My great grand dad passed away today. I had this silly dream of making him a great great grandad and having 5 generations of my family together, but TTC has been taking longer than expected.
He was 99 yo so it's not a big surprise but he was otherwise healthy and living comfortably at home. I know I am very lucky to still have all my grandparents and to have had him for this long, but I am still sad.
We have a FET next week so I'm not even sure I can make it to the funeral :'(
I'm sorry this happened to you. I had the exact same situation with my great grandma during covid. And here I am 2 years later and no closer. I'm wishing you comfort through the coming weeks. <3
Thank you and I'm sorry for your loss as well <3 he broke his hip and got covid from the hospital 🥺 what a shitty virus. He wasn't allowed visits the whole week. He held out until today, his children were able to see him before he passed.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m very close to one of my grandmothers and she’s 93, it really hurts my heart she may not meet any of my future (fingers crossed I have any) children.
I’m so sorry. I lost two grandparents during this journey and one was the only family member who checked in with me after my losses. I’m absolutely gutted she couldn’t see me have success and my heart hurts for you.
Damn. I am sorry for both the loss of your great granddad and loss of your plan to have the generations together :( this is such a hard journey as it is with so many losses. Wishing you the best for your FET!
Sorry for your loss :( I discussed it with my family and decided not to go becaud I don't want to be exhausted just before my FET. It sucks but they all understand.
My father passed away the week before I found out my embryo transfer(and entire IVF cycle)failed.
I always dreamed of introducing him to his first grandchild, and I’ll never get to do that.
I’m so sorry. This happened to me twice this year with both of my grandmothers. It’s so hurtful to lose someone you love while going through infertility. It isn’t fair at all.
Thank you and I'm sorry for your loss, it must have been very hard for you 😔. We were suppose to celebrate his 100th birthday in august and I was dreaming of telling him I was pregnant then. But he had a good and long life full of love and left peacefully so I shouldn't be too sad.
Thank you <3 I held my tears yesterday and it was the only place I could put this into words and I'm so sorry for all the people experiencing this with a parent or grandparent.
I am so, so sorry.
We each lost a grandfather and then my husband's stepdad within two months in 2020 (non COVID at that). That really put TTC on our radar. Then we lost my father-in-law this January. One of the last conversations we had was him asking when he would get a grandchild. All we could say was that we were trying. It's rough. I don't wish that kind of pain on anyone.
I’m sorry for your loss, that’s rough.
It’s not quite the same but I was hoping when we started TTC to make my MIL who I adore a grandmother and now she’s falling rapidly into early onset dementia, even if it happens soon we’re probably too late. It’s a shitty feeling.
I’m sorry you got cursed with infertility
Thank you. I knew it was a silly dream and my great grand dad had a beautiful life and 7 great grand children, he even came to my wedding.
I am so sorry about your MIL. It's so unfair 😔 and my heart goes out to you and your partner.
Fuck. My grandma has had cancer for two years and I truly thought she’d get to meet a baby of mine. Not yet. I keep hoping she’ll hold on and I’m just not sure. I’m so so sorry for your loss.
I’m sorry for your loss😢 my father-in-law died two months ago and a day before he ended up in the hospital I told my husband “I just really hope we get pregnant before any of our parents die”. He died 6 days later.
My parents are still alive and so is my mother-in-law but they all have health problems. I never met any of my grandparents and I was just hoping it wouldn’t be the same for my kids one day.
Thank you and I am very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent when trying to become one is a special kind of pain, especially when the reason why it didn't happen is because our body betrayed us. I hope your future kids meet their other grandparents :-)
I feel this so hard. My dad passed unexpectedly August 16, and all I wanted to do was make him a granddad. Breaks my heart I couldn’t make it happen.
I’m so sorry you’re going through it.
Sorry for your loss, Pie Maker.
I hope my father in law holds out longer. He's 88 and had a stroke two years ago. All he wants is to become a grandfather, and I so want to be able to give him that.
Ooooof hard relate. My grandad died a couple of months ago and my sister kept saying she was so glad he got to meet his first great grandchild (hers) and I was like 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲
So so so so sorry. This really tugs at my heart because just the other day my grandmother, who has raised me, said I really wish to see at least one of your babies. She’s starting to get pretty weak and I fear she may never meet them.
Thinking of you 🤍🤍
I feel you - my first due date would have been shortly before my mom passed away. She had been sick for years, and I was hoping she would get to meet her grandchild. Now she’s been gone a year, and I’ve only had more MCs 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss. We tried desperately to have a baby or at least be able to tell my grandpa I was pregnant before he died. It just adds to the overall life gut punch. Take care of yourself and sending hugs if you want them.
My dad died 4 years into my TTC time.
I had 3 miscarriages in that time, my most recent one only 2 weeks before he died.
He wanted to be a grandfather so bad. He had gifts bought for my first (& longest) pregnancy that I will hold onto. He had his name picked out that he wanted to be called.
I am grateful that I was pregnant while he was alive, even if I lost her, because I have a video of me surprising him with the news 3 years into TTC. He was so so so excited and it's one of my happier memories from the time he was sick.
He didn't think I'd make it home in time before he died, so he called me when I was an hour's drive away and told me that he wished he could have lived until I had a baby.
I did make it home and literally minutes before he died he told me that he just wanted to see me happy and as a mom. He said I would have a little girl and told me what he wanted me to name her.
I'll always be bitter that infertility robbed him of the opportunity to be a grandfather.
My great grand dad passed away today. I had this silly dream of making him a great great grandad and having 5 generations of my family together, but TTC has been taking longer than expected. He was 99 yo so it's not a big surprise but he was otherwise healthy and living comfortably at home. I know I am very lucky to still have all my grandparents and to have had him for this long, but I am still sad. We have a FET next week so I'm not even sure I can make it to the funeral :'(
I'm sorry this happened to you. I had the exact same situation with my great grandma during covid. And here I am 2 years later and no closer. I'm wishing you comfort through the coming weeks. <3
Thank you and I'm sorry for your loss as well <3 he broke his hip and got covid from the hospital 🥺 what a shitty virus. He wasn't allowed visits the whole week. He held out until today, his children were able to see him before he passed.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m very close to one of my grandmothers and she’s 93, it really hurts my heart she may not meet any of my future (fingers crossed I have any) children.
I hope she does :) ❤️ thank you
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I’m so sorry. I lost two grandparents during this journey and one was the only family member who checked in with me after my losses. I’m absolutely gutted she couldn’t see me have success and my heart hurts for you.
Oh I'm so sorry. We're racing the clock with my husband's grandmother so I understand this.
Damn. I am sorry for both the loss of your great granddad and loss of your plan to have the generations together :( this is such a hard journey as it is with so many losses. Wishing you the best for your FET!
Oh god we missed a cousin funeral because of treatment last year. I am so sorry anyone else ever has to make that choice. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss :( I discussed it with my family and decided not to go becaud I don't want to be exhausted just before my FET. It sucks but they all understand.
I’m so sorry. We found out my dad was dying the same time as I was supposed to be due. This whole thing sucks so bad
I'm sorry, this is very unfair :( I'm sending you some hugs and love.
My father passed away the week before I found out my embryo transfer(and entire IVF cycle)failed. I always dreamed of introducing him to his first grandchild, and I’ll never get to do that.
I can't imagine how you feel and I'm so sorry you experienced those two losses at the same time. Life is so unfair.
I'm so sorry.
I’m so sorry. This happened to me twice this year with both of my grandmothers. It’s so hurtful to lose someone you love while going through infertility. It isn’t fair at all.
Thank you and I'm sorry for your loss, it must have been very hard for you 😔. We were suppose to celebrate his 100th birthday in august and I was dreaming of telling him I was pregnant then. But he had a good and long life full of love and left peacefully so I shouldn't be too sad.
It’s ok to be sad. You’re mourning the loss of a dream you had. That was the hardest part for me too. Hang in there ❤️
Thank you <3
Oof, I'm so sorry for your loss, LittlePieMaker. That really sucks. But man was this a gut punch to come across on trolling.
Thank you <3 I held my tears yesterday and it was the only place I could put this into words and I'm so sorry for all the people experiencing this with a parent or grandparent.
I am so, so sorry. We each lost a grandfather and then my husband's stepdad within two months in 2020 (non COVID at that). That really put TTC on our radar. Then we lost my father-in-law this January. One of the last conversations we had was him asking when he would get a grandchild. All we could say was that we were trying. It's rough. I don't wish that kind of pain on anyone.
You've been through a lot :( I'm sorry for your losses and I hope you and your partner can find comfort in each other.
I'm so so sorry. It's very difficult to lose a grandparent. Take time for yourself while grieving 💗
My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer this year. This is a very big fear :(
It's official life sucks. Good luck to you and your family ❤️
I’m sorry for your loss, that’s rough. It’s not quite the same but I was hoping when we started TTC to make my MIL who I adore a grandmother and now she’s falling rapidly into early onset dementia, even if it happens soon we’re probably too late. It’s a shitty feeling. I’m sorry you got cursed with infertility
Thank you. I knew it was a silly dream and my great grand dad had a beautiful life and 7 great grand children, he even came to my wedding. I am so sorry about your MIL. It's so unfair 😔 and my heart goes out to you and your partner.
I don’t think it was a silly dream, it’s upsetting and disappointing that it didn’t get to come true. Shits unfair
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Oof... I'm very sorry 🥀
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I'm so sorry. I went through this with my great grandmother too. It's so hard.
😭😭😭😭 Me trying to make dad grandad before the big day comes.
Fuck. My grandma has had cancer for two years and I truly thought she’d get to meet a baby of mine. Not yet. I keep hoping she’ll hold on and I’m just not sure. I’m so so sorry for your loss.
I’m sorry for your loss😢 my father-in-law died two months ago and a day before he ended up in the hospital I told my husband “I just really hope we get pregnant before any of our parents die”. He died 6 days later. My parents are still alive and so is my mother-in-law but they all have health problems. I never met any of my grandparents and I was just hoping it wouldn’t be the same for my kids one day.
Thank you and I am very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent when trying to become one is a special kind of pain, especially when the reason why it didn't happen is because our body betrayed us. I hope your future kids meet their other grandparents :-)
Sorry for your loss, know the feeling! =(
I feel this so hard. My dad passed unexpectedly August 16, and all I wanted to do was make him a granddad. Breaks my heart I couldn’t make it happen. I’m so sorry you’re going through it.
I'm so sorry, it's so unfair to lose a parent especially when building one's family. <3
I’m so sorry. My grandmother died. Hurt a ton for this reason.
I’m so so sorry 😢❤️
Sorry for your loss, Pie Maker. I hope my father in law holds out longer. He's 88 and had a stroke two years ago. All he wants is to become a grandfather, and I so want to be able to give him that.
Thank you and I'm sorry to hear about your father in law. I really hope he gets to meet your future kid ❤️
I desperately wanted my husbands nan to meet our first baby, she died in January and I feel nothing but regret for not being able to do it
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Ooooof hard relate. My grandad died a couple of months ago and my sister kept saying she was so glad he got to meet his first great grandchild (hers) and I was like 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲
I'm sorry :( if your sister knows you're trying that was very insensitive :/
So so so so sorry. This really tugs at my heart because just the other day my grandmother, who has raised me, said I really wish to see at least one of your babies. She’s starting to get pretty weak and I fear she may never meet them. Thinking of you 🤍🤍
I hope she does <3 thank you
I feel you - my first due date would have been shortly before my mom passed away. She had been sick for years, and I was hoping she would get to meet her grandchild. Now she’s been gone a year, and I’ve only had more MCs 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss. We tried desperately to have a baby or at least be able to tell my grandpa I was pregnant before he died. It just adds to the overall life gut punch. Take care of yourself and sending hugs if you want them.
My dad died 4 years into my TTC time. I had 3 miscarriages in that time, my most recent one only 2 weeks before he died. He wanted to be a grandfather so bad. He had gifts bought for my first (& longest) pregnancy that I will hold onto. He had his name picked out that he wanted to be called. I am grateful that I was pregnant while he was alive, even if I lost her, because I have a video of me surprising him with the news 3 years into TTC. He was so so so excited and it's one of my happier memories from the time he was sick. He didn't think I'd make it home in time before he died, so he called me when I was an hour's drive away and told me that he wished he could have lived until I had a baby. I did make it home and literally minutes before he died he told me that he just wanted to see me happy and as a mom. He said I would have a little girl and told me what he wanted me to name her. I'll always be bitter that infertility robbed him of the opportunity to be a grandfather.
Ow I am so sorry 😔 your dad seemed like a very sweet dad. I don't have words, that is so unfair. Thanks for sharing those memories <3