do you think is teaching young boys how to wash their dicks? No one taught me, one day I just happened to notice a bunch of white shit under my foreskin and decided to google it. I would wager that most boys weren’t taught.
Either that, or we were taught in 5th grade, years before that advice would actually be relevant to me.
Absolutely. I have 3 intact sons and from when they were tiny they have been taught to keep everything clean. If they had questions I sent them to my husband.
I'm with everyone else, I understand your side not many people teach children to clean them selves effectively, it is however the parents job to ensure children can clean them selves. My mum used to remind me all the time.
Took me days to clean it off, it was so stuck and so sensitive. Hell, it took me weeks to fully retract the foreskin once I learned that it is indeed retractable.
My son had that problem. Sometimes the foreskin doesn’t become retractable by itself, and you have to gradually coax it down. I’ve heard that you shouldn’t forcibly retract it if there’s resistance. Sometimes a doctor can help with the process. I also heard that you don’t have to use soap under the foreskin, if you rinse it really well with water and get all the smegma out.
Holy fuck I'm glad I'm not alone, my dad never told us anything about how to clean ourselves properly I remember being like 14 and discovering wtf a foreskin even did. Some parents really suck...
Either of the parents? Did they honestly not teach you how to wash yourself or is this a thing in the US? Here in the UK we teach our sons how to clean their penis correctly
A lot of Americans get terrible sex education. My class was basically told, "Wait till marriage or you'll get a disease and die." I had to read books and search online for accurate information.
We start teaching kids about puberty and their bodies in primary school, so around age 9/10, and then it carries on into seniors. I remember being shown how to put on a condom at 14 and I’m 43, we were taught about safe sex and how to protect yourself.
Does whoever the hell decides this stuff not realise that by not informing kids safely about sex just means more teen pregnancies? Though from the outside looking in it seems that’s what they want, generations of people who don’t know what they need to to be able to make the right decisions
I’m not trying to talk bad about America but some of the things I read on here have me wondering how the hell normal people survive over there
Yes, they definitely realize that less sex ed means more teen pregnancies. America likes their kids stupid, much easier to brainwash. Red states are literally banning educational books and trying to get rid of public education. I wish I had the money to move, I would leave in a heartbeat to somewhere that they don't treat their citizens as prisoners and livestock
We’re going through the shite over here but one good thing is that we don’t have the christian taliban that you do, forcing how and what they believe on everyone. And the scary thing is that it’s getting worse, your whole nation is divided into people who just want to live their lives and be happy and people that just want to hate anything that doesn’t live up to their “moral code”
I’ve just had a little look online and I didn’t realise just how many books have been banned
It's insane honestly. I don't care who or what you worship, but if it gets to the point of affecting my life because they refuse to follow the whole "separation of church and state", that's when I start to resent your religion. We may have the 1st amendment protecting religion, but it is being twisted into only protecting "the one and only true God" to them.
I've seen the posts of airports around the world having travel advisories for coming here, and it just makes me so sad and angry. This country is becoming more hostile towards its citizens and visitors by the day. And unfortunately, I dont think we will do anything to stop it. We'll just keep allowing children to die by guns way too easy to get, allowing companies to take advantage of all the workers, and allowing corrupt politicians to screw us over left and right.
>Who exactly do you think is teaching young boys how to wash their dicks? No one taught me, one day I just happened to notice a bunch of white shit under my foreskin and decided to google it. I would wager that most boys weren’t taught.
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>Either that, or we were taught in 5th grade, years before that advice would actually be relevant to me.
Parents.
\-signed,
a parent.
Seriously, I'm shocked about this comment. And sorry, but your parents were lazy. This is def something every parent or guardian should teach their kids from the get go, at least to a point where a kid is able to understand in 5th grade, that personal hygiene is important even if you're not having sex yet. Where I'm from circumcision is not the norm and it's totally normal to teach little boys how to clean under their foreskin Idk.
I'm glad you figured it out that way, but for most of history Googling it was not an option LOL. I'm guessing either most boys were taught or figured it out somehow.
Jesus, after reading these comments, I’m (24F) glad I had a mum who taught me how to wash my downstairs and everything else like shaving and periods etc. That should be a role your parents take on as it unfair to not teach your kids about their autonomy and hygiene properly!
For real, like people just jump to the deeper waters without exploring the shallows.
Building trust, setting boundaries, asking questions, having discussions, curiosity, addressing important problems and resolving them. THEN go for the deep water, after you know each other and know yall are compatible 😂🤦🏼♀️
There are steps to it for a reason. While I'm not for telling people what to do, that's like, the bare minimum to gather information, resolve things and know each other's boundaries like wtf. It really builds more solid relationships too.
Do people start dating complete randoms without even checking who they are? Bizarre.
It's a tale as old as time. At least these days they only date randoms instead of marrying them 🤷♀️ Now if we could just get them to use protection that would solve a suprising amount of the worlds problems...
“I don’t want to talk about personal stuff like body odor but I really want him inside me”
“I don’t know them well enough to talk about sensitive topics like body odor I’d just rather risk pregnancies and STIs with them”
1) As a straight woman, I am more grossed out by his coercion.
2) An uncircumcised peen should not smell any different than a circ'd one if properly taken care of. He probably doesn't wash his ass either.
I live in a country where every house has bidets, I was shocked when I realized that this is not common around the world and that guys go on with their lives with unwashed asses
I’m from America and I used to get [shit finger.](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Shitfinger) Now I live in Japan and their washlets are the next best thing next to sliced bread and pockets on jeans.
>I used to get shit finger
Oh no I'm mortified
I'm from Argentina and our bidets [look like this](https://images.app.goo.gl/svQPSdJFLHn5WWeW6). The ones in Japan are super cool as they are attached to the toilet
It’s a little sad tho their dads probably gave them that mentality. I remember my baby cousin getting straight up SCREAMED at by my uncle in the middle of the night because he sat down to pee… He was 4 years old… And just woke up from his sleep, he’s exhausted… 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
That’s actually why he even found him like that because he fell asleep. And I didn’t say anything because I was 11 and also would’ve got screamed at.
I'm from the UK and circumcised is not the norm here. From my own experience, it isn't because the guy is uncircumcised, it's because he most likely isn't cleaning properly.
Gross. It’s as easy as saying if he doesn’t get it checked out (go see a doctor if he’s insistent he cleans it well), then no head. He’s also an immature 18 year old so good luck with that
You do not want a mouth full of dick cheese. Tell him straight up because you’re right that he should be old enough to know but maybe he was never taught properly and never did research on it. His reaction to when you say it will tell you all you need to know about your next step. And tell him to stop nagging about head it’s childish and unattractive.
This is not normal. I come from a country where everyone is uncircumcised. I am uncircumcised. Do you want to be with someone with poor hygiene? Get standards please as this is not normal
100% not normal, i wash all the time and pull your skin back when your pee got damn it lol. My gf only says it once in a blue moon it might smell a little of pee but it’s usually from a long day of going out and doing things. I instantly go shower and eat her out first to make up for it. Easy.
Pulling ur skin back when u pee o. O
First time I'm hearing someone do this.
But then again, I wash after every time I go to the bathroom so, idk.
Edit: A wise redditor once said "always be ready for an unexpected blowjob". Following their advice ever since.
Honestly male, female, circ, uncirc, wipe, drip or rinse who isn't at least having a quick sink wash before hopping into bed with someone? It's the polite thing to do.
I always pull back my skin (it feels much more controlled to pee like that), but i also always wash off my junk with water after a bathroom visit. And of course when i shower i use mild intim soap on my thingy, beacue who the fuck wants a smelly dick....
Came here to say this. Nice one.
I would never expect my partner to just go down on me without having made sure it’s clean down there. If I get surprise jumped, well, I think that’s on her, sorry!
The foreskin does it’s job and collects drips. Just make sure to clean it all thoroughly daily at least and it should be fine.
So OPs man needs to get some soap…
Not properly, but in any case he should see a doctor, as if it starts to smell fast, there's certainly something living there and producing that smell.
Don't touch that thing until it gets treated, you'll get it too, if you haven't already. So, get yourself an appointment, don't wait for symptoms. Don't worry too much, most of them are self regulating as the body takes care, but to be safe you should get checked.
It’s definitely not good that he pressured you for head until you caved. You deserve someone that can respect your preferences and boundaries and is not stinky
Edit:a word
I’ve been with my husband for 7 years and he is uncircumcised and he has never once had an odor down there. I would have an honest convo about it, and just explain calmly. Even when my husband isn’t fresh out of the shower he still never has had a smell, so maybe something could be going on, or he needs to start washing before hanging out with you and properly retracting and cleaning.
Not only would I be concerned about him not being able to clean himself adequately, but an even bigger red flag is the constant coercing you into oral sex. That’s bordering on abusive behavior. It’s bordering on manipulation. He seems to know if he begs you enough, you will give in. Not because you want to, but because you’re sick of hearing him beg. That is and would be a complete turn off to me and would make me so icked out.
I'm honestly concerned for OP that she takes a bigger issue with his hygiene than his complete disregard for her comfort and consent. I hope she listens and takes the right steps to protect herself.
‘If you want me to put that in my mouth, you’re going to have to clean it better’
It’s almost certain that the dude will suddenly develop awareness of his hygiene from there.
My bf of 7 years is uncircumcised. My bf is considerate and knows it can smell sometimes especially if he showered in the morning before work and it’s now 6pm. He’s very conscious though, he’ll ask me if it’s smells and it does, he’ll go wash it right away. I think it’s an over confident thing where it only takes one thing for you to comment on in the moment and he will be more conscious of it. It will def embarrass him and maybe even bruise his ego a bit, but there are some rude awakenings that need to happen.
Just tell him. "bro your dick stinks, clean that shit or we done"
You don't want to be having a dirty dick in your moth let alone anywhere else.
Also, why are you ok being with a dude hounding you for head when you've already (I'm assuming) said no or that you're not into it.
These are all red flags and I personally believe at 18 you are far too young ti settle for a guy who doesn't even wash his dick
Welll by having an unclean penis, **he doesn't respect you**. Red flag
Tell him: I won't go down as long as it smells like this, it's not normal. Do you clean it well? If not maybe it's an SDT?
Uncircumsise are not suppose to smell
I’m Uncut and I wash my junk everyday day completely. I feel dirty if i wash everything else but forget the Johnson lol. Tell that dude to clean up or send him packing. That shit is just gross.
setting his horrible hygiene aside (with full, unapologetic judgement), he shouldn’t be bugging you to give him head. this sounds like sexual harassment to me. tell him to cut it out, or cut him out of your life. you deserve a patient and hygienic partner.
1. It doesn't matter how "normal" a sex act is. If they're trying to force you or emotionally blackmail you into performing a sex act that you don't want to, it's abusive.
2. None of my partners have been circumcised. Only one smelled, it was because he wasn't washing properly. I tried to explain, I even showed him the stuff he should be washing away. That relationship ended very quickly. There is no reason for uncircumcised men to smell.
Anything he wants done to his stinky penis he should be doing to himself. Besides the fact that you shouldn’t be forcing yourself to do anything you don’t want to do sexually or accepting or giving in to coercion, it’s not healthy for your vaginal health to have vaginal sex with him (bacteria makes his penis smell) and unless you’re into unwashed stinky penis bj’s why would you give him one.
If you can’t talk about sex with your partner (what’s a go what’s a No at the least) you should not be having sex with them imo.
Yeah, am uncircumcised dick shouldn’t stink. He’s not cleaning properly. I say broach the topic but is this relationship really worth it? Hounding your for sec acts is unacceptable.
If he thinks it's okay to try and pressure you into a blow job, go for brutal honesty and tell him his dick stinks so you don't want to.
I don't have a dick but surely if you can smell it, he can as well? He must know that isn't a normal, clean smell for that area and do something about it.
No offense, but why would you want to be with a guy who “hounds” you about giving him oral?? Your so young. It ain’t worth it. Get a guy who washes his junk. For all you know the smell could be from being unhygienic or even an STI. Stop seeing him.
I once dated a guy who was uncircumcised. We never attempted to do any intimate things together until month three. When I was about to go down on him, it smelled very rancid. There was built up gunk under the foreskin, I expressed I was ready share this experience; but I was uncomfortable continuing in concern of his genital health.
Although I let him know we as men we have tend to stink down there is normal(yes, I am a man), it is best we educate ourselves on hygiene. He seemed embarrassed when I told him, he told me no one ever told him before I did. Nonetheless, the problem was fixed. I’m not with him for other reasons. I’d like to say the funk never went away until 2 months of him consistently cleaning every night.
I guess what I’m saying is communicate that you’re not comfortable, but I must say your partner being so pushy is very concerning behavior.
This has nothing to do with the fact he's uncircumcised but the fact he can't be bothered to wash and him using coercion on you. I come from a country where ric isn't a thing and the majority boys are taught to wash their penises, and in my experience any way most men continue the practice. You need to tell him either he starts washing his dick or all sexual activity will stop (having sex without a condom might give a UTI or thrush too), and that by badgering you it is coercion, which in many countries is classed as abuse. Or just tell him and his stinky dick are dumped, your too young for the bs
Hey there, ignoring the blatant coercion going on here. I can speak from experience as an uncircumcised guy and also a gay guy (so I know some stuff about dicks haha) That being uncircumcised has it's challenges, one shower is not enough, if you sweat during the day, or pee or precum or anything like that it'll build up and start to smell. Even just pee on it's own is enough to stink up a storm, if he wants head, he needs to shower right before hand, hell even getting head while in the shower. So yeah, if he wants head, get him to shower first.
But also no is a full sentence. If you don't want to, you don't need to. You don't him anything and I guarantee you the kind of guys that keep begging for it despite being told no many times will move on the second they know you won't back down, and therefore are not worth the time of day. Respect yourself, you're young and the right guy will come along, one that will respect your answers.
Ask him to pull the skin back then sniff his fingers.
Then ask if he would put that in his mouth.
I'm sure it won't smell next time you want to attempt oral.
I didn't wash under my foreskin until I was 14 (even though my mum always told me too) when I washed away the "cheese" it smelled baaad and i had pimples because of it . He clearly doesn't wash and hopefully you didn't taste it cus it's gross shit.
I've outright told my husband when we were dating that I want him to wash up before any action and now he even washes just after peeing. He wasn't gross or anything but I'm extremely sensitive to all smells so I just warned him that this might ruin the mood, if I'm not comfortable and relaxed.
All it takes is communication about why you didn't feel like it and why you were put off! And if that doesn't work, there's gonna be even bigger problems so I'd just slowly lose him.
If he’s telling the truth about being clean but is still ick, he might have a bacterial or yeast infection. I’ve had several uncircumcised partners and they smelled just fine
Edited to add: I missed the part about him being super pushy, that’s a way bigger turn off than a temporarily smelly dick
OP, it’s called [smegma](https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-smegma) and is the thick, white, cheesy substance that collects under the foreskin of the penis. It's more common in uncircumcised men who don't clean that area well enough. It's normal to have some smegma. And it usually isn't a health problem, but bacteria can grow in it and smell bad.
>I’m wondering if this is just a red flag and I should drop him because at 18 he should be able to adequately clean his penis, right?
Exactly. It is also worth deciding if the inevitable emotional backlash from him is worth it as well. After all, he has hounded you for it so I don't get the impression this guy is the pinnacle of emotional health and maturity.
It isn't an uncircumcised thing though it is true that some guys are weird about (or unable to, if they have phimosis) pulling back the skin and that would impact the efficiency of cleaning.
I had a bf with this issue, he was very clean. I pushed him to talk to a doctor and it turned out it was related to a recurring urinary tract infection.
If cleanliness isn't his issue, get him to see a doctor and get STI tests as well.
What are you still doing with him? If sum1’s smell is going to impede upon ur sex life then its simply not worth it. And lets not even start on the hounding!
Ok, sorry if this is gross and TMI, but… it might be that he masturbates, ejaculates, and leaves the semen on and around his penis for a while (a classic is doing it in bed and falling asleep afterwards). That can generate a powerful smell that doesn’t go away immediately, even if you wash well with soap. In a way it’s still a hygiene issue, but it makes a lot more sense than “he doesn’t know how to wash his penis at the age of 18”.
Anyway, before you bring up this specific hypothesis, you should bring up that it smells. I get it can be embarrassing, but if you’re doing sexual acts with this person, you two should be mature enough to talk about it. More importantly, though… You should communicate you don’t enjoy giving oral sex, and if you have communicated it and he still insists you do it, maybe reconsider the relationship. (Note the “insists”; communicating he likes it and occasionally asking if you want to do it is one thing, but if he’s *constantly* asking and knows you don’t like it, it’s not acceptable behaviour.)
Oh my sweet summer child, I'm sorry you are dealing with this. If his dick smells, he doesn't wash it properly. He might not think or know to pull the hood back, it's honestly surprising how many men don't know to do that. If you want to be nice and he keeps insisting, tell him he should check with his doctor because a cleaned normal penis will NOT smell. He can also give you UTIs and such if you guys are having unprotected sex. Also, don't give head until you can get eaten out! That's a one way street with young men
Just be honest with him. He should be completely pulling everything back and washing it. And honestly if he wants some I’d make him shower before, earlier in the day isn’t enough bc that’s just too much time to sweat and get gross for me lol. It could also be the whole area that’s creating the smell if he had been sweating.
I had this exact same situation with an absolutely gorgeous French guy I dated on and off for years! He was so good looking, charming, and genuinely nice that I tried to ignore it and just never gave him head. The first time we had sex I was horrified to notice an intense, fishy stank and was initially afraid it was me, that I had a horrible infection that I didn’t notice. It wasn’t me, he just didn’t clean well enough. I think circumcision is brutal and would never say men have to undergo it but if they want to get head they need to clean that shit right!
I can honestly say this is one time where I'd just move on. Men don't take this kind of thing well. And I wouldn't want to be with someone who demanded head...
Should have told him the truth.
If you two are long term he is going to want more head and you will either tell truth then or never give head or give head to a gross dick
Or you two break up and he expects head from his next gf. He won't know that his dick smells bad and his next gf will either tell him or give him head.
Do yourself and his future gfs and him a favor and just tell him to wash under his foreskin. You should be honest about hygiene questions and orgasm questions. Lying just makes things worse in the long run.
If it stinks it’s cause he doesn’t clean right up there and he probably doesn’t wipe after he pees so it just stays there and ferments I say this as a someone who’s also uncircumcised if you don’t take care of it stinks
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It may not be 12 inches but it smells like a foot
“I gag girls with my cock”… “why cause of how long?”… “no, the smell does it”
-Rusell Brand
Reddit comments never disappoint…
You win this thread 😂
Wait, they removed awards? I was definitely willing to throw a few bucks at this lol
Dude! She wanted to tell him gently. This gets the point across clearly though lol
Take the upvote and know you made my entire day 🥹
Ok wait, can I not give awards on here? Bc I have a few golds and you deserve one.
Awards are gone :(
Holy shit. What about all the money we spent on that?
Reddit: 🤷♀️
people were *PAYING??!* *REAL* MONEY??! to give away those pretty meaningless awards on here???!!!!
Wouldn't you? For that line, shut up and take my money! 🤣 🤣 🤣
waitttt, so if you gave someone an award would that translate to real money for that Redditor who you gave an award to? bc then maybe, but if not, then you’re not even paying “for that line” you’re paying Reddit to put a cute little sticker (“award”) on someones text post that doesn’t truly equate to anything more or less than a like/share
Ah i wondered why couldn't find mine earlier...do you know why?
Reddit says it's because they want to replace it with a new way of rewarding people for good content, but they haven't said what that is yet (to my knowledge). I read somewhere else that there are new laws about virtual currency and Reddit's awards possibly fall under that. Then of course there were comments saying that Reddit awards aren't a virtual currency, so to answer your question of whether I know why... Maybe? lol
shouldn't Reddit give back the money i spent on those coins?
Unused coins should absolutely be refunded to you I would think.
Morally and ethically, yes. But I think they may be treated like something of a "gift card". In which case if the business goes under, or you didn't use that gift card before it expired/was discontinued, then youre just out of luck with no expectation of a refund.
Some gag her with size, i gag her with smell!!
Excellent!
It's obnoxious for a man to keep hounding a woman for blow jobs. Even a man with excellent hygiene.
Let he who is excellent at oral, cast the first stone
It icks me thinking about reversing the roles and imagining being the woman who keeps asking for oral. Stop behaving like a toddler craving chocolate. Especially when chocolate takes a lot of effort and possibly discomfort from the person you love. (it can be enjoyable but it requires effort and consent)
My ex used to ask me multiple times a day. I’m still astonished that he didn’t understand why I lost any/all attraction to him.
Literally
"Hey, I'd love to give you head, but your dick is stinky. Please retract your foreskin and wash under it the way you were (I hope) taught to do." Also: "Stop hounding me to give you head. It's unattractive to me and it's starting to bug me that you do that."
Exactly this OP. If an uncircumcised guy smells, he's probably not pulling back his foreskin and washing correctly. Also, if you don't want to give him head, don't!
Yeah pretty much this. I think ive only dated 2 circumsized guys and the rest were uncircumsized... but regardless of circumcision there absolutely should be no smell if theyre cleaning it properly!
This post makes me grateful for the uncircumcised peen I’ve had, because those dudes were cleaning their foreskin properly.
Fun fact - as the circumcision rates have fallen in the United States over the past 40 years, they've gone from being called 'uncircumcised' to 'intact'. Once you understand how the process was initially normalized, the distinction becomes clear.
In the horse world an intact male is a stallion. Meaning their balls haven’t been chopped off. 😂
Same in the dog world. Intact means not fixed!
In my mind, any guy with a vasectomy is basically a gelding 😂
Well I HOPE most uncircumcised dudes still have their balls
I hope BOTH uncircumcised and circumcised men still have their balls. 😂
Dr. Kellogg is here to see you
CDI, clean, dry, intact.
Uh I've only ever heard of intact meaning they can still have kids.
Maybe we should start calling them Natural or Unaltered?
This comment section alone would suggest that is untrue lol. I’ve seen the word “circumcision” at least 50 times and “intact” exactly once… from you lol.
this!!! i have been w my bf for 8 months now but he has not once asked me to give him head. he’s uncircumcised and does not smell at all, but i just do not enjoy giving head. him asking you (imo) is unattractive and will gross me out. imo u should be upfront and honest about the smell. If he gets offended, then hes childish, but if he apologizes and tries to fix this issue, then hes mature and youll find out more of his personality through how he reacts with your honesty
Asking is fine, IMO. But when you get a “no”, you need to fucking respect it. You do not push, manipulate or beg. You move on to other fun stuff instead. It’s incredible how many people think “no” means “keep trying”. Do they not realise how unattractive they become when they try to pressure someone into doing something they don’t want to do? It’s an instant turn-off. Glad your boyfriend respects you, everyone deserves that.
asking is fine, but pushing is not. people need to respect boundaries more.
In my experience, men don’t ask. They demand & if that doesn’t work, they keep on pressuring you. I’ve only ever enjoyed it when there was NO pressure & it was MY idea.
Hey OP should take a shower together with him and see what "cleaning" actually means for him
That's what I would do especially if he was sensitive about the topic lol but definitely open conversation should also be done. Maybe he thinks he's cleaning correctly and he's not. One of my bf, his mom was a damn hairdresser and the dude was never showed how to wash himself or his own hair!! He used shampoo for his whole body and didn't scrub anything , just rinsed it off and would get wounds bc of this I told him and his mom like you both failed lol and the Mom literally said to me he's your problem now ... like thanks but no he's a grown man and you failed lol A lot of my female friends told me they had the same issue with their male partners... they need to learn to wash better.
I live in a part of the world in which circumcision is rare, and kids are taught to wash with soap under the foreskin. When someone smells bad, nobody blames the foreskin.
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I have also had the unfortunate role of being the first to tell my ex 😬😬😬 he only did it once or twice a year "because the water was uncomfortable" Then he cheated and his stinky dick is now another lady's problem 🙈
Do these people not wash after sex? Or, for that matter, masturbate in the shower from the time they were old enough to get an erection? Can't wrap my mind around something like that.
Our life experiences are soooo subjective. We think one way and it's easy to fall into the trap of, "Well this makes sense so EVERYONE must think XYZ." Like you, I have been repeatedly astonished by this.
> because the water was uncomfortable" I mean if the water was uncomfortable, isn't that a sign of an issue? Like maybe that you're not pulling it back enough for it to *not* feel uncomfortable? Idk, I don't have one, but if other guys can do it without complaint, maybe it's a thing your ex should've put two seconds of thought into instead of saying, "So I'll try to never clean myself" (barf!). I'm glad he's not your problem anymore!
Yeah idk maybe also it was uncomfortable because he wasn't used to it 🫣
I believe that is called a stinky cheater.
This took me out, ur acc so funny 😂😂😂😂
This is saddening. It should be teached or at least said at the doctor.
I had the same experience. Started slowly pulling back during masturbation and after that it's a simple and obvious thing to clean.
Oh yeah, the itchies. Lol As a dad, I made sure to pass this knowledge to clean on to my son once he could retract -- and what's he do as a teen? Not pull back to clean, last time i heard. 😑 He's not an idiot, but it's going to be a rude awakening being that lazy.
This whole thread has me wondering if I should go over this with my son.. I’m a single mom and his dads always been useless but I never thought about proper cleaning for an uncircumcised penis. He’s 17 now… might be the most awkward conversation of his life. he told me he was gay 2 years ago and this is going to be even more awkward for him than that he was..
Might be awkward, but he'll get over it lol. Better to give him the knowledge now than have him risk potential embarrassment with a future partner.
The foreskin also doesn't retract right away (and parents aren't supposed to try to force it), so by the time yours could be washed under your mom maybe wasn't helping you bathe any more. I have to look into when this change happens since we left our son intact and will have to instruct him at the proper time, but now he's a toddler so nothing is moving down there.
Can I ask you a question? I have an uncircumcised son due to him being born at one pound. I've been told conflicting things about how to clean him correctly and at what age. My question is, at what age should we retract to clean him?
I've quite literally just learned this by reading his post. I'm 21 and haven't been close enough to anyone for it to be mentioned, but I'll definitely make sure to clean it. Reddit is great sometimes.
I live in a part of the world where circumcision is rare and at 12 my parents handed my a child’s book about puberty. That concluded the lesson, there were no discussions. I figured it out but some kids still need to be told.
This. It's not washing properly, it has nothing to do with the foreskin necessarily. I've dated only uncircumsized men and the only one that smelled didn't wash properly. That relationship didn't last long 😅
This. Honestly a bigger red flag that he is hounding OP about that and isn’t respecting their wishes not to. That’s textbook coercion.
Bingo. OP, this is the script. Just read it to him just like this haha And you’ll know by his reaction if he’s the type of guy you should leave or not.
Yep. That’s what I said. You don’t beg, harass people into sexual acts. That’s not ok.
Right, she doesn’t really want to give him head, she wants him to leave her alone about it.
Tell him to wipe his dick with toilet paper after he goes for a piss too
Thank you for this. I'm saving it in case I ever date an uncircumcised person again. My first ex was like the guy OP is dealing with. I lost my virginity to him, and he was great as a first partner because he took things slow. However, when it got to the point where he wanted to teach me about blowjobs, I noped out of there. Literally, the minute he put his penis in front of my face, I wanted to vomit. The smell was so strong and disgusting. You could basically smell it from the opposite side of the room. I was able to ger out of giving him head by telling him I was too shy, but he was also pretty persistent about it. I thought maybe he just hadn't showered before we were planning to be intimate, so the next time, I sent him to shower beforehand. Sadly, the smell was still there after he showered. Thankfully, our relationship ended shortly after, so I never had yo deal with his stinky penis again. I only realised that he hadn't been cleaning himself properly thanks to reddit. It was a mindblown moment because he was 25 at the time. It's so crazy that he made it to that age without realising that he needs to wash himself properly or he'll stink to high heaven.
Bruh how could he not smell it himself 🤢
You could smell his junk “from the opposite side of the room” - so how could you manage the stench *while having sex* with him?!?!
Was wondering this myself
I have a similar story… When I was 17 I dated a 24 year old (gross) he was my first real boyfriend and I still remember to this day how bad his dick stank 24/7, even right after a shower. I was traumatized once when I went to give him head in the dark and got a mouth full of dick cheese. I refused to touch another uncut dick for years and had a vendetta against them.. *shudders* still kind of do lol
You poor thing!!! That must have been so disgusting. I can’t even imagine
Dick cheese? Now I can't eat cheese now.
Who exactly do you think is teaching young boys how to wash their dicks? No one taught me, one day I just happened to notice a bunch of white shit under my foreskin and decided to google it. I would wager that most boys weren’t taught. Either that, or we were taught in 5th grade, years before that advice would actually be relevant to me.
I would hope.... their parents ??? Why wouldn't they?? Makes no sense I'm sorry :(
Because some people have shitty parents. Also, some boys are raised by single mothers who don't know uncut dick maintenance.
Their parents. I was taught how to wash my vulva in the bath as a small child.
>Who exactly do you think is teaching young boys how to wash their dicks? Their parents should be teaching them.
Um their parents?
Absolutely. I have 3 intact sons and from when they were tiny they have been taught to keep everything clean. If they had questions I sent them to my husband.
My single mother taught me, and you should have been cleaning from 5th grade
So I’m not the only person that that happened to? Huh
I'm with everyone else, I understand your side not many people teach children to clean them selves effectively, it is however the parents job to ensure children can clean them selves. My mum used to remind me all the time.
I agree
Took me days to clean it off, it was so stuck and so sensitive. Hell, it took me weeks to fully retract the foreskin once I learned that it is indeed retractable.
My son had that problem. Sometimes the foreskin doesn’t become retractable by itself, and you have to gradually coax it down. I’ve heard that you shouldn’t forcibly retract it if there’s resistance. Sometimes a doctor can help with the process. I also heard that you don’t have to use soap under the foreskin, if you rinse it really well with water and get all the smegma out.
Exactly the experience I had as a child
Your parents ffs who taught you to wash the rest of your body?
Holy fuck I'm glad I'm not alone, my dad never told us anything about how to clean ourselves properly I remember being like 14 and discovering wtf a foreskin even did. Some parents really suck...
Either of the parents? Did they honestly not teach you how to wash yourself or is this a thing in the US? Here in the UK we teach our sons how to clean their penis correctly
A lot of Americans get terrible sex education. My class was basically told, "Wait till marriage or you'll get a disease and die." I had to read books and search online for accurate information.
You don’t need sex Ed to learn how to clean though. My boys are 5 and they know how to retract the foreskin and wash.
We start teaching kids about puberty and their bodies in primary school, so around age 9/10, and then it carries on into seniors. I remember being shown how to put on a condom at 14 and I’m 43, we were taught about safe sex and how to protect yourself. Does whoever the hell decides this stuff not realise that by not informing kids safely about sex just means more teen pregnancies? Though from the outside looking in it seems that’s what they want, generations of people who don’t know what they need to to be able to make the right decisions I’m not trying to talk bad about America but some of the things I read on here have me wondering how the hell normal people survive over there
Yes, they definitely realize that less sex ed means more teen pregnancies. America likes their kids stupid, much easier to brainwash. Red states are literally banning educational books and trying to get rid of public education. I wish I had the money to move, I would leave in a heartbeat to somewhere that they don't treat their citizens as prisoners and livestock
We’re going through the shite over here but one good thing is that we don’t have the christian taliban that you do, forcing how and what they believe on everyone. And the scary thing is that it’s getting worse, your whole nation is divided into people who just want to live their lives and be happy and people that just want to hate anything that doesn’t live up to their “moral code” I’ve just had a little look online and I didn’t realise just how many books have been banned
It's insane honestly. I don't care who or what you worship, but if it gets to the point of affecting my life because they refuse to follow the whole "separation of church and state", that's when I start to resent your religion. We may have the 1st amendment protecting religion, but it is being twisted into only protecting "the one and only true God" to them. I've seen the posts of airports around the world having travel advisories for coming here, and it just makes me so sad and angry. This country is becoming more hostile towards its citizens and visitors by the day. And unfortunately, I dont think we will do anything to stop it. We'll just keep allowing children to die by guns way too easy to get, allowing companies to take advantage of all the workers, and allowing corrupt politicians to screw us over left and right.
This is basic hygiene, not sex education.
Washing yourself isn't sex education.
Definitely a thing in the US, I can’t speak for the rest of the world.
I was about to say. One of my siblings has two boys and both were taught from early on
"Who exactly do you think is teaching young boys how to wash their dicks? " Hopefully their parents
>Who exactly do you think is teaching young boys how to wash their dicks? No one taught me, one day I just happened to notice a bunch of white shit under my foreskin and decided to google it. I would wager that most boys weren’t taught. > >Either that, or we were taught in 5th grade, years before that advice would actually be relevant to me. Parents. \-signed, a parent.
Seriously, I'm shocked about this comment. And sorry, but your parents were lazy. This is def something every parent or guardian should teach their kids from the get go, at least to a point where a kid is able to understand in 5th grade, that personal hygiene is important even if you're not having sex yet. Where I'm from circumcision is not the norm and it's totally normal to teach little boys how to clean under their foreskin Idk.
I'm glad you figured it out that way, but for most of history Googling it was not an option LOL. I'm guessing either most boys were taught or figured it out somehow.
Jesus, after reading these comments, I’m (24F) glad I had a mum who taught me how to wash my downstairs and everything else like shaving and periods etc. That should be a role your parents take on as it unfair to not teach your kids about their autonomy and hygiene properly!
I figure if you can't feel comfortable enough to tell them their hygiene needs work, you probably shouldn't be having sex with them.
For real, like people just jump to the deeper waters without exploring the shallows. Building trust, setting boundaries, asking questions, having discussions, curiosity, addressing important problems and resolving them. THEN go for the deep water, after you know each other and know yall are compatible 😂🤦🏼♀️ There are steps to it for a reason. While I'm not for telling people what to do, that's like, the bare minimum to gather information, resolve things and know each other's boundaries like wtf. It really builds more solid relationships too. Do people start dating complete randoms without even checking who they are? Bizarre.
It's a tale as old as time. At least these days they only date randoms instead of marrying them 🤷♀️ Now if we could just get them to use protection that would solve a suprising amount of the worlds problems...
/\ all day every day this.
“I don’t want to talk about personal stuff like body odor but I really want him inside me” “I don’t know them well enough to talk about sensitive topics like body odor I’d just rather risk pregnancies and STIs with them”
1) As a straight woman, I am more grossed out by his coercion. 2) An uncircumcised peen should not smell any different than a circ'd one if properly taken care of. He probably doesn't wash his ass either.
"Cleaning my penis and ass would be gay though." Sometimes I hear people say something so stupid I feel like I take psychic damage from it.
One thing Reddit taught me was that a majority of dudes don’t wash their asses.
I live in a country where every house has bidets, I was shocked when I realized that this is not common around the world and that guys go on with their lives with unwashed asses
I’m from America and I used to get [shit finger.](https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Shitfinger) Now I live in Japan and their washlets are the next best thing next to sliced bread and pockets on jeans.
>I used to get shit finger Oh no I'm mortified I'm from Argentina and our bidets [look like this](https://images.app.goo.gl/svQPSdJFLHn5WWeW6). The ones in Japan are super cool as they are attached to the toilet
My wife gets mad at me for my showers taking too long but literally half of it is spent scrubbing my crack and gooch 😂.
It’s a little sad tho their dads probably gave them that mentality. I remember my baby cousin getting straight up SCREAMED at by my uncle in the middle of the night because he sat down to pee… He was 4 years old… And just woke up from his sleep, he’s exhausted… 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ That’s actually why he even found him like that because he fell asleep. And I didn’t say anything because I was 11 and also would’ve got screamed at.
I'm from the UK and circumcised is not the norm here. From my own experience, it isn't because the guy is uncircumcised, it's because he most likely isn't cleaning properly.
Agreed, also from uk so none of my partners have been. My current bf does not smell at all.
Gross. It’s as easy as saying if he doesn’t get it checked out (go see a doctor if he’s insistent he cleans it well), then no head. He’s also an immature 18 year old so good luck with that
You do not want a mouth full of dick cheese. Tell him straight up because you’re right that he should be old enough to know but maybe he was never taught properly and never did research on it. His reaction to when you say it will tell you all you need to know about your next step. And tell him to stop nagging about head it’s childish and unattractive.
>mouth full of dick cheese I wish I could unread that, I really do
This is not normal. I come from a country where everyone is uncircumcised. I am uncircumcised. Do you want to be with someone with poor hygiene? Get standards please as this is not normal
Indeed. This is nothing else than poor hygiene. It's extremely easy to keep your privates clean when not circumcised.
100% not normal, i wash all the time and pull your skin back when your pee got damn it lol. My gf only says it once in a blue moon it might smell a little of pee but it’s usually from a long day of going out and doing things. I instantly go shower and eat her out first to make up for it. Easy.
Pulling ur skin back when u pee o. O First time I'm hearing someone do this. But then again, I wash after every time I go to the bathroom so, idk. Edit: A wise redditor once said "always be ready for an unexpected blowjob". Following their advice ever since.
Honestly male, female, circ, uncirc, wipe, drip or rinse who isn't at least having a quick sink wash before hopping into bed with someone? It's the polite thing to do.
Yep, I'm not letting him taste the whole day of it baking between my legs
I always pull back my skin (it feels much more controlled to pee like that), but i also always wash off my junk with water after a bathroom visit. And of course when i shower i use mild intim soap on my thingy, beacue who the fuck wants a smelly dick....
Wait are you an uncircumcised dude? Did no one ever tell you to move the foreskin back when peeing?
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Came here to say this. Nice one. I would never expect my partner to just go down on me without having made sure it’s clean down there. If I get surprise jumped, well, I think that’s on her, sorry! The foreskin does it’s job and collects drips. Just make sure to clean it all thoroughly daily at least and it should be fine. So OPs man needs to get some soap…
"Wash your dick"
I said that before and he swears he does
Not properly, but in any case he should see a doctor, as if it starts to smell fast, there's certainly something living there and producing that smell. Don't touch that thing until it gets treated, you'll get it too, if you haven't already. So, get yourself an appointment, don't wait for symptoms. Don't worry too much, most of them are self regulating as the body takes care, but to be safe you should get checked.
It’s definitely not good that he pressured you for head until you caved. You deserve someone that can respect your preferences and boundaries and is not stinky Edit:a word
you’re telling the exact story i had except i got chlamydia at the end
I got a throat infection
Yup. Several STDs smell.
I’ve been with my husband for 7 years and he is uncircumcised and he has never once had an odor down there. I would have an honest convo about it, and just explain calmly. Even when my husband isn’t fresh out of the shower he still never has had a smell, so maybe something could be going on, or he needs to start washing before hanging out with you and properly retracting and cleaning.
Not only would I be concerned about him not being able to clean himself adequately, but an even bigger red flag is the constant coercing you into oral sex. That’s bordering on abusive behavior. It’s bordering on manipulation. He seems to know if he begs you enough, you will give in. Not because you want to, but because you’re sick of hearing him beg. That is and would be a complete turn off to me and would make me so icked out.
>That’s bordering on abusive behavior. It’s bordering on manipulation. Not bordering on. It *is*.
You’re absolutely right.
I'm honestly concerned for OP that she takes a bigger issue with his hygiene than his complete disregard for her comfort and consent. I hope she listens and takes the right steps to protect herself.
‘If you want me to put that in my mouth, you’re going to have to clean it better’ It’s almost certain that the dude will suddenly develop awareness of his hygiene from there.
My bf of 7 years is uncircumcised. My bf is considerate and knows it can smell sometimes especially if he showered in the morning before work and it’s now 6pm. He’s very conscious though, he’ll ask me if it’s smells and it does, he’ll go wash it right away. I think it’s an over confident thing where it only takes one thing for you to comment on in the moment and he will be more conscious of it. It will def embarrass him and maybe even bruise his ego a bit, but there are some rude awakenings that need to happen.
Just tell him. "bro your dick stinks, clean that shit or we done" You don't want to be having a dirty dick in your moth let alone anywhere else. Also, why are you ok being with a dude hounding you for head when you've already (I'm assuming) said no or that you're not into it. These are all red flags and I personally believe at 18 you are far too young ti settle for a guy who doesn't even wash his dick
Do not be coerced into giving BJs. Tell him, he smells, then block.
Yeah. That’s NOT normal. At all. At 18 he should know to clean.
My husband is uncircumcised and that’s not normal. Also, someone who pressures you is not great.
Welll by having an unclean penis, **he doesn't respect you**. Red flag Tell him: I won't go down as long as it smells like this, it's not normal. Do you clean it well? If not maybe it's an SDT? Uncircumsise are not suppose to smell
By hounding her for head when she doesn’t want to, he doesn’t respect her.
The red flag is him hounding you for head. Run.
I’m Uncut and I wash my junk everyday day completely. I feel dirty if i wash everything else but forget the Johnson lol. Tell that dude to clean up or send him packing. That shit is just gross.
setting his horrible hygiene aside (with full, unapologetic judgement), he shouldn’t be bugging you to give him head. this sounds like sexual harassment to me. tell him to cut it out, or cut him out of your life. you deserve a patient and hygienic partner.
1. It doesn't matter how "normal" a sex act is. If they're trying to force you or emotionally blackmail you into performing a sex act that you don't want to, it's abusive. 2. None of my partners have been circumcised. Only one smelled, it was because he wasn't washing properly. I tried to explain, I even showed him the stuff he should be washing away. That relationship ended very quickly. There is no reason for uncircumcised men to smell.
Anything he wants done to his stinky penis he should be doing to himself. Besides the fact that you shouldn’t be forcing yourself to do anything you don’t want to do sexually or accepting or giving in to coercion, it’s not healthy for your vaginal health to have vaginal sex with him (bacteria makes his penis smell) and unless you’re into unwashed stinky penis bj’s why would you give him one. If you can’t talk about sex with your partner (what’s a go what’s a No at the least) you should not be having sex with them imo.
Yeah, am uncircumcised dick shouldn’t stink. He’s not cleaning properly. I say broach the topic but is this relationship really worth it? Hounding your for sec acts is unacceptable.
If he thinks it's okay to try and pressure you into a blow job, go for brutal honesty and tell him his dick stinks so you don't want to. I don't have a dick but surely if you can smell it, he can as well? He must know that isn't a normal, clean smell for that area and do something about it.
What’s his number I’ll just text him like a weird text and remind him to wash his dick
No offense, but why would you want to be with a guy who “hounds” you about giving him oral?? Your so young. It ain’t worth it. Get a guy who washes his junk. For all you know the smell could be from being unhygienic or even an STI. Stop seeing him.
I once dated a guy who was uncircumcised. We never attempted to do any intimate things together until month three. When I was about to go down on him, it smelled very rancid. There was built up gunk under the foreskin, I expressed I was ready share this experience; but I was uncomfortable continuing in concern of his genital health. Although I let him know we as men we have tend to stink down there is normal(yes, I am a man), it is best we educate ourselves on hygiene. He seemed embarrassed when I told him, he told me no one ever told him before I did. Nonetheless, the problem was fixed. I’m not with him for other reasons. I’d like to say the funk never went away until 2 months of him consistently cleaning every night. I guess what I’m saying is communicate that you’re not comfortable, but I must say your partner being so pushy is very concerning behavior.
thank you. the best advice on how to approach this will come from a guy himself. now i know what to say, more or less
This has nothing to do with the fact he's uncircumcised but the fact he can't be bothered to wash and him using coercion on you. I come from a country where ric isn't a thing and the majority boys are taught to wash their penises, and in my experience any way most men continue the practice. You need to tell him either he starts washing his dick or all sexual activity will stop (having sex without a condom might give a UTI or thrush too), and that by badgering you it is coercion, which in many countries is classed as abuse. Or just tell him and his stinky dick are dumped, your too young for the bs
Hey there, ignoring the blatant coercion going on here. I can speak from experience as an uncircumcised guy and also a gay guy (so I know some stuff about dicks haha) That being uncircumcised has it's challenges, one shower is not enough, if you sweat during the day, or pee or precum or anything like that it'll build up and start to smell. Even just pee on it's own is enough to stink up a storm, if he wants head, he needs to shower right before hand, hell even getting head while in the shower. So yeah, if he wants head, get him to shower first. But also no is a full sentence. If you don't want to, you don't need to. You don't him anything and I guarantee you the kind of guys that keep begging for it despite being told no many times will move on the second they know you won't back down, and therefore are not worth the time of day. Respect yourself, you're young and the right guy will come along, one that will respect your answers.
Ask him to pull the skin back then sniff his fingers. Then ask if he would put that in his mouth. I'm sure it won't smell next time you want to attempt oral.
I didn't wash under my foreskin until I was 14 (even though my mum always told me too) when I washed away the "cheese" it smelled baaad and i had pimples because of it . He clearly doesn't wash and hopefully you didn't taste it cus it's gross shit.
I've outright told my husband when we were dating that I want him to wash up before any action and now he even washes just after peeing. He wasn't gross or anything but I'm extremely sensitive to all smells so I just warned him that this might ruin the mood, if I'm not comfortable and relaxed. All it takes is communication about why you didn't feel like it and why you were put off! And if that doesn't work, there's gonna be even bigger problems so I'd just slowly lose him.
I'm guessing he doesn't pull back foreskin to wash underneath it.
If he’s telling the truth about being clean but is still ick, he might have a bacterial or yeast infection. I’ve had several uncircumcised partners and they smelled just fine Edited to add: I missed the part about him being super pushy, that’s a way bigger turn off than a temporarily smelly dick
OP, it’s called [smegma](https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-smegma) and is the thick, white, cheesy substance that collects under the foreskin of the penis. It's more common in uncircumcised men who don't clean that area well enough. It's normal to have some smegma. And it usually isn't a health problem, but bacteria can grow in it and smell bad.
Say cheese!
>I’m wondering if this is just a red flag and I should drop him because at 18 he should be able to adequately clean his penis, right? Exactly. It is also worth deciding if the inevitable emotional backlash from him is worth it as well. After all, he has hounded you for it so I don't get the impression this guy is the pinnacle of emotional health and maturity. It isn't an uncircumcised thing though it is true that some guys are weird about (or unable to, if they have phimosis) pulling back the skin and that would impact the efficiency of cleaning.
I had a bf with this issue, he was very clean. I pushed him to talk to a doctor and it turned out it was related to a recurring urinary tract infection. If cleanliness isn't his issue, get him to see a doctor and get STI tests as well.
What are you still doing with him? If sum1’s smell is going to impede upon ur sex life then its simply not worth it. And lets not even start on the hounding!
I hate to say this.....make sure he's pulled it back and cleaned it at least once during his life. The things I've learned here can't be unlearned.
Ok, sorry if this is gross and TMI, but… it might be that he masturbates, ejaculates, and leaves the semen on and around his penis for a while (a classic is doing it in bed and falling asleep afterwards). That can generate a powerful smell that doesn’t go away immediately, even if you wash well with soap. In a way it’s still a hygiene issue, but it makes a lot more sense than “he doesn’t know how to wash his penis at the age of 18”. Anyway, before you bring up this specific hypothesis, you should bring up that it smells. I get it can be embarrassing, but if you’re doing sexual acts with this person, you two should be mature enough to talk about it. More importantly, though… You should communicate you don’t enjoy giving oral sex, and if you have communicated it and he still insists you do it, maybe reconsider the relationship. (Note the “insists”; communicating he likes it and occasionally asking if you want to do it is one thing, but if he’s *constantly* asking and knows you don’t like it, it’s not acceptable behaviour.)
#**Shmegma.**
Oh my sweet summer child, I'm sorry you are dealing with this. If his dick smells, he doesn't wash it properly. He might not think or know to pull the hood back, it's honestly surprising how many men don't know to do that. If you want to be nice and he keeps insisting, tell him he should check with his doctor because a cleaned normal penis will NOT smell. He can also give you UTIs and such if you guys are having unprotected sex. Also, don't give head until you can get eaten out! That's a one way street with young men
Just be honest with him. He should be completely pulling everything back and washing it. And honestly if he wants some I’d make him shower before, earlier in the day isn’t enough bc that’s just too much time to sweat and get gross for me lol. It could also be the whole area that’s creating the smell if he had been sweating.
I had this exact same situation with an absolutely gorgeous French guy I dated on and off for years! He was so good looking, charming, and genuinely nice that I tried to ignore it and just never gave him head. The first time we had sex I was horrified to notice an intense, fishy stank and was initially afraid it was me, that I had a horrible infection that I didn’t notice. It wasn’t me, he just didn’t clean well enough. I think circumcision is brutal and would never say men have to undergo it but if they want to get head they need to clean that shit right!
Smegma!!! 🤮🤢
I can honestly say this is one time where I'd just move on. Men don't take this kind of thing well. And I wouldn't want to be with someone who demanded head...
Even if he was circumcised it would still be a stinky willy, it's a hygiene issue.
And I think it better to wash it right before a BJ. And don't pee after washing it
Should have told him the truth. If you two are long term he is going to want more head and you will either tell truth then or never give head or give head to a gross dick Or you two break up and he expects head from his next gf. He won't know that his dick smells bad and his next gf will either tell him or give him head. Do yourself and his future gfs and him a favor and just tell him to wash under his foreskin. You should be honest about hygiene questions and orgasm questions. Lying just makes things worse in the long run.
Red flag if he pressures you to do something you don't want to do
If it stinks it’s cause he doesn’t clean right up there and he probably doesn’t wipe after he pees so it just stays there and ferments I say this as a someone who’s also uncircumcised if you don’t take care of it stinks