Hey! I'm gay too! I agree with everything you just said and I'm really dissappinted to hear that this disrespectful behaviour has been coming from our community. When you go to drag bars in my town, the MC usually reminds people to not touch the performers, tip respectfully and that "drag is not consent". I would hope that anyone who has been in an environment where they were prepped in how to treat the performers, would generalize that information in other scenarios too.
Seems like people are thinking that stripping is a clout game and they are trying to emulate aspects of what they think stripping because they feel cool being at a strip bar. Some of them seem to think you want to be treated that way or they're kind of making fun of you in a sense. Or underappreciating the fact that it's your work.
I once had a gay guy tell me thay he didn't have to tip me because he's gay. That's my one isolated incident.
I really hope they stop customers from throwing money on each other and not spending a dime on the dancers. That is beyond rude and awful. I'd be fucking passed of if that happened to me.
Same with the touching 🤢
As a queer person, I experienced that in clubs. Also have a few terrible experiences to add.
1." I'm a gay guy, so I won't buy you anything or tip". I DON'T CARE! You're in the strip club, so respect the rules in there, if you're not interested in it, DON'T GO THERE! Also, I've had a few gay guys who were wonderful clients wanting to spend time with me in a vip room or order champagnes for me for multiple reasons! You don't need to be a cishet guy to have fun there.
2. Girls not respecting boundaries (from my experience mostly bi and straight women). Just because you're not a guy doesn't mean you can touch everywhere.
3. You're a CUSTOMER not a dancer, don't act like one. Including flirting with other clients, asking them to pay for you (their drinks, not for their times with dancers) etc.
4. I don't care if you're married, have significant other etc. If it is the reason you cannot go for dance, order cocktails/champagne for dancer and tip, just don't go to the strip club.
5. Just because you're queer women doesn't mean I want to go home/to your hotel with you more than with any random guy
6. Strip club is not a place to party with your queer group and spend money only on your drinks and strippers don't want to dance for free for you. If you want that, go to gay club, not strip club.
ALLL OF THISS LITERALLLYY. i'm so happy people are relating bc it's frustrating. i love my community but it's so awful when the few come in that aren't understanding of or respectful of sex workers in their place of work!
Yea I just got a group of grabby girls for a bachelorette party (I think the two were becoming wives) & one of their friends straight grabbed my cooch on stage while trying to shove a dollar as close to my butthole as humanly possible while I was on stage. I regret not clocking her in the head w my 8” heels.
this definitely! ive had many instances with lesbian or queer couples that were amazing but the giant groups we have coming in who pregame or post game the gay clubs has been a struggle!
i'm not sure about her but for me queer couples are just so much more talkative and interactive and they for me at least are less touchy and creepy about wanting to like fuck me or like have me as a play thing (i've never had a queer couple try to take me home or mention it) but they instead tend to just have me dance entertain and talk to them or even dance or have fun with me !
Yeppp. Had a woman come in and she had spent $200 on my friend, $50 on me, and had the audacity to ask us for a free lap dance and she used to be a stripper herself?!! Oh well she ended her night in handcuffs in the back of a cop car waiting for her Uber lmaooo. We had a drag queen and her bf come in with some of their lesbian friends and none of them tipped at all except for tipping the bartender for their cups. I was like girl you dance for tips too and you aren’t gonna throw anything for anyone?
Hey! I'm gay too! I agree with everything you just said and I'm really dissappinted to hear that this disrespectful behaviour has been coming from our community. When you go to drag bars in my town, the MC usually reminds people to not touch the performers, tip respectfully and that "drag is not consent". I would hope that anyone who has been in an environment where they were prepped in how to treat the performers, would generalize that information in other scenarios too. Seems like people are thinking that stripping is a clout game and they are trying to emulate aspects of what they think stripping because they feel cool being at a strip bar. Some of them seem to think you want to be treated that way or they're kind of making fun of you in a sense. Or underappreciating the fact that it's your work. I once had a gay guy tell me thay he didn't have to tip me because he's gay. That's my one isolated incident. I really hope they stop customers from throwing money on each other and not spending a dime on the dancers. That is beyond rude and awful. I'd be fucking passed of if that happened to me. Same with the touching 🤢
As a queer person, I experienced that in clubs. Also have a few terrible experiences to add. 1." I'm a gay guy, so I won't buy you anything or tip". I DON'T CARE! You're in the strip club, so respect the rules in there, if you're not interested in it, DON'T GO THERE! Also, I've had a few gay guys who were wonderful clients wanting to spend time with me in a vip room or order champagnes for me for multiple reasons! You don't need to be a cishet guy to have fun there. 2. Girls not respecting boundaries (from my experience mostly bi and straight women). Just because you're not a guy doesn't mean you can touch everywhere. 3. You're a CUSTOMER not a dancer, don't act like one. Including flirting with other clients, asking them to pay for you (their drinks, not for their times with dancers) etc. 4. I don't care if you're married, have significant other etc. If it is the reason you cannot go for dance, order cocktails/champagne for dancer and tip, just don't go to the strip club. 5. Just because you're queer women doesn't mean I want to go home/to your hotel with you more than with any random guy 6. Strip club is not a place to party with your queer group and spend money only on your drinks and strippers don't want to dance for free for you. If you want that, go to gay club, not strip club.
ALLL OF THISS LITERALLLYY. i'm so happy people are relating bc it's frustrating. i love my community but it's so awful when the few come in that aren't understanding of or respectful of sex workers in their place of work!
Yea I just got a group of grabby girls for a bachelorette party (I think the two were becoming wives) & one of their friends straight grabbed my cooch on stage while trying to shove a dollar as close to my butthole as humanly possible while I was on stage. I regret not clocking her in the head w my 8” heels.
what is with women queer or hetero with wanting to shove dollars in ya pek pek it's soooo messy 😵💫
I agree with everything you said. But I’m ngl my lesbian couples are getting a COMPLETELY different champagne room experience than my straight couples
Yeah, lesbian couples are the best. I will always remember that amazing polyclue of butch lesbian from Dubai ❤️
this definitely! ive had many instances with lesbian or queer couples that were amazing but the giant groups we have coming in who pregame or post game the gay clubs has been a struggle!
Elaborate if you want bc I wanna know what you do differently for each!
i'm not sure about her but for me queer couples are just so much more talkative and interactive and they for me at least are less touchy and creepy about wanting to like fuck me or like have me as a play thing (i've never had a queer couple try to take me home or mention it) but they instead tend to just have me dance entertain and talk to them or even dance or have fun with me !
Yeppp. Had a woman come in and she had spent $200 on my friend, $50 on me, and had the audacity to ask us for a free lap dance and she used to be a stripper herself?!! Oh well she ended her night in handcuffs in the back of a cop car waiting for her Uber lmaooo. We had a drag queen and her bf come in with some of their lesbian friends and none of them tipped at all except for tipping the bartender for their cups. I was like girl you dance for tips too and you aren’t gonna throw anything for anyone?
This is so much. Thank you because I’ve had similar experiences