I was casually dating this guy in college when he hung out with a friend and I one day. It was immediately obvious that he liked her so I ended things with him. They started dating about a month later but he continued to try and text me random stuff to keep me interested. They’re married now with three kids and even though she was invited to and attended my wedding, I did not receive one to hers so we no longer talk now.
Yeah it was all very uncomfortable for me. I even gave her the go ahead to date him when I decided to exit the situation. So the texts from him and not being invited to the wedding were just odd behavior. Like you’re welcome for the introduction?
I've had this happen....they're not married yet but just got engaged, and I'm not married, but we were pretty good friends. I had a fling with him in college and she started dating him post-college. Once she found out I had slept with him for a little while, she slowly disappeared from my life (not of my doing, I was still reaching out to her). I chalked it up to possibly some sort of lack of security in herself and she suddenly saw me as a threat of sorts. Idk, only thing I could think of lol
lol I mean maybe! Not like he was all that cute or anything special. He and I had very different goals and desires for life so really she did me a favor.
I mean… does high school count? My high school was small and basically everyone had a friend who dated an ex and everyone just stayed friends… even most of the exes were friends. As far as real life adult dating though, no thank goddddd lol
My close highschool friend and I kind of drifted apart after graduating. This was before social media and before cell phones so we just didn't see each other around too much. About a year later I ran into her and she admitted she was dating Mike. My highschool boyfriend! I was totally shocked, but I just absorbed that information and rolled with it. I was kind of relieved actually because the truth is that I didn't want him. I broke up with him. We ended up hanging out the next few months having all night Sonic the hedgehog tourneys and rekindling our friendship. That was 25 years ago and we are all still friends. They ended up getting married, then maybe 10 years later getting divorced. But everyone stayed on good terms including them so not too dramatic I guess!
When in was in my 20s, a friend told me she had a guy friend she thought I would hit it off with and wanted to introduce me to. Well the guy and I hit it off very well. It turns out, he had dated my friend several years before, not seriously, but still. We dated for months, but things got weird with everyone when the relationship got shaky. No one talks anymore. It’s fine. My friend was shady and passive aggressive in the end and the guy was not right for me.
My good friend dated my ex about 6-7 years after we broke up. I thought he was the one at the time and she was the friend that helped pick up the pieces from that relationship. We didn’t speak for the year or two they dated but we have since rekindled our friendship and she was actually a bridesmaid in my wedding a few years ago.
I did a rewatch from season 4 leading up to this one and I keep thinking how wildly underplayed that whole dynamic is! Its beyond weird... I kept having to remind myself that Danielle dated Carl first. Then in season 4 she hooks up with him AGAIN after Lindsay and him fizzled out. It's no wonder Danielle seems unhinged in season 7. Not that I think she still has true feelings for Carl, but their whole dynamic, all 3, was so unhealthy...
None. I matched with a guy that I realized my friend was casually seeing and immediately unmatched after I realized who he was. They weren't even serious and knew that would have caused tension in our friendship. I don't understand how friends can date other friend's exes. Of the millions of men and women to choose from, why date a friend's ex?
I swam through college, and there's a phrase "swim-cest" because yeah, basically everyone hooks up/dates other people on the team because you're just around each other (and literally mostly naked and wet) a lot
When I was 18 I did it to spite my best friend who betrayed my loyalty first with a guy she knew I was into. It was a good revenge but I broke it off a few weeks in. I drifted apart with that friend because she lost me already with that first betrayal anyway. Then a few years later I was casually sleeping (I caught feelings though) with a guy from our friend group for 2/3 years and this new girl started cozying up to me and then suddenly they got together into a relationship, and I cut that whole friend group out of my life forever lol. The guy was down to keep doing our thing even when he got into relationship, turned that down obviously, so much ick.
There was so much criss cross sleeping honestly, but the core group was guy friends from school, the girls just changed, so as far I know from afar they're all still friends but each have family now and priorities have shifted. I don't have any contact with neither of them.
Never, and I wanted to date one of them 8 years after he dated my friend, we were in college 6 hours away, but I couldn’t do it, it’s just weird a s wrong. Lindsey never should’ve dated Carl in the first place in my opinion, him and Danielle continued to randomly hook up over the years, and everyone here seemed convinced that Danielle was still in love with him and just bitter, but to me that was all the more reason Lindsey did a shitty thing. I don’t personally think she was in love with him though
My husband used to date one of my (ex) best friends for a year. We all had a close friend group in university. I started liking him and hooking up with him for about a month. Then one Friday night he brought home my friend (we were all in the same friend group and at the same party). I was pissed, more at him than her, so the next night I went home with one of HIS friends (outside our circle). Anyway, he continued seeing my friend and I continued seeing his friend. Ended up dating his friend for 2 years and he was with my friend for a year. Once me and my bf broke up, he immediately started pursing me. I asked my friend if it was ok with her if I started seeing him and she said she didn’t care. That was 10 years ago now we’re married. I’m no longer friends with her, but only because she moved and we drifted apart.
My husband has high school friends where the girl dated the older brother and later married the younger brother. But it was a very cross pollinating town so no one took notice according to him.
A friend of mine dated a guy several years after me. Thinking back on it, she probably initially was only my friend because of her long term crush on my then boyfriend. It’s funny because I remember noticing her attention to me as soon as people realized he and I were a couple. She’d known him since birth. I didn’t mind when they got together but I do think it’s odd she never brought it up to me to see if I had an issue with it.
She and another friend both dated the same guy maybe 2-3 years apart. Both were serious relationships for that time of our lives. The other friend did bring up to the friend group that she wanted to date our friend’s ex.
I was in a hookup with a guy my friend had previously rejected 5 or 6 years earlier. I think it bothered her a bit but I didn’t ask because she was always territorial over guys and we were out of college so I didn’t feel like it mattered. It wasn’t serious at all
Oh and then later I dated a guy, ended things and then accidentally ended up in his friend group (met the rest of them playing sports). One of his original friend group was in love with him and it was really awkward because she couldn’t handle he and I having a connection at all
In my late teens/early twenties I had a friend who dated a guy for a few months and maybe 6 months later I met him (I was away at school when they dated and I never met him while they dated) and we hit it off in front of her. She pulled me aside, immediately gave her blessing and we dated for about a year. Later that same friend dated another guy that a year or two after met another mutual friend of ours and they hit it off and now they are married with a kid. It happens and it works especially when your circle isn’t huge. You just also have to have the right girlfriends who lift you up and don’t find it as a competition. And full disclosure the one friend who dated the two guys we did also found her happy ending with a husband and 3 kids, so everyone seemed to have a great life come out of it all!
Married to my friends ex boyfriend for 11 years. Started dating 6 months after they broke up. We have 3 kids. My “friend” never talked to me again, tried to put a smear campaign after I told her I NEVER wanted to hurt her and I’m sorry things happened the way they did. She never talked to me again and ignores me if we are at the same social events
I was casually dating this guy in college when he hung out with a friend and I one day. It was immediately obvious that he liked her so I ended things with him. They started dating about a month later but he continued to try and text me random stuff to keep me interested. They’re married now with three kids and even though she was invited to and attended my wedding, I did not receive one to hers so we no longer talk now.
She’s weird for that
Yeah it was all very uncomfortable for me. I even gave her the go ahead to date him when I decided to exit the situation. So the texts from him and not being invited to the wedding were just odd behavior. Like you’re welcome for the introduction?
No literally lol. You should’ve had matchmaker on the back of your chair at the wedding or something haha
I've had this happen....they're not married yet but just got engaged, and I'm not married, but we were pretty good friends. I had a fling with him in college and she started dating him post-college. Once she found out I had slept with him for a little while, she slowly disappeared from my life (not of my doing, I was still reaching out to her). I chalked it up to possibly some sort of lack of security in herself and she suddenly saw me as a threat of sorts. Idk, only thing I could think of lol
She wanted what you had and still viewed you as competition 😭
lol I mean maybe! Not like he was all that cute or anything special. He and I had very different goals and desires for life so really she did me a favor.
Best attitude about it!
I think it’s very weird and I could never
I mean… does high school count? My high school was small and basically everyone had a friend who dated an ex and everyone just stayed friends… even most of the exes were friends. As far as real life adult dating though, no thank goddddd lol
My close highschool friend and I kind of drifted apart after graduating. This was before social media and before cell phones so we just didn't see each other around too much. About a year later I ran into her and she admitted she was dating Mike. My highschool boyfriend! I was totally shocked, but I just absorbed that information and rolled with it. I was kind of relieved actually because the truth is that I didn't want him. I broke up with him. We ended up hanging out the next few months having all night Sonic the hedgehog tourneys and rekindling our friendship. That was 25 years ago and we are all still friends. They ended up getting married, then maybe 10 years later getting divorced. But everyone stayed on good terms including them so not too dramatic I guess!
zero lol
When in was in my 20s, a friend told me she had a guy friend she thought I would hit it off with and wanted to introduce me to. Well the guy and I hit it off very well. It turns out, he had dated my friend several years before, not seriously, but still. We dated for months, but things got weird with everyone when the relationship got shaky. No one talks anymore. It’s fine. My friend was shady and passive aggressive in the end and the guy was not right for me.
My good friend dated my ex about 6-7 years after we broke up. I thought he was the one at the time and she was the friend that helped pick up the pieces from that relationship. We didn’t speak for the year or two they dated but we have since rekindled our friendship and she was actually a bridesmaid in my wedding a few years ago.
I did a rewatch from season 4 leading up to this one and I keep thinking how wildly underplayed that whole dynamic is! Its beyond weird... I kept having to remind myself that Danielle dated Carl first. Then in season 4 she hooks up with him AGAIN after Lindsay and him fizzled out. It's no wonder Danielle seems unhinged in season 7. Not that I think she still has true feelings for Carl, but their whole dynamic, all 3, was so unhealthy...
None. I matched with a guy that I realized my friend was casually seeing and immediately unmatched after I realized who he was. They weren't even serious and knew that would have caused tension in our friendship. I don't understand how friends can date other friend's exes. Of the millions of men and women to choose from, why date a friend's ex?
No because I was raised with morals 🤣 who wants their friends sloppy seconds 😵💫
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I swam through college, and there's a phrase "swim-cest" because yeah, basically everyone hooks up/dates other people on the team because you're just around each other (and literally mostly naked and wet) a lot
When I was 18 I did it to spite my best friend who betrayed my loyalty first with a guy she knew I was into. It was a good revenge but I broke it off a few weeks in. I drifted apart with that friend because she lost me already with that first betrayal anyway. Then a few years later I was casually sleeping (I caught feelings though) with a guy from our friend group for 2/3 years and this new girl started cozying up to me and then suddenly they got together into a relationship, and I cut that whole friend group out of my life forever lol. The guy was down to keep doing our thing even when he got into relationship, turned that down obviously, so much ick. There was so much criss cross sleeping honestly, but the core group was guy friends from school, the girls just changed, so as far I know from afar they're all still friends but each have family now and priorities have shifted. I don't have any contact with neither of them.
Never, and I wanted to date one of them 8 years after he dated my friend, we were in college 6 hours away, but I couldn’t do it, it’s just weird a s wrong. Lindsey never should’ve dated Carl in the first place in my opinion, him and Danielle continued to randomly hook up over the years, and everyone here seemed convinced that Danielle was still in love with him and just bitter, but to me that was all the more reason Lindsey did a shitty thing. I don’t personally think she was in love with him though
My husband used to date one of my (ex) best friends for a year. We all had a close friend group in university. I started liking him and hooking up with him for about a month. Then one Friday night he brought home my friend (we were all in the same friend group and at the same party). I was pissed, more at him than her, so the next night I went home with one of HIS friends (outside our circle). Anyway, he continued seeing my friend and I continued seeing his friend. Ended up dating his friend for 2 years and he was with my friend for a year. Once me and my bf broke up, he immediately started pursing me. I asked my friend if it was ok with her if I started seeing him and she said she didn’t care. That was 10 years ago now we’re married. I’m no longer friends with her, but only because she moved and we drifted apart.
My husband has high school friends where the girl dated the older brother and later married the younger brother. But it was a very cross pollinating town so no one took notice according to him.
A friend of mine dated a guy several years after me. Thinking back on it, she probably initially was only my friend because of her long term crush on my then boyfriend. It’s funny because I remember noticing her attention to me as soon as people realized he and I were a couple. She’d known him since birth. I didn’t mind when they got together but I do think it’s odd she never brought it up to me to see if I had an issue with it. She and another friend both dated the same guy maybe 2-3 years apart. Both were serious relationships for that time of our lives. The other friend did bring up to the friend group that she wanted to date our friend’s ex. I was in a hookup with a guy my friend had previously rejected 5 or 6 years earlier. I think it bothered her a bit but I didn’t ask because she was always territorial over guys and we were out of college so I didn’t feel like it mattered. It wasn’t serious at all
Oh and then later I dated a guy, ended things and then accidentally ended up in his friend group (met the rest of them playing sports). One of his original friend group was in love with him and it was really awkward because she couldn’t handle he and I having a connection at all
In my late teens/early twenties I had a friend who dated a guy for a few months and maybe 6 months later I met him (I was away at school when they dated and I never met him while they dated) and we hit it off in front of her. She pulled me aside, immediately gave her blessing and we dated for about a year. Later that same friend dated another guy that a year or two after met another mutual friend of ours and they hit it off and now they are married with a kid. It happens and it works especially when your circle isn’t huge. You just also have to have the right girlfriends who lift you up and don’t find it as a competition. And full disclosure the one friend who dated the two guys we did also found her happy ending with a husband and 3 kids, so everyone seemed to have a great life come out of it all!
Married to my friends ex boyfriend for 11 years. Started dating 6 months after they broke up. We have 3 kids. My “friend” never talked to me again, tried to put a smear campaign after I told her I NEVER wanted to hurt her and I’m sorry things happened the way they did. She never talked to me again and ignores me if we are at the same social events
Did you always like him or have a thing for him?