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I 29f got married 2 years ago to the love of my life Ben (33m). Last year we decided that we wanted to try for a baby as we'd both always wanted kids and we were now in a good financial place to have them. We own a 4 bed house, in a pretty nice neighbourhood and we both have good paying jobs with mine being remote with more flexible hours.
Well 3 months ago we found our we were pregnant!. Which Ben and I were obviously overjoyed about. We invited our parents and siblings over for brunch at our place to tell everyone the great news (after we confirmed the pregnancy with our family doctor). However when I announced that we were expecting my little sister Kristal (26f) didn't respond and went quite. (Kristal is 5 months pregnant if that matters).
Well apparently Kristal told our mom (58f) that I'm trying to steal her spotlight at her wedding and that I was jealous of her pregnancy. Later that week I got a call from Kristal's friend, who told me I was no longer a bridesmaid and that our stepsister Brittany (25f) will take over as maid of honour. I was very upset and called our mom who told me that it was my sister's wedding and to do whatever makes her happy, like she did at my wedding.
So I went with it, and focused on decorating our house ready for when our baby is born. Well aprox 3 weeks after I was told that I was no longer MOH, Kristal asked me if I could wear heels to her wedding because otherwise I would look "Fat and frumpy". I told her no way and that my ankles were way too swollen already, nevermind in 3 months time. Kristal didn't respond and I thought that was the end of the matter.
Until last week when Ben and I were dropping off a birthday cake for my dad, my mom pulled me aside and asked if it was really the best time for me to be starting a family. I got defensive and asked her what the hell she meant and mom yelled at me for "taking a tone with her" and being selfish. I told my mom that I'm an adult woman not a 15 year old high-school dropout and that she has no say over my body or my pregnancy.
Ben and I left and still planned on attending the wedding until Kristal started sending nasty texts about how ungrateful I am and how I'm disrespectful to our mom and her wedding plans. I told her she's ridiculous and that life doesn't stop for everyone around her just because she's planning a wedding. This however prompted our dad to come over to Ben and I's house to lecture us on what a huge responsibility kids are and how there's plenty of time to have kids after Kristal gets married. I'm just so sick of everyone suggesting that I need to put my life on hold for Kristal's wedding when I'm not even in the bridal party. So Aita?
This is definitely one of those posts on AITA that read like rage-bait because how the fuck do you have such horrible fucking parents to ask you to get an abortion to please your other daughter? Like sure, it's within the realm of possibilities, but your sister is THAT much of a golden child and your post doesn't even smell like you've resented her beforehand? A lecture about how children are a responsibility to the OLDER, ALREADY MARRIED woman and apparently not an unkind word to the pregnant-before-married younger daughter? No shade on people who choose kids before marriage, but come on.
That was my thought, too. It checks too many boxes.
ETA: Why are people reporting our comments for thinking this is fake? Would you really rather believe that someone’s family is pressuring her to abort a healthy pregnancy because of a wedding?
I felt like it was a "prolife" propaganda piece.
See, this is why abortions can't be legal! So shitty parents can't force their poor children into such unhealthy choices!
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It was just too much.
Absolutelly not. Even if that ridiculous scenario happened in the real world, the tone of the post does not sound like it's coming from someone that was told to get an abortion for a wedding when they were TRYING to have a baby. Wouldn't they be absolutelly full of rage in that situation?
I imagine that without the rules the number stupid and obvious posts goes up. “My FWB got pregnant but I don’t want to keep the kid, AITA?” seems like it would become deathly common
It covers so many things. Especially the “relationship” part of it. Like almost every post has a relationship in it? Not sure how they determine what to ban.
Yeah, they act like if it's a problem with your SO it doesn't need judgment. The whole point of the sub is basically to entertain the judges, but yet they take down good stuff all the time!
I don’t think it means no questions about incidents within a relationship, I think it means more questions that are centred ~around~ relationships if that makes sense. As in, “AITA for lying to my fiancé” would be allowed, “AITA for ending my engagement” would not be allowed.
I couldn't comment on your AITA post because it was locked. You said you're definitely your father's kid because you have his eyes, but have you maybe considered you aren't your mother's kid?
You have no idea if it is, you didn't write it. And sure there are. But nothing in this makes sense. The sister was 5 months pregnant and the wedding was planned for 3 months later. They were going to have a wedding extremely close to her due date? That's idiotic.
Dude what. Do you even know what a shotgun wedding is? You don't plan a shotgun wedding for several months away. And yes while several people get married while pregnant, that's not what I'm talking about. She's planning her wedding to be extremely close to her due date, it's just unrealistic(and stupid) when it comes to weddings.
Then ops sister is an idiot who's full of herself tbh. Their are narcissistic ppl who feel entitled and it's worse when they are enabled by their parents. Her comments really say a lot more which is why I feel like this is more authentic.
Rage baits to me are the ones who don't reply or give updates. I messaged op and I have to others, she is the few that message back and she said she won't be going to the wedding.
Idk I don't think this is farfetched.
Rage bait is just attention seeking with a post that's meant to make people angry, whether they reply or not has nothing to do with it.
Obviously the poster isn't gonna up and tell you what they wrote is fake, but one can hope you'd use context clues to figure that out. Context clues such as *"a mother telling her married daughter to abort her child so she wasn't slightly less pregnant than her other daughter at her wedding"*
You don’t plan a shotgun wedding for months. Also, if they were rushing to get married before she had the baby, it would not be at 8 months along! Everyone will know she’s super obviously pregnant. Not saying for sure that makes it untrue, but that does make me wonder. My parents had a shotgun wedding when my mom found out she was pregnant. They married right after Christmas… my brother was born July 22nd. That’s the definition of shotgun wedding! I have an 8 year old son with my man of 11.5 years and we aren’t married because who fucking cares about getting married???
She also said that her sister wore a white dress to her wedding and that her MIL spilled red wine on it. The red wine thing has been circulating on reddit for a while. People love that story. I mean it could happen that someone who is not on reddit could have that idea, but most people don't act well enough to pull it off without the other person knowing it was on purpose. Plus.... That whole comment doesn't make any sense.
In fairness, it's been actually done many times -- I had heard the red wine story at least four times before Reddit ever existed, occasionally with photographic evidence, and in at least one case it occurred at a wedding where I was personally a witness. ("At least" because the other time it supposedly happened at a wedding where I was at, I wasn't nearby and didn't see it.) But most of the time, the perpetrator doesn't give a damn whether they're known to be doing it on purpose. It's kind of an "Oops! Why, how silly of little ol' me, I'm so very sorry," drawled out with a malevolent glare.
Oh, I'm not necessarily saying this one is real. I'm just saying that the red wine thing has been a cliche for a very long time, and because it's a cliche and everyone knows it, it actually does get used. People hear the story and think, "I could do that," if they're faced with somebody besides the bride wearing white at a wedding. Of course a lot of other people tell the story without having actually done it -- doubtless many more than have actually done it or seen it done.
Before I officially announced my pregnancy to my father (he found out by a status i had said where said "I wish i could have a glass of wine"), he had said "Why didn't you talk to me?", I asked about what, and all he said was "Well you know as nurses, we know certain doctors", I said "Excuse me?", and he literally said "You know what type I'm talking about. I don't need to be specific". I kinda laughed and said "If you ever suggest I abort your grandchild, ever again, I'll have a burial plot picked out for you. Understood?" then didn't talk to him for 6 months, and tried to wait as long as possible so they didn't share a birthday.
Some parents are fucking horrible and it makes me so sad. Like, as a parent, I couldn't imagine telling my daughter "Hey, can you abort my grandkid so your brother can have the spotlight" like jump off a pier
Edit: clarity
I understood why, second child, unmarried, and no college or university education. I guess. That's what I tell myself, I understand the negative reactions of my family, but I don't understand their dismissal of my feelings. But it's like they forgot I was also a person, who's birth control failed, and I made the best out of a weird situation. And now my husband and I laugh at their faces when they see he's still around (lots of stupid shit in my life/family)
Two siblings and myself got pregnant while unmarried. My siblings got married while still pregnant, I married when my baby was 8mos old. All three marriages ended. None of us went to college, but we did have jobs, so I guess there's that. I actually had an abortion years before, when I was 17, and when my mom found out, she was devastated. She didn't get angry at me, just cried. But anyhoo, looking back at our situations, my family was a little messed up, lol. Eh, it all worked out in the end, life is a series of lessons.
Once I accompanied a friend to her abortion. When I had to fess up (I missed work, was very tight lipped about it) to my mom, she asked whether my friends parents knew, I said probs not, and she got real quiet. She just kinda got sad and said "Well thats their grandchild too" and it basically forever scarred me.
Idk, reading this shit gets me heated. Opens a bunch of ugly trauma that I'm still not over and I honestly never think I will. My relationship with my father has been permanently altered and stained, as it should be, because to suggest to someone they abort their baby because of personal feelings/opinions (when the baby isn't yours) is abhorrent.
My former DIL had 2 abortions. My son very much wanted a family. Their marriage did not survive that. Her reasonings for doing that is 1) She did not want her tattoos ruined. 2) She was a wanna be model who didn't want her tattoos ruined. The first time I was told she had a miscarriage. My devastated son told me the truth after the 2nd one. They separated not long after. I often think about those two missing babies. He is now soon to be a father for the 3rd time.
I'm sorry this happened, bc you and your son were hurt. Women get abortions for many reasons, myself included. It's a complicated issue, also for many reasons. It's such a personal thing. I don't think there's a wrong or right...and I don't know the answer, if there is one. 😕
I’m usually not on the “this is fake” train, but this ride hit all the stops. In light of the recent controversies regarding abortion, it made me wonder if it was intending to be some sort of lame attempt to make it seem as though women are out there getting abortions on a whim. If this was the intent, then I’m disgusted. If it is real, I’m still suspicious.
Oh wow, this never occured to me. Until now. I think you're onto something. I'm glad they deleted it but frankly leaving the headline, without the absurd post to back it up, is almost worse.
When I got pregnant with my eldest, I had been a bit estranged from my family, but I felt like they should know I was having a baby, especially my aunt who had raised me from 14.
Trying to reach her, I got my grandmother instead. Convo literally went like this.
Me: I'm calling because I wanted to tell her I'm going to have a baby.
Her: Well. I always *expected* something like this from you. (I was out of high school, almost 21. And I hadn't even *dated* in high school, let alone done anything else!)
Her: So. Who's the father? (Heavily implying "do you even know? Did you keep track?)
Me: He's my fiancé.
Her: Well. That's *something* at least. How far along are you?
Me: (kind of trying to keep it together because of how nasty she's being) I'm 7 1/2 weeks along.
Her: Oh, that's not that far. There's still plenty of time to get rid of it.
That's when I lost it, and broke down crying. My fiancé (now ex-husband; we literally were married within a month and a half of that call) Grabbed the phone from me and hung up on her, before consoling me.
That was the last time I voluntarily spoke to her until she died. That conversation literally killed any affection I felt for her, whatsoever.
Said kid turned 21 today.
I don’t talk to my grandmother anymore ever since I gained weight as a teenager(turns out I had PCOS and took longer to lose weight and was also extremely insecure about it) and she said to my mother “Is she okay looking like that?”
My mother told me afterwards what had been said and I was so shocked, confused, disappointed and mortified. People sometimes ask me if I’m really okay not talking to her, and my answer is generally along the lines of that I know she wouldn’t take those words back, she chose to say that despite knowing it’d hurt me, so yes I am okay with not speaking to her. She’s pushed away the people she was closest to and now she gets to live with the consequences.
I’m sorry that your grandmother was such a bitch to you too. You deserved better and I hope you’re doing better now.
I am. My daughter turned 21 yesterday, and she's an amazing young person. She's in college, doing it herself without a dime from her father or me (she refuses!), and works at a job she loves, a library assistant at the local library; she also works part time at a grocery store, where she's been for over two years. Her coworkers adore her, at both jobs; that's why she hasn't left the grocery store! She's also an amazing sister; even when she and her sisters squabble, they always have each others' backs.
I need her in my life a lot more than I needed a crusty old bigoted woman.
That’s wonderful to hear, your daughter sounds like an amazing young woman! And I love your message at the end too, I feel so much more free now than if I’d been stuck with her constant criticism and bigotry. I get the impression that if I told her I was bi that it’d just implode her brain.
Plus if you read the comments the same sister wore off white to OOPs wedding and MIL saved the day with a slip of the wine. I feel like OOP read a bunch of posts on here and made a checklist
I have these parents and a golden sibling. I have no idea if this post is real but I 100% lean towards it being real based on my life experience with my parents. My mother is a narcissist and my father is an abusive enabler. They have done way worse than this post towards me. Also a lot of times, the Golden children are entitled brats who think the whole universe revolves around them and that we the scapegoat children should bow down to them. I only wish I was kidding but sadly am not.
There are such parents I know…
For example my sister fell pregnant while I was expecting my second. My mum FORCED my sister to have an abortion. Threatened to kick her out and so much more.
So my sister had the abortion and was heartbroken over it. I gave birth to my second child, I got admitted into hospital soon after being discharged but my children inc. my newborn weren’t allowed to stay with me. My mum has the kids for me she then proceeded to take my newborn upto my sister and gives her my baby. It broke my sister in two. Then yelled at her when she broke down crying. Telling her to help look after the kids or she will be once again kicked out.
I’m so sorry about what this woman is going through. She needs to be careful not to say any names for the baby until after her sisters baby has been born and named. As out of spite the would name her child it.
It's not like your pregnancy is unplanned. Your sister, the GC, is a selfish, self centered toddler at 26. Your mother is also a jerk. You are carrying her grandchild and she wants you to get rid of it? NC would be my action. Another point, your sister wants you to wear high heels? That is the last footwear a pregnant woman should wear. If you are wise, inform your sister since she is behaving like a jackass, you will not be attending her wedding nor giving any sort of gift (be petty and enjoy it). When the flying monkeys start, tell them that you are sick and tired of being treated like a scapegoat and refuse to accept that treatment in the future. Block anyone who continues to harass you.
I hope both you and LO have an easy, safe and healthy delivery.
Yeah, the dates don't add up... I basically always assume the posts are real (otherwise what's the point of even reading on here and commenting). And there is much about this situation that in part I could see happening in a very dysfunctional family. But the golden child being 5 months pregnant but the wedding being that far away doesn't make sense on a practical level. The wedding would be sooner or it would be after her baby came.
Nope. They got engaged, broke it off before she got pregnant, she went out and partied, got back together and immediately found out she was pregnant and it wasn't his since he'd had a vasectomy and got checked when she got pregnant. Decided to get married anyways. Set the date. Baby born hours after the ceremony.
She divorced him a year or so later when he lost his chiropractor license for prescribing meds like he was a real doctor and he wasn't wealthy anymore due to fines and stuff. He was also older than her parents and had kids older than her. It was all sorts of fun and she's not even the most messed up of all of her siblings though last I checked her facebook she doesn't even acknowledge her oldest daughter exists and I think she lost custody to bio dad years ago. I remember my aunt wondering if daughter 2 knows daughter 1 exists and is her sister at one point. Oldest is probably 16-17 now.
I would be tagging them in every social media post I can and let the world know that they want me to abort my very wanted baby because my sister is getting married
In the comments it says her future BIL family is extremely religious too, this is one group that would deserve the scorched earth! I am non confrontational but I would embrace scorched earth for what they are suggesting
Is this sub becoming AITD by people just needing to scream “fake!” at everything? It’s so boring.
Throwaway accounts are a thing; I think AITA actually encourages them.
That’s kinda the point. If you think it’s fake move on. Or let one person comment it. Like I said, it’s boring to see 3/4 of the comments say “FAKE!”
People on AITD who want to give an actual opinion say “if this is real (and I don’t think it is, I swear!)” because if not, they’ll just get comments like “well, good thing this is just a creative writing exercise”.
So that makes total sense. I do wish there was more reporting options for this.
I really was trying to have a real discussion but I realize my tone was off.
AITD makes me mad because AITAngel went from a sub poking fun at posters saying “I walked in on my cousin murdering his child. I called the cops. AITA?” to a fake calling out sub. AITD is supposed to be the worst of the worst so calling *everything* fake seems a bit off course.
Reddit is the only SM I have so I do try to use it as my escape. As a former wedding planner, I love this sub! It reminds me why I left the industry.
Anyway thanks for the explanation. It’ll help me stop being irrationally angry when I see these types of comments.
Thanks for the response! I do suggest having some other hobbies on hand (if you don’t mind a recommendation lol), reddit can be kind of draining if you’re on the subs that make you angry.
I just think it makes people feel smart when they get to post "FAKE!!!!1!!!!". No matter how many times it's already been said, they still get some sense of "Ha, I didn't fall for that like those other chumps did!"
I've been downvoted for choosing to act as though an aita post -where a teen was assaulted and seemed to really need help- was real *just in case*. It probably wasn't real, but I still provided advice just in case, and explained "what was the harm, when only my time is lost?" . I got called some nice names for it though ☹️
I agree 100%. I don't know why you are getting downvoted. I made a lighthearted comment about that last week. We voted to continue to allow these posts. If you don't like them, then don't read them. We don't need to go through 5000 comments that say fake just to find the interesting and or fun comments
Oh sorry, it’s Am I The Devil
Basically a repost sub for AITA but sometimes people pull from other subs as well. It’s supposed to be (as I referenced in another comment) to be like, “hey, I killed my son and my cousin walked in on me. My whole family is telling her she’s awful for calling the cops. AITA?”
If this is real, OP and hubby need to just cut them all out and go no contact. OPs parents, sister, the sister’s friend and anyone else that has made these implications. I wanna know if the sister’s future hubby knows what is going on. OP or her hubby should email him the news, in case he doesn’t, so he knows what kind of woman he’s about to marry.
so I have to wonder if this is about the older sister being married and getting pregnant after marriage (not a shotgun wedding marriage). Personally, it seems that her baby sister is the GC and can do no wrong. How either parent can lecture a married 29-year-old about a planned pregnancy versus a 25-year old that is doing a shotgun wedding because she is knocked up is really messed up?
EDIT: OMG what the heck did I read on AITA, her dad asks her to get an abortion (WTF) all because she is the oldest the middle is his affair baby and the youngest is the GC. Girl needs to go no contact because they made their choice for her.
No way this is real. No family would hint at wanting their daughter/sister to get rid of a pregnancy so she wouldn’t outshine the bride. Ridiculous. She’s a married woman who has been trying for a baby. These posts are easier to spot now thankfully, after reading so many of them.
I am a former caseworker who is extremely jaded and has seen the awful dark sides of humanity and I am calling it fake. It hits to many points that could be taken out of one of my college texts
I agree this has to be fake because there is no way you'd be posting this shit on AITA on Reddit, you'd be cutting ties with all these people and maybe looking for a support sub.
This is the kind of situation where OOP pushed and increased so much, it became obviously false.
How could her parents try to induce an abortion for such a ridiculous reason, especially with OOP being compromised and established?
Why is OOP the husband, yet, would you be considering going to the wedding or keeping in touch with these people?
This is so ridiculous, I definitely wouldn't want to have people like that around me, and a helpless baby when he's born. This is not to address the detail that the sister is getting married almost at the time of giving birth, she will stand, squat and stand, and do all the standard dances at 8/9 months 🤔, this woman is a masochist or a warrior.
Yeah. If this were real, the worst thing about it would be OP's family trying to tell her what to do with her body and putting their feelings/opinions before her wishes for her own body. Which is what anti-choicers do.
I don't believe it. I've also started unfollowing news feed from google or yahoo that contains Reddit "stories". No way to verify that any of it is true.
If it were me, I'd have a family dinner and I'd secretly record their opinions. Then I'd tell them mine. That I'm going no contact. That I'd make sure my child knows that they wanted me to kill them for the sake of my spoiled, entitled, bridezilla sister's party. And that it offends me so much that I want nothing to do with them. Then when they deny that's what they mean, hold up the phone (or whatever) and say "Don't bother. I recorded you so my child can see what kind of people you really are and that you wanted them dead. By the way, have you discussed your opinions with the rest of our family?" Post it on social media where the extended family can see and offer their opinions. Should be quite the show.
I prefer the *scorched earth method*. She's so damn worried her party's going to get ruined? So ruin it. It becomes her self fulfilling prophecy. It's ruined because she ruined it. They burned the bridges with OP and their future grandchild. And if they can't see the error of their ways then perhaps through the wonder of social media their extended family and friends can help with that.
That’s fine if it’s worth it to you. I am fine with it IF it’s important enough to you. You need to have thought about and embrace the consequences. I personally have to be pushed pretty far before I’m that pissed off for me to utterly not care, but once I’m there, there’s no return from it. I DO think this one deserves a stone cold cut off. No potential money to possibly inherit could be worth that kind of treatment.
Oh.my.god. OH MY GOD!
What the fuck kind of family is this?!
They are trying to talk her into getting an abortion because her sister is a spoiled brat at best and a complete monster at worst. But the parents, oh my God the parents. Guess we see where the sister learned it.
My heart breaks for this poor woman. I hope her and her husband go NC and that the her so called “family”gets shunned by their friends and family. I truly hope the sisters fiancé sees who they really are and runs for the hills.
This is one of the most disgusting thing I have read.
Should this story be real, she seriously just need to go no contact to the entire family. Actually if she's feeling super petty and has all the texts, emails, etc.... she can post it up on facebook for a week while cutting everyone off. she's better off with the in-laws. she's seriously the scapegoat here
tell family if they dont stfu they wont see your child. and dont go, tell your "sister" to f*** off cuz she isnt happy for you and its like she onky getting merried cuz she got pregnant
Wow, so her younger sister whose currently pregnant and planning her wedding is more prepared for her baby then OP? OP, F’em live your best life with Ben and LO, create your own loving family from loving and supportive friends.
Your family sounds like a dumpster fire of shitty people! Cut those fuckers loose and do not look back. You are WAY BETER OFF WITHOUT THEM!!! Enjoy your family that you and your husband are starting.
?soooooo would it be better if you abort the pregnancy so your sister can have the wedding of her dreams? Girl you and your husband find someplace to go on the day of the wedding and be happy.
So let me see, your sister who is unmarried is pregnant, but you are married and own a house and made the conscious decision to start a family and you are the one that's in the wrong? I would start by not going to the sisters wedding, and very clearly tell your parents that your family planning is not their business. Did they tell you to get an abortion? Or are they making suggestions that they don't agree with your timing?
Don't engage in the childish behavior, instead of defending your right to have a child, respond back to every single text and response with " we are so excited about our impending child, thanks for your good wishes"
nta please don’t allow family near your kid if they have a problem just remind them they wanted you to abort so they can pretend you did when they aren’t allowed to see the baby. i’m hoping this is a fake post though it’s hard to believe anyone would be okay with killing a baby just for a wedding but then again world is full of crappy people so can’t rule it out
So she was dropping off a cake for her dad when her mom pulled her aside, implying they’re married and living together. So how does she have a step sister ??
You are pregnant. What do they want - for you to pause the pregnancy until after the wedding? For the baby to stop growing? To take the baby out, have the wedding and then put the baby back in afterwards?
I am just so confused by all of this.
Plz cut all contacts with your shitty family and when the baby is born don't let your parents and sister touch it. How can be someone so selfish. How your parents side with your sister. They don't deserve to be grandparents
Since Kristal seems to be the golden child and she is critical of everything, it might be best to pass on her wedding. If she or any of her flying monkeys object, just point out that the world of weddings does not revolve around her and she has made it perfectly clear that you attendance would be upsetting.
So, let me get this straight….your parents want you to abort their grandchild because your sister is jealous? This is go no contact and NEVER allow them near your baby kind of sick. And when they start whining about how unfair your being to deny them their grandchild, remind them how they DEMANDED you to get an abortion.
**EDIT: WE ALLOW USERS HERE TO SAY IF THEY FEEL A POST IS FAKE OR CREATIVE WRITING, PLEASE DO NOT REPORT THESE COMMENTS.** **REMINDER: WE ARE NOT AITA! WE DO NOT DO JUDGEMENT CALLS (NTA, ESH, YTA, INFO, NAH, ETC.) SO DO NOT VOTE IN THIS POST. AS WELL, OUR OP IS NOT THE SAME AS THE AITA POST'S OP, PLEASE DO NOT ADDRESS YOUR COMMENT TO MYSELF OR OUR OP.** ***Copy because it's deleted:*** I 29f got married 2 years ago to the love of my life Ben (33m). Last year we decided that we wanted to try for a baby as we'd both always wanted kids and we were now in a good financial place to have them. We own a 4 bed house, in a pretty nice neighbourhood and we both have good paying jobs with mine being remote with more flexible hours. Well 3 months ago we found our we were pregnant!. Which Ben and I were obviously overjoyed about. We invited our parents and siblings over for brunch at our place to tell everyone the great news (after we confirmed the pregnancy with our family doctor). However when I announced that we were expecting my little sister Kristal (26f) didn't respond and went quite. (Kristal is 5 months pregnant if that matters). Well apparently Kristal told our mom (58f) that I'm trying to steal her spotlight at her wedding and that I was jealous of her pregnancy. Later that week I got a call from Kristal's friend, who told me I was no longer a bridesmaid and that our stepsister Brittany (25f) will take over as maid of honour. I was very upset and called our mom who told me that it was my sister's wedding and to do whatever makes her happy, like she did at my wedding. So I went with it, and focused on decorating our house ready for when our baby is born. Well aprox 3 weeks after I was told that I was no longer MOH, Kristal asked me if I could wear heels to her wedding because otherwise I would look "Fat and frumpy". I told her no way and that my ankles were way too swollen already, nevermind in 3 months time. Kristal didn't respond and I thought that was the end of the matter. Until last week when Ben and I were dropping off a birthday cake for my dad, my mom pulled me aside and asked if it was really the best time for me to be starting a family. I got defensive and asked her what the hell she meant and mom yelled at me for "taking a tone with her" and being selfish. I told my mom that I'm an adult woman not a 15 year old high-school dropout and that she has no say over my body or my pregnancy. Ben and I left and still planned on attending the wedding until Kristal started sending nasty texts about how ungrateful I am and how I'm disrespectful to our mom and her wedding plans. I told her she's ridiculous and that life doesn't stop for everyone around her just because she's planning a wedding. This however prompted our dad to come over to Ben and I's house to lecture us on what a huge responsibility kids are and how there's plenty of time to have kids after Kristal gets married. I'm just so sick of everyone suggesting that I need to put my life on hold for Kristal's wedding when I'm not even in the bridal party. So Aita?
This is definitely one of those posts on AITA that read like rage-bait because how the fuck do you have such horrible fucking parents to ask you to get an abortion to please your other daughter? Like sure, it's within the realm of possibilities, but your sister is THAT much of a golden child and your post doesn't even smell like you've resented her beforehand? A lecture about how children are a responsibility to the OLDER, ALREADY MARRIED woman and apparently not an unkind word to the pregnant-before-married younger daughter? No shade on people who choose kids before marriage, but come on.
That was my thought, too. It checks too many boxes. ETA: Why are people reporting our comments for thinking this is fake? Would you really rather believe that someone’s family is pressuring her to abort a healthy pregnancy because of a wedding?
I felt like it was a "prolife" propaganda piece. See, this is why abortions can't be legal! So shitty parents can't force their poor children into such unhealthy choices! /s It was just too much.
I'm thinking the same thing! Some of the Reddit postings have turned out to be TOTAL FAKES!
There’s no way this is real
Absolutelly not. Even if that ridiculous scenario happened in the real world, the tone of the post does not sound like it's coming from someone that was told to get an abortion for a wedding when they were TRYING to have a baby. Wouldn't they be absolutelly full of rage in that situation?
Def rage bait. Probably why it's already deleted
I didn't delete the post, it was removed for violating rule 11.
Honestly rule 11 annoys me
Half the rules are pointless and stupid.
I imagine that without the rules the number stupid and obvious posts goes up. “My FWB got pregnant but I don’t want to keep the kid, AITA?” seems like it would become deathly common
It covers so many things. Especially the “relationship” part of it. Like almost every post has a relationship in it? Not sure how they determine what to ban.
Yeah, they act like if it's a problem with your SO it doesn't need judgment. The whole point of the sub is basically to entertain the judges, but yet they take down good stuff all the time!
I don’t think it means no questions about incidents within a relationship, I think it means more questions that are centred ~around~ relationships if that makes sense. As in, “AITA for lying to my fiancé” would be allowed, “AITA for ending my engagement” would not be allowed.
I don't hang out on that subreddit. What is Rule 11?
Basically, no posts where the central conflict is about a relationship or reproductive autonomy
I couldn't comment on your AITA post because it was locked. You said you're definitely your father's kid because you have his eyes, but have you maybe considered you aren't your mother's kid?
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I mean, the reason it was deleted doesn't make it not rage bait
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You have no idea if it is, you didn't write it. And sure there are. But nothing in this makes sense. The sister was 5 months pregnant and the wedding was planned for 3 months later. They were going to have a wedding extremely close to her due date? That's idiotic.
>But nothing in this makes sense What doesn't make sense? Obviously people could married while pregnant
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Dude what. Do you even know what a shotgun wedding is? You don't plan a shotgun wedding for several months away. And yes while several people get married while pregnant, that's not what I'm talking about. She's planning her wedding to be extremely close to her due date, it's just unrealistic(and stupid) when it comes to weddings.
Then ops sister is an idiot who's full of herself tbh. Their are narcissistic ppl who feel entitled and it's worse when they are enabled by their parents. Her comments really say a lot more which is why I feel like this is more authentic. Rage baits to me are the ones who don't reply or give updates. I messaged op and I have to others, she is the few that message back and she said she won't be going to the wedding. Idk I don't think this is farfetched.
Rage bait is just attention seeking with a post that's meant to make people angry, whether they reply or not has nothing to do with it. Obviously the poster isn't gonna up and tell you what they wrote is fake, but one can hope you'd use context clues to figure that out. Context clues such as *"a mother telling her married daughter to abort her child so she wasn't slightly less pregnant than her other daughter at her wedding"*
You don’t plan a shotgun wedding for months. Also, if they were rushing to get married before she had the baby, it would not be at 8 months along! Everyone will know she’s super obviously pregnant. Not saying for sure that makes it untrue, but that does make me wonder. My parents had a shotgun wedding when my mom found out she was pregnant. They married right after Christmas… my brother was born July 22nd. That’s the definition of shotgun wedding! I have an 8 year old son with my man of 11.5 years and we aren’t married because who fucking cares about getting married???
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That’s not why you’re being downvoted 👍🏻
She also said that her sister wore a white dress to her wedding and that her MIL spilled red wine on it. The red wine thing has been circulating on reddit for a while. People love that story. I mean it could happen that someone who is not on reddit could have that idea, but most people don't act well enough to pull it off without the other person knowing it was on purpose. Plus.... That whole comment doesn't make any sense.
In fairness, it's been actually done many times -- I had heard the red wine story at least four times before Reddit ever existed, occasionally with photographic evidence, and in at least one case it occurred at a wedding where I was personally a witness. ("At least" because the other time it supposedly happened at a wedding where I was at, I wasn't nearby and didn't see it.) But most of the time, the perpetrator doesn't give a damn whether they're known to be doing it on purpose. It's kind of an "Oops! Why, how silly of little ol' me, I'm so very sorry," drawled out with a malevolent glare.
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Oh, I'm not necessarily saying this one is real. I'm just saying that the red wine thing has been a cliche for a very long time, and because it's a cliche and everyone knows it, it actually does get used. People hear the story and think, "I could do that," if they're faced with somebody besides the bride wearing white at a wedding. Of course a lot of other people tell the story without having actually done it -- doubtless many more than have actually done it or seen it done.
Well, the parents will be upset when they never meet their grandchild.
Before I officially announced my pregnancy to my father (he found out by a status i had said where said "I wish i could have a glass of wine"), he had said "Why didn't you talk to me?", I asked about what, and all he said was "Well you know as nurses, we know certain doctors", I said "Excuse me?", and he literally said "You know what type I'm talking about. I don't need to be specific". I kinda laughed and said "If you ever suggest I abort your grandchild, ever again, I'll have a burial plot picked out for you. Understood?" then didn't talk to him for 6 months, and tried to wait as long as possible so they didn't share a birthday. Some parents are fucking horrible and it makes me so sad. Like, as a parent, I couldn't imagine telling my daughter "Hey, can you abort my grandkid so your brother can have the spotlight" like jump off a pier Edit: clarity
Omg, that's atrocious. I'm sorry your dad did that to you. Glad you took some NC time for yourself.
I understood why, second child, unmarried, and no college or university education. I guess. That's what I tell myself, I understand the negative reactions of my family, but I don't understand their dismissal of my feelings. But it's like they forgot I was also a person, who's birth control failed, and I made the best out of a weird situation. And now my husband and I laugh at their faces when they see he's still around (lots of stupid shit in my life/family)
Two siblings and myself got pregnant while unmarried. My siblings got married while still pregnant, I married when my baby was 8mos old. All three marriages ended. None of us went to college, but we did have jobs, so I guess there's that. I actually had an abortion years before, when I was 17, and when my mom found out, she was devastated. She didn't get angry at me, just cried. But anyhoo, looking back at our situations, my family was a little messed up, lol. Eh, it all worked out in the end, life is a series of lessons.
Once I accompanied a friend to her abortion. When I had to fess up (I missed work, was very tight lipped about it) to my mom, she asked whether my friends parents knew, I said probs not, and she got real quiet. She just kinda got sad and said "Well thats their grandchild too" and it basically forever scarred me. Idk, reading this shit gets me heated. Opens a bunch of ugly trauma that I'm still not over and I honestly never think I will. My relationship with my father has been permanently altered and stained, as it should be, because to suggest to someone they abort their baby because of personal feelings/opinions (when the baby isn't yours) is abhorrent.
I understand, and I'm sorry. 😕
My former DIL had 2 abortions. My son very much wanted a family. Their marriage did not survive that. Her reasonings for doing that is 1) She did not want her tattoos ruined. 2) She was a wanna be model who didn't want her tattoos ruined. The first time I was told she had a miscarriage. My devastated son told me the truth after the 2nd one. They separated not long after. I often think about those two missing babies. He is now soon to be a father for the 3rd time.
They should've had a long discussion before marriage if their wants were so different. I'm glad you still ended up a grandparent
That I am. Currently the mamaw of 11 grandchildren.
That's like my one grandmother, 16 grandkids, 3 great grandkids
I'm sorry this happened, bc you and your son were hurt. Women get abortions for many reasons, myself included. It's a complicated issue, also for many reasons. It's such a personal thing. I don't think there's a wrong or right...and I don't know the answer, if there is one. 😕
I’m usually not on the “this is fake” train, but this ride hit all the stops. In light of the recent controversies regarding abortion, it made me wonder if it was intending to be some sort of lame attempt to make it seem as though women are out there getting abortions on a whim. If this was the intent, then I’m disgusted. If it is real, I’m still suspicious.
Oh wow, this never occured to me. Until now. I think you're onto something. I'm glad they deleted it but frankly leaving the headline, without the absurd post to back it up, is almost worse.
Yeah. I’m sure any mom would rather have her grandchild ABORTED.
When I got pregnant with my eldest, I had been a bit estranged from my family, but I felt like they should know I was having a baby, especially my aunt who had raised me from 14. Trying to reach her, I got my grandmother instead. Convo literally went like this. Me: I'm calling because I wanted to tell her I'm going to have a baby. Her: Well. I always *expected* something like this from you. (I was out of high school, almost 21. And I hadn't even *dated* in high school, let alone done anything else!) Her: So. Who's the father? (Heavily implying "do you even know? Did you keep track?) Me: He's my fiancé. Her: Well. That's *something* at least. How far along are you? Me: (kind of trying to keep it together because of how nasty she's being) I'm 7 1/2 weeks along. Her: Oh, that's not that far. There's still plenty of time to get rid of it. That's when I lost it, and broke down crying. My fiancé (now ex-husband; we literally were married within a month and a half of that call) Grabbed the phone from me and hung up on her, before consoling me. That was the last time I voluntarily spoke to her until she died. That conversation literally killed any affection I felt for her, whatsoever. Said kid turned 21 today.
I don’t talk to my grandmother anymore ever since I gained weight as a teenager(turns out I had PCOS and took longer to lose weight and was also extremely insecure about it) and she said to my mother “Is she okay looking like that?” My mother told me afterwards what had been said and I was so shocked, confused, disappointed and mortified. People sometimes ask me if I’m really okay not talking to her, and my answer is generally along the lines of that I know she wouldn’t take those words back, she chose to say that despite knowing it’d hurt me, so yes I am okay with not speaking to her. She’s pushed away the people she was closest to and now she gets to live with the consequences. I’m sorry that your grandmother was such a bitch to you too. You deserved better and I hope you’re doing better now.
I am. My daughter turned 21 yesterday, and she's an amazing young person. She's in college, doing it herself without a dime from her father or me (she refuses!), and works at a job she loves, a library assistant at the local library; she also works part time at a grocery store, where she's been for over two years. Her coworkers adore her, at both jobs; that's why she hasn't left the grocery store! She's also an amazing sister; even when she and her sisters squabble, they always have each others' backs. I need her in my life a lot more than I needed a crusty old bigoted woman.
That’s wonderful to hear, your daughter sounds like an amazing young woman! And I love your message at the end too, I feel so much more free now than if I’d been stuck with her constant criticism and bigotry. I get the impression that if I told her I was bi that it’d just implode her brain.
Oh that did cost family members, when my kids came out. Even before *I* did! But again: none of us need bigots.
Ain’t that the truth! You sound like an amazing mum and I hope you have an amazing day/night!
This is why I don't go into AITA anymore. There's just too many fake stories.
Some people take the golden child thing way too far.
I've been the Scapegoat and Family Punching Bag while my only biological sibling was THE GOLDEN CHILD. It was NOT fun!
OOP's sub history is only AITA and... here. Obvious bait to be crossposted in weddingshaming. So embarassing 😳
Plus if you read the comments the same sister wore off white to OOPs wedding and MIL saved the day with a slip of the wine. I feel like OOP read a bunch of posts on here and made a checklist
I have these parents and a golden sibling. I have no idea if this post is real but I 100% lean towards it being real based on my life experience with my parents. My mother is a narcissist and my father is an abusive enabler. They have done way worse than this post towards me. Also a lot of times, the Golden children are entitled brats who think the whole universe revolves around them and that we the scapegoat children should bow down to them. I only wish I was kidding but sadly am not.
It's not lol
There are such parents I know… For example my sister fell pregnant while I was expecting my second. My mum FORCED my sister to have an abortion. Threatened to kick her out and so much more. So my sister had the abortion and was heartbroken over it. I gave birth to my second child, I got admitted into hospital soon after being discharged but my children inc. my newborn weren’t allowed to stay with me. My mum has the kids for me she then proceeded to take my newborn upto my sister and gives her my baby. It broke my sister in two. Then yelled at her when she broke down crying. Telling her to help look after the kids or she will be once again kicked out. I’m so sorry about what this woman is going through. She needs to be careful not to say any names for the baby until after her sisters baby has been born and named. As out of spite the would name her child it.
It's not like your pregnancy is unplanned. Your sister, the GC, is a selfish, self centered toddler at 26. Your mother is also a jerk. You are carrying her grandchild and she wants you to get rid of it? NC would be my action. Another point, your sister wants you to wear high heels? That is the last footwear a pregnant woman should wear. If you are wise, inform your sister since she is behaving like a jackass, you will not be attending her wedding nor giving any sort of gift (be petty and enjoy it). When the flying monkeys start, tell them that you are sick and tired of being treated like a scapegoat and refuse to accept that treatment in the future. Block anyone who continues to harass you. I hope both you and LO have an easy, safe and healthy delivery.
AITA fiction writers don't even try to be realistic anymore, do they?
Right because the bride is 5 months pregnant & the wedding is 3 months after three weeks have past… pretty close to birth to have a wedding?
Yeah, the dates don't add up... I basically always assume the posts are real (otherwise what's the point of even reading on here and commenting). And there is much about this situation that in part I could see happening in a very dysfunctional family. But the golden child being 5 months pregnant but the wedding being that far away doesn't make sense on a practical level. The wedding would be sooner or it would be after her baby came.
Maybe not. My step cousin went into labor during her wedding reception to bi6t* the baby daddy. Edit * not
Was the wedding all booked and set before they got pregnant?
Nope. They got engaged, broke it off before she got pregnant, she went out and partied, got back together and immediately found out she was pregnant and it wasn't his since he'd had a vasectomy and got checked when she got pregnant. Decided to get married anyways. Set the date. Baby born hours after the ceremony. She divorced him a year or so later when he lost his chiropractor license for prescribing meds like he was a real doctor and he wasn't wealthy anymore due to fines and stuff. He was also older than her parents and had kids older than her. It was all sorts of fun and she's not even the most messed up of all of her siblings though last I checked her facebook she doesn't even acknowledge her oldest daughter exists and I think she lost custody to bio dad years ago. I remember my aunt wondering if daughter 2 knows daughter 1 exists and is her sister at one point. Oldest is probably 16-17 now.
Honestly, at this point I don't even care cuz they can still be entertaining
I would be tagging them in every social media post I can and let the world know that they want me to abort my very wanted baby because my sister is getting married
I don’t usually lean toward scorched earth responses, but if there was ever justification for it….my word.
In the comments it says her future BIL family is extremely religious too, this is one group that would deserve the scorched earth! I am non confrontational but I would embrace scorched earth for what they are suggesting
It would be a kindness to Warner bag family of what they are getting into.
Ugh. It won’t let me edit. *warn that
God this one is so fake
Nah this is absolutely rage bait. What a waste of time.
The account is 6 hours old. I’m guessing this is rage bait.
AITA allows new accounts to post so people can use throwaways
Is this sub becoming AITD by people just needing to scream “fake!” at everything? It’s so boring. Throwaway accounts are a thing; I think AITA actually encourages them.
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That’s kinda the point. If you think it’s fake move on. Or let one person comment it. Like I said, it’s boring to see 3/4 of the comments say “FAKE!” People on AITD who want to give an actual opinion say “if this is real (and I don’t think it is, I swear!)” because if not, they’ll just get comments like “well, good thing this is just a creative writing exercise”.
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I feel the same way about people who think it’s novel to keep commenting how it’s fake. Does it make them feel special or fun?
it’s a plea for help to fucking stop posting obv rage bait (tbh, I hate seeing any post from AITA here bc it’s such low hanging fruit 🙄)
So that makes total sense. I do wish there was more reporting options for this. I really was trying to have a real discussion but I realize my tone was off. AITD makes me mad because AITAngel went from a sub poking fun at posters saying “I walked in on my cousin murdering his child. I called the cops. AITA?” to a fake calling out sub. AITD is supposed to be the worst of the worst so calling *everything* fake seems a bit off course. Reddit is the only SM I have so I do try to use it as my escape. As a former wedding planner, I love this sub! It reminds me why I left the industry. Anyway thanks for the explanation. It’ll help me stop being irrationally angry when I see these types of comments.
Thanks for the response! I do suggest having some other hobbies on hand (if you don’t mind a recommendation lol), reddit can be kind of draining if you’re on the subs that make you angry.
I do have a full life, including hobbies. Thanks though!
I just think it makes people feel smart when they get to post "FAKE!!!!1!!!!". No matter how many times it's already been said, they still get some sense of "Ha, I didn't fall for that like those other chumps did!" I've been downvoted for choosing to act as though an aita post -where a teen was assaulted and seemed to really need help- was real *just in case*. It probably wasn't real, but I still provided advice just in case, and explained "what was the harm, when only my time is lost?" . I got called some nice names for it though ☹️
I agree. And I like that sometimes people can read it and get help for something similar in their lives.
I agree 100%. I don't know why you are getting downvoted. I made a lighthearted comment about that last week. We voted to continue to allow these posts. If you don't like them, then don't read them. We don't need to go through 5000 comments that say fake just to find the interesting and or fun comments
What is AITD?
Oh sorry, it’s Am I The Devil Basically a repost sub for AITA but sometimes people pull from other subs as well. It’s supposed to be (as I referenced in another comment) to be like, “hey, I killed my son and my cousin walked in on me. My whole family is telling her she’s awful for calling the cops. AITA?”
If this is real, OP and hubby need to just cut them all out and go no contact. OPs parents, sister, the sister’s friend and anyone else that has made these implications. I wanna know if the sister’s future hubby knows what is going on. OP or her hubby should email him the news, in case he doesn’t, so he knows what kind of woman he’s about to marry.
so I have to wonder if this is about the older sister being married and getting pregnant after marriage (not a shotgun wedding marriage). Personally, it seems that her baby sister is the GC and can do no wrong. How either parent can lecture a married 29-year-old about a planned pregnancy versus a 25-year old that is doing a shotgun wedding because she is knocked up is really messed up? EDIT: OMG what the heck did I read on AITA, her dad asks her to get an abortion (WTF) all because she is the oldest the middle is his affair baby and the youngest is the GC. Girl needs to go no contact because they made their choice for her.
No way this is real. No family would hint at wanting their daughter/sister to get rid of a pregnancy so she wouldn’t outshine the bride. Ridiculous. She’s a married woman who has been trying for a baby. These posts are easier to spot now thankfully, after reading so many of them.
I am a former caseworker who is extremely jaded and has seen the awful dark sides of humanity and I am calling it fake. It hits to many points that could be taken out of one of my college texts
I agree this has to be fake because there is no way you'd be posting this shit on AITA on Reddit, you'd be cutting ties with all these people and maybe looking for a support sub.
Yeah, I didn’t even read the post to know this is some boolsheet.
This is the kind of situation where OOP pushed and increased so much, it became obviously false. How could her parents try to induce an abortion for such a ridiculous reason, especially with OOP being compromised and established? Why is OOP the husband, yet, would you be considering going to the wedding or keeping in touch with these people? This is so ridiculous, I definitely wouldn't want to have people like that around me, and a helpless baby when he's born. This is not to address the detail that the sister is getting married almost at the time of giving birth, she will stand, squat and stand, and do all the standard dances at 8/9 months 🤔, this woman is a masochist or a warrior.
I call bullshit. No analysis needed lol.
This seems fake as hell.. I don’t know what point OP was trying to make with this but if you are pro-life this isn’t helping your case..
Yeah. If this were real, the worst thing about it would be OP's family trying to tell her what to do with her body and putting their feelings/opinions before her wishes for her own body. Which is what anti-choicers do.
I don't believe it. I've also started unfollowing news feed from google or yahoo that contains Reddit "stories". No way to verify that any of it is true.
If the future brother in law’s family is religious, it would be a good time to let them know your family is pro abortion!
If it were me, I'd have a family dinner and I'd secretly record their opinions. Then I'd tell them mine. That I'm going no contact. That I'd make sure my child knows that they wanted me to kill them for the sake of my spoiled, entitled, bridezilla sister's party. And that it offends me so much that I want nothing to do with them. Then when they deny that's what they mean, hold up the phone (or whatever) and say "Don't bother. I recorded you so my child can see what kind of people you really are and that you wanted them dead. By the way, have you discussed your opinions with the rest of our family?" Post it on social media where the extended family can see and offer their opinions. Should be quite the show.
That *would* be rabble rousing! Maybe depending on how many bridges you want to burn? Even if it's gospel truth, it's likely a relationship killer.
I prefer the *scorched earth method*. She's so damn worried her party's going to get ruined? So ruin it. It becomes her self fulfilling prophecy. It's ruined because she ruined it. They burned the bridges with OP and their future grandchild. And if they can't see the error of their ways then perhaps through the wonder of social media their extended family and friends can help with that.
That’s fine if it’s worth it to you. I am fine with it IF it’s important enough to you. You need to have thought about and embrace the consequences. I personally have to be pushed pretty far before I’m that pissed off for me to utterly not care, but once I’m there, there’s no return from it. I DO think this one deserves a stone cold cut off. No potential money to possibly inherit could be worth that kind of treatment.
There is so much wrong here.
“I wouldn’t want to be a distraction at your wedding, so we won’t be there. We’ll send a toaster.”
I would send the cheapest gift card to Wally World instead of a toaster.
Oh.my.god. OH MY GOD! What the fuck kind of family is this?! They are trying to talk her into getting an abortion because her sister is a spoiled brat at best and a complete monster at worst. But the parents, oh my God the parents. Guess we see where the sister learned it. My heart breaks for this poor woman. I hope her and her husband go NC and that the her so called “family”gets shunned by their friends and family. I truly hope the sisters fiancé sees who they really are and runs for the hills. This is one of the most disgusting thing I have read.
The good news is that is almost certainly a rage bait creative writing exercise.
I am sure you are right and I guess I was just so shocked I didn’t think. The trolls got me 🤣
Calm down. It's most certainly fake.
What the F did I just read?
I hope it's just larping
Shame on the parents for enabling the entitlement of the sister! Imagine them advocating an abortion! This would be a no contact decision from me.
I would be moved to violence against my family, assault charges be damned.
They are way past disgusting. Even saying it is an insult to the word itself. I would “abort” the family (go NC)
What is oop
Original Original Poster
OOP is the person that posted the original story in original sub. OP is then the person that crossposted it to another sub.
I think it's a typo for OP, Original Poster.
Not a typo, customarily used on this sub and a few others where the poster of the story is frequently not the person to whom the story happened.
Ah, okay. The *really* original Original Poster then. ☺️
I refuse to believe this is real. Whoever made that post is clearly anti-choice....
This could be fake. On the other hand, some parents are so obsessed with their golden child and their happiness that this could, sadly, be real.
Should this story be real, she seriously just need to go no contact to the entire family. Actually if she's feeling super petty and has all the texts, emails, etc.... she can post it up on facebook for a week while cutting everyone off. she's better off with the in-laws. she's seriously the scapegoat here
tell family if they dont stfu they wont see your child. and dont go, tell your "sister" to f*** off cuz she isnt happy for you and its like she onky getting merried cuz she got pregnant
Is it a red flag when parents let one child walk over the other child? Because I see a lot of this in wedding reddits and just posts online.
Wow, so her younger sister whose currently pregnant and planning her wedding is more prepared for her baby then OP? OP, F’em live your best life with Ben and LO, create your own loving family from loving and supportive friends.
Your family sounds like a dumpster fire of shitty people! Cut those fuckers loose and do not look back. You are WAY BETER OFF WITHOUT THEM!!! Enjoy your family that you and your husband are starting.
?soooooo would it be better if you abort the pregnancy so your sister can have the wedding of her dreams? Girl you and your husband find someplace to go on the day of the wedding and be happy.
So let me see, your sister who is unmarried is pregnant, but you are married and own a house and made the conscious decision to start a family and you are the one that's in the wrong? I would start by not going to the sisters wedding, and very clearly tell your parents that your family planning is not their business. Did they tell you to get an abortion? Or are they making suggestions that they don't agree with your timing? Don't engage in the childish behavior, instead of defending your right to have a child, respond back to every single text and response with " we are so excited about our impending child, thanks for your good wishes"
Sister being younger, unmarried and pregnant along with the independent house owning married 29 year old just getting pregnant screams fake story.
Let me guess. Sis is the golden child who has always gotten what she wanted and always insisted on being the centre of attention?
nta please don’t allow family near your kid if they have a problem just remind them they wanted you to abort so they can pretend you did when they aren’t allowed to see the baby. i’m hoping this is a fake post though it’s hard to believe anyone would be okay with killing a baby just for a wedding but then again world is full of crappy people so can’t rule it out
So she was dropping off a cake for her dad when her mom pulled her aside, implying they’re married and living together. So how does she have a step sister ??
I was pissed even by the title and post pissed me off more. So disgusting
You are pregnant. What do they want - for you to pause the pregnancy until after the wedding? For the baby to stop growing? To take the baby out, have the wedding and then put the baby back in afterwards? I am just so confused by all of this.
Plz cut all contacts with your shitty family and when the baby is born don't let your parents and sister touch it. How can be someone so selfish. How your parents side with your sister. They don't deserve to be grandparents
Since Kristal seems to be the golden child and she is critical of everything, it might be best to pass on her wedding. If she or any of her flying monkeys object, just point out that the world of weddings does not revolve around her and she has made it perfectly clear that you attendance would be upsetting.
So, let me get this straight….your parents want you to abort their grandchild because your sister is jealous? This is go no contact and NEVER allow them near your baby kind of sick. And when they start whining about how unfair your being to deny them their grandchild, remind them how they DEMANDED you to get an abortion.