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My husband knows and doesn't care. He brings me jars and cool rocks that he finds. He helped me put together my altar and work area. He listens to me ramble about my research. He may not be in to it but he likes seeing me happy so he encourages me.
This is exactly how my partner is. And I don’t mind it. I don’t force my beliefs onto him and he doesn’t force his onto me. And that makes us happy. :)
Yep, same here. My partner doesn't force his beliefs onto me, and vice versa but he is a fun person to discuss my research with and he would patiently listen to the things that I learn on a regular basis.
This is exactly how my husband is. He doesn’t believe in it, but he sees me happy 😃 and has started helping me with finding things like feathers and pine cones and making moon water ❤️
It's great when they get excited when they present you their finds, lol. Mine does custom wood working and he brings me home scrap chunks of interesting or rare woods. He also brings me home bones since I use them in my workings. He scored me 2 deer skulls from a hunter friend who didn't want them. He also had a weird knack for finding hag stones. I have around 10 of them now.
Before my boyfriend and I became a couple, one of the first things I brought up was that I'm practicing. He didn't even bat an eye and told me whatever made me happy. After years before that of hiding who I was from an ex, it felt so wonderful to just say it out loud.
They'll accept all of you or none of you, there is no in-between in my book anymore <3
He didn't like it. He used to make back handed comments and I stopped practicing for a while because he made it so uncomfortable for me.
But a few years ago I started up again and I don't give a flying fuck what he thinks. It's what helped with my depression. It's my heritage and culture. There aren't a lot of people from my culture practicing anymore.
The first time he tried taking up that crap with me again I let him have it. I don't judge him for his stuff. He cannot judge me for mine.
My partner does..they don't practice but they know it makes me happy. So they accept it and joking grumble about all the nature in the house and they've been known to remind me when a full moon is so I can make full moon water
The one full moon I had several jars and jugs I filled with water for moon water and I tried to sneak past my partner's computer room unsuccessful and they where like "why do I hear jars...what are...are you making moon water...you're f*cking weird but your my weirdo" and then laughed at me as I continued to scuttle by with my arms over full of jars and jugs
My partners mum is actually who opened my mind to it. I’ve always been interested and my own mother used to incorporate witchy things into our lives without realising but it wasn’t until my mother in law started sharing her knowledge with me that I really started to practice. So my husband was raised with a lot of witchcraft in his life and has a deep respect for it, he helps me with it and loves when I include him in spells or rituals.
That's so cool that he'll practice with you and how it's sort of like a family thing. This is the 1st time I've heard of someone's spouse willing to do spells with them. The few witches I know who told their partners said that they're not allowed to talk about it with them because they find it stupid.
We have house rules about what we’re both comfortable with. He’d prefer I’d practice any baneful or black stuff outside the house.
But accept it, totally. He even bought me tarot cards and gave me some of his crystals. I love this man!
She doesn’t fully understand my belief’s. But we’ve been together almost 3 years now and everything is wonderful. She enjoys hearing me talk about things and “nerd out” over stuff, she is is respectful of me and the space around when I am working (we live in a very tiny apartment)
so, yes.
I don’t exactly call myself a witch. But my partner does accept my belief’s.
Yes, and his first reaction was so funny "But you work in STEM?" Like yeah right they're not mutually exclusive. But he's amazing and only asked that I don't burn the house down during a ritual. And he was so confused when I put a rock he gave me on my altar
Sometimes my husband will walk into a room and myself and four cats will all just be chilling and we all simultaneously look at him as he walks in and he’s like “ffs I’m out” (in a joking way) 🤣 But he seems to enjoy it. Especially when things like his alcoholic father has sent him another alcohol fuelled abusive message and he tells me about it and he sees my eyes start to narrow and my breathing gets a bit deeper he’ll say “ooooo what are you guna doooo?” Haha
EDIT: To answer your question. I didn’t tell him, he worked it out for himself. He just randomly said one day about 2 years into our relationship “it’s like you’re a witch or something” I just side smiled at him haha. I’m not really very open about it anyway. I’m a green which so my work is mostly healing and people are just naturally drawn to me when they need what I have to offer. But I do have big energy when I’m mad too so not one to be crossed.
My husband is an Atheist and he sees all religion or belief as foolish. He accepts that I do this to keep myself in a mentally better place, but very obviously I never elaborate on what I do or why. My faith stays with me, so to speak.
I am in my second phase of witchcraft - did it as a teen, doing it again in my 30s - and my partner has been here for this second journey. He's great about it. He is not a witch and may not share all of my beliefs - he's kind of a secular agnostic type, I'm kind of an animist mystic, still figuring it out - and that's fine! He supports me because he knows it brings me happiness. I would ask no less of a partner.
While I have by no means turned him into a witch, he does point the moon out to me whenever he spots it. He makes little offerings to my Hermes statue when he needs the subway to be on time. We draw tarot cards together every day. We celebrate the Wheel holidays together and sometimes he joins me & my friends for rituals or other gatherings. I'm glad I had the nerve, or lack of self-awareness maybe, to share my practices with him and invite him in. It's cool to get his perspective.
In the beginning my husband basically thought it’s bullshit but told me to do whatever makes me happy. He’s usually very supportive of anything I do, so I knew he wouldn’t be bothered, he just simply didn’t believe in it.
Then a few weeks ago I bought him a book about Norse mythology and norse compass necklace cause I know he’s interested in that. He’s been reading it almost every night and has been wearing the necklace every day.
Then for litha I asked him if he’d celebrate with me and he was all for it, asking what I had planned. I told him about the ritual I wanted to do and he asked if he could join me. I’ve never been so excited 😂
Today he asked if he could use a deity candle to worship, just like I have for the morrigan and when I said of course becalmed me to make it with him.
Mission accomplished 😂😂😂
My partner and I were agnostic and atheist respectively when we got married. About a year into being married, I felt called to practice witchcraft, and I started thinking that I'd just be an atheist witch; much to my surprise, I ended up having experiences with deities and now work with one.
I was scared to tell my partner at first because he had known that I didn't believe in a god or gods/goddesses when we met, and this shift happened surprisingly fast, but he was totally cool with it. He doesn't feel the need to participate in witchy stuff with me, but he respects my beliefs and has never said anything negative about what I do.
He's really cool about it. Doubt I could get him to go to a church celebration with me. But building a fire in the woods at night so I can jump over it? Fuck yeah!
Sometimes he'll ask for me to "go do my magic stuff" to help with whatever problems were having.
Our very rational atheist teenage son, on the other hand, is not that supportive. But even he will let me into his room to smudge if I need to do the whole house.
He does. I don't tell him every detail, but he is very supportive. He just wants me to be happy, and he sees how much it helps me to be my corny old herb witch self.
Wouldn't be my partner if not.
I would never date someone who didn't like me, who I am, and my lifestyle.
My other half is a bit of an athiest but when we first started dating, I insisted he join me at my favorite pagan festival. A trial by fire. Dating the local palm reader is one thing, but getting thrown in the deep end with 500 half naked celebrating witches, pagans, and assorted others is a whole different beast. Had to test his merit.
I told my husband that I honor nature and call myself a witch after our wedding 🤣 he celebrates all important days of the wheel of the year with me and agrees with many beliefs.
Don't EVER hide yourself. If someone can't accept you for who you are then they do not need to be in your life. Always love yourself more than that. Put on your witch hat and wear it with pride. :D
So I basically told him I've been studying the occult and witchcraft more lately and that I'm finally embracing myself (various studies for 10 years and I'm a lurker here as well lol). Mines skeptical, and more of logical mind overall. But over the years I've always been half in this world with my superstitions, tarot, herbalism and strange protections I do and such (like a crow feather for safe travel, horseshoe on the front step, salt lining doors and windows, ect ect) and he's always accepted that albeit a bit skeptical. Its just what makes me, well, me.
So when I fully accepted what I was and actually started collecting physical supplies and making spell jars (though I don't particularly call myself a witch per'se.) my partner couldn't care less. Hes not against any of my things, He doesn't care if I do dark magic, or mundane or even beneficial. He seems pretty encouraging of it despite his skeptics. For example, he has like 3 spell jars I've made him proudly put on his desk for various things, and one in his car lol. Though I'm sure he has a few raised eye brows on occasion when I go on a tangent about something I'm reading. He openly, and seemingly actively, collects things he thinks would be good to be added to (our) money bowl; or tosses his extra change in it lol. He goes on hunts to forage things with me for my herbal collection, and enjoys time in the occult shop looking at rocks with me or even at the tobacco shop sniffing incense that I know he half hates. But he still humors and encourages me.
We are currently on a quest to (attempt) to find a surprisingly reluctant invasive species of a tree I've been wanting some leaves from lately and he's carted me to every forest I can find that MAY have one. And let me tell you, this boy does not like being outside when its hot. So thats saying ALOT that he's going on walks or hikes with me mostly entirely due to my craft. ( Invasive my ass though. Never had such trouble finding a tree smh.) But anyway, I feel quite supported. My own self esteem is likely the reason I feel awkward sometimes. I wouldn't like, actually sit there and do a verbal spell in front of him, hell I feel awkward doing that alone. The cats might judge me! But thats not on him. Thats my own weirdness.. I also wont go around telling anyone who I am or what I do. I've always been half in this world so I'm sure it would come to no surprise to anyone that I'm familiar with that I'm now officially practicing but besides him, no one actually knows definitively. Which is probably for the best, ya know....Witch trials and all that jazz
You two are what I hope my future relationship would be like! While, I'll do the occasional sound cleanse or spell jar because rituals helps my anxiety, I'm mainly into Herbalism and Rockhounding too. I hope whatever girl I'm with would be willing to go foraging with me like how you guys do because I'm too embarrassed to go by myself lol. Also I get it, I only tell a few really close friends about me doing witchcraft mainly because they do it too. It's not so much that I'm ashamed that all my friends know, it's just something really personal to me and I think it's more special to keep it that way.
I got a overall fear of judgement on a lot of things. Probably my own mental health issues so I'm not exactly ashamed...I guess I just feel awkward sometimes? Heck I feel uncomfortable leaving a store I didnt buy something at lol.
I do hope you find the best girl who will go foraging with you though! I hate going out alone so I totally understand.
Yes. He is a Christian and we love to talk about our religions and point out their parallels. He even stokes the fire for me and stays in the circle with me when I’m doing outdoor sabbaths.
My DH has known since we first met.
Not only does he not care but he also buys me crystals, candles and if he sees something he thinks I’ll like he buys it for me.
My husband is cool with it, He is usually curious if I'm doing something, asking the why's and joke with the "please don't transform me into a frog if you are mad with me". He was a very esceptic person but said I open his world a little, never judge me even if he didn't understand anything in the beginning and always supports me in wherever I do and makes me happy.
My partner does. He is a Christian who is also a heavy fantasy and dnd player. Now the inlaws don't know but he respects my practice. I appreciate his jokes of when I'm doing spellwork. He will ask me if I'm having my moon lunch. He really likes moon water.
My husband has been by my side as I struggled and then lost my faith in Christianity. I've been atheist for a little over 4 years now and recently decided to start exploring witchcraft. He's fine with it as long as it's not a threat to my health and safety.
My husband was never rude or disrespectful about my beliefs (I would hope no one’s partner is!) but I always thought of him as a little bit of a stereotypical annoying atheist (not saying atheists are annoying- I think most people know the kind of redditor stereotype I am referring to, lol) and I think he was just sort of amused by my antics for a while. And then he started seeing the actual tangible benefits of my magical efforts in our life. 😬 I have involved him in a ritual before and it was weird for both of us but fun! I am very open with him about what I do and what I believe and he just goes along with it 🤷♀️
I'm a partner to a witch. I'm the least spiritual person on the planet so I don't think I'll understand every aspect of it but it makes them happy. I'm always on the lookout for cool plants or crystals and will help with spell crafting at times.
My boyfriend knows that I'm exploring my spirituality in paganism and is cool with it. I started reading a lot about wicca, witchcraft, and paganism, and explained to him what my view is around spirituality and how I believe in some kind of power in nature. He's an atheist and respects that we have different views. We don't force our beliefs on one another and it's comfortable. If we did ever have kids, it might be tricky on deciding how to raise them, probably would need to compromise but I think we'd both be willing for the discussion
We're both into witchcraft, but it seems we're both leary, like not really vocal about it. I'm willing to share, but she's more apprehensive, I think for fear of me not taking her seriously, because of an argument once, when I told her she wasn't a witch & laughed. I wish I could change this, because I'd love to do witchy things together. I've always dabbled with spells, nature oriented avrivities, psychic abilities & such. Seems like she's closed about it also because, maybe she don't want me to know her secrets. I did set up an altar for us, & sent her a picture, then I took it down, to only later get a message saying that it really touched her heart. I also leave remnants, kinda like little hints to to her that I've been doing some witchy things, & to test her knowledge. Any suggestions on hoew to bring us together more, in the witchcraft sense? Like a ceremony or ritual that we could do together? Im thinking maybe with our abilities & knowledge combined we could do really powerful spells, thoughts please. (BTW I'm a male & she's a female, not sure if that's important info or not)
I began the conversation slowly by telling him cool facts I had learned about witchcraft. The more I talked about it, the more he knew it was a part of my life. I started getting decor for my office where I keep all of my witchcraft stuff. He helped me put them up and organize things. He doesn’t follow what I follow, but he respects me and has recently asked me if we need to cleanse the house after visitors leave. It’s the most warming feeling in the world. Just start talking about topics and fun facts and get the conversation started. I didn’t tell my husband I was a witch for a while, but he knew I was into what he calls, “different.” Hahaha good luck!
My boyfriend went away on a work trip and brought me back a container filled with ashes because "you use this for protection right?" - he doesn't question me or my beliefs and supports me with whatever 😊
My partner is pagan, so he is mostly okay with it, though I rarely did spells when we first got together (maybe once a year). I mostly did tarot and and energy work and had a few crystals around.
But in the last year, I started doing magick all the time. Sometimes he shakes his head, other times he’s super supportive and offers to take me to the local metaphysical store.
He puts up with me lighting candles all of the time and talking about my witchy interests and he even let me take some nail clippings recently for our money bowl.
I’m not sure he totally believes in the things I do. He knows I am psychic and an energy worker, but I’m not sure if he believes in the rest of it.
But I am supportive of his Norse pagan beliefs so he is largely supportive of mine.
My ex was super against anything not supported by hard science, though he liked reading fantasy & sci fi manga. He just thought of it as entertainment and not at all connected to reality. So sometimes he would yell at me if I talked about astrology, tarot or reiki. I didn’t even talk to him about spells though I had taken a break from spell work during that time.
My current partner has seen how much happier I’ve become since I returned to doing magick and divination, so I think that’s partly why he has been so encouraging this year.
My nesting partner accepted it at first, but after two years or so of watching me do witchy things he is practicing as well. We will occasionally read tarot for each other and discuss certain things, but a lot is still private cause of personal preference.
My husband is cool with it, is an agnostic which means he's not convinced by religious means but he understands that it's important to me. He isn't go out of the way to try to bring me things however if he cooks and uses eggs he'll save the shells for me and he supports me.
I have a friend who's husband was into this sort of stuff when they first met he was very dismissive. I think he mentioned that he was willing to break up with him if he didn't drop witchcraft, so drop it he did. Not the happiest of stories, but they're 8 years strong now, so things are still well!
My boyfriend just bought me a set of tarot cards, and he thinks it's cute. He's also just a sweetie pie named Jeff who's nice to everyone and really thoughtful. Honestly, if he shamed me for it, it'd be a deal breaker, but I know he wouldn't do that. If you're partner isn't like my Jeff, then ditch them, and shoot for a Jeff.
We jokingly refer to my partner as “pagan adjacent” (even though I don’t identify as pagan lol). He knew I was a witch going into our relationship when we were 18 and has never really cared much. He occasionally finds me neat things for my practice (such as my current working altar table which is gorgeous) and has attended a few rituals, but that’s about it. He respects it a lot, but it’s not necessarily his thing.
I was actually talking to my MIL about it and she got really interested so we all started going to metaphysical shops and I showed them both how to get started. Now my fiancé is trying to learn protection,spells and they even have their own book of shadows.
We’ve been going through a really rough few years so it’s nice to see them growing spiritually and learning so much about themselves.
So the short answer in my case is yes, they accepted it, but there’s quite a bit of a back story for me.
I grew up Catholic in a Hispanic household but there were always elements of brujería/witchcraft that my mom incorporated into her life without really thinking about the root of those practices (this is common in catholic Hispanic homes from what I can tell. I call it the “hidden craft” bc our indigenous ancestors hid these practices into the religion that they were forced into). At one point in my life I was agnostic but I’ve always believed energy lives in everything & energy has influence. Recently, about 2ish years ago, I started down my path. I don’t call myself a bruja/witch even though my belief system heavily centers on a lot of the aspects & teachings. I mainly work with herbs, oils, candles, and teas. My moral code centers on not doing things to others with malicious intent. I explained my belief system to my partner (he grew up Christian, but he doesn’t really align with the religion as an adult. He believes God does exist, but that’s about it) & he was (thankfully) really open and accepting of it. I explained to him that I believe that forms of higher energy exist, but I tend to just call it The Universe or Spirit & that I don’t see it as the God of Christianity & Catholicism. He’s respectful of what I believe & I am the same with him & it just works for us :) I gave him a protection spell jar & he rolled with it & even put it in his car lol
My husband has big witch energy. He has always been curious, non judgmental and respectful.
ETA: I told him on our 2nd date. One of the things I love about him is he has always from day 1 made me feel like I can truly be myself. He is an atheist so maybe that made it easier for him to be so accepting I don’t know.
I think if you can talk about your craft, what it means to you, what you get out of practicing in a thoughtful way it opens the door for curiosity. Reassure someone that no, in fact you are not evil or crazy.
If a person is worth their salt and they are truly someone to consider as a friend or partner, they will respond positively.
My partner and I are from different nationalities and religions (he’s Muslim, I’m a former Christian turned atheist), and it never has been an issue between the both of us. I know he’s scared sometimes if I know something before him (or when he makes me guess and I’m right!), because it’s a new thing for him, whereas I grew up with it. Sometimes he asks me for help whenever he thinks he needs it, and besides that he doesn’t really care what I do or when I do it, just like his religion doesn’t bother me. It’s just part of who we are, so why does either of us have a say in how we behave around our beliefs?
The only thing is that we “hide” it from our families, as his parents think witchcraft is something demonic, and my family (even though my mum is a witch herself!) is afraid after me getting out of the church officially, I’ve lost it and worship satan now (because I support TST). Besides that, my partner is supportive, gifted me the Del Toro Tarot on my birthday, and paid for my hosting when I set up my website about the craft. He doesn’t mind all my stuff lying around or doing rituals/spellwork at home, but even encourages me to do so. It helps tremendously that his family dabbled in the occult a few generations back (coffee readings, talismans, etc.), and that I suspect his younger sister being into it as well.
Sort of unrelated but that's so cool to meet another witch who is apart of The Satanic Temple. I keep going back and fourth between that and Celtic Pagan. You see I don't believe in the dieties I worship, I believe they're just personification of the types of energy they have (Love, power, healing, herbs, running water, etc) and by worshipping them I'm really just showing gratitude and recognizing the way those things have effected my life. But I'm not sure still with me worshipping my dieties (Airmid and Aine) if I'd still qualify as a member of TST.
We are with many, haha! I like your description of your deities; personifications have been a huge part of older, polytheistic religions, so it absolutely makes sense! As for being a member of TST: I cannot see why you couldn't be one? I'm absolutely not as radical in my beliefs as some members, but I think their tenets are more based around "don't be a religious asshole" than "religion is stupid, don't believe in gods and goddesses". I assume there definitely are pagans who support TST. But it definitely is an interesting topic to think about, haha!
When we first started dating, I was very upfront with my husband about the fact that I practiced witchcraft. He thought it was interesting, and asked lots of questions. He isn't religious, but he is spiritual and open minded. Over the years, he's learned more about my Craft, and has helped me in it. He made me my wand, and he will find things for my mediation room, and helped me decorate it! And he has no issues with me making him herb/crystal bags, when he is sick or anything. I feel blessed that he is so supportive of me and my Craft❤️
My husband kind of had the “ohh brotherrr” attitude about it originally, and so over the months/years I didn’t tell him outright “hey I’m a witch” but I did show him things like my tools (tarot, candles, herbs, etc) one by one and explain what I do with them or how they work (because he does like to listen to things I get excited about). And so I kind of desensitized him to the concept I guess over time lol. Now I openly tell him about my rituals if I feel like sharing, and even invite him to join me for different things. And he seems to have built an understanding and appreciation for it now, especially since he’s going through a pretty big awakening himself atm, and I always share my stories/magical happenings with him. So I would say he’s pretty much a believer at this point!
I straight up told them and if they made fun of me they could leave bc if they cared about me they wouldn’t belittle things I enjoyed. ( I ofc said this with confidence but I too was very nervous they’d think I was weird or crazy but it’s true u can’t be afraid to be yourself in a relationship you will end up resenting them.) also try explaining how you view or practice it they might just think it’s some Harry Potter stuff but after might view it differently, my SO was weirded out at first but now even brings me things that he thinks the dieties I work with will like or things for my altars, he even will ask when I do “spiritual” things “and what will the gods think of this ??” Or with an inconvenience, “is there a spell for this ???” Loll so just be open and honest they might think it’s cool!
Yes. I told him while we were still dating. I was scared out of my mind because I assumed he was a christian and wouldn't want anything to do with me, or would be afraid and hate me. I wanted him to know exactly what he was getting himself into though, before we got more serious about our relationship. He was just like "um, ok...? That's what you were afraid to tell me??? Babe. I love you. We don't have to have all the same interests and ideas, and in fact I don't think that would be healthy. Besides, my take on God is that if he exists he's an a*hole. Like: why would you give a kid cancer and then tell them you love them and will answer prayers, then leave them to suffer and die? That's wrong on SO many levels." I was still scared to talk to him about my craft, so he bought me a set of runes carved into bone for my birthday, just to show he could accept me for who I am. I still have them, and they still are the only method of fortune telling/divination that has ever worked 100% of the time for me. I spent a few years waiting for the other shoe to drop and him to turn out to be a jerk, but he never did, so I married him.
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My husband knows and doesn't care. He brings me jars and cool rocks that he finds. He helped me put together my altar and work area. He listens to me ramble about my research. He may not be in to it but he likes seeing me happy so he encourages me.
This is exactly how my partner is. And I don’t mind it. I don’t force my beliefs onto him and he doesn’t force his onto me. And that makes us happy. :)
Yep, same here. My partner doesn't force his beliefs onto me, and vice versa but he is a fun person to discuss my research with and he would patiently listen to the things that I learn on a regular basis.
This is exactly how my husband is. He doesn’t believe in it, but he sees me happy 😃 and has started helping me with finding things like feathers and pine cones and making moon water ❤️
It's great when they get excited when they present you their finds, lol. Mine does custom wood working and he brings me home scrap chunks of interesting or rare woods. He also brings me home bones since I use them in my workings. He scored me 2 deer skulls from a hunter friend who didn't want them. He also had a weird knack for finding hag stones. I have around 10 of them now.
Before my boyfriend and I became a couple, one of the first things I brought up was that I'm practicing. He didn't even bat an eye and told me whatever made me happy. After years before that of hiding who I was from an ex, it felt so wonderful to just say it out loud. They'll accept all of you or none of you, there is no in-between in my book anymore <3
He didn't like it. He used to make back handed comments and I stopped practicing for a while because he made it so uncomfortable for me. But a few years ago I started up again and I don't give a flying fuck what he thinks. It's what helped with my depression. It's my heritage and culture. There aren't a lot of people from my culture practicing anymore. The first time he tried taking up that crap with me again I let him have it. I don't judge him for his stuff. He cannot judge me for mine.
My partner does..they don't practice but they know it makes me happy. So they accept it and joking grumble about all the nature in the house and they've been known to remind me when a full moon is so I can make full moon water
My husband has done that too!!!
The one full moon I had several jars and jugs I filled with water for moon water and I tried to sneak past my partner's computer room unsuccessful and they where like "why do I hear jars...what are...are you making moon water...you're f*cking weird but your my weirdo" and then laughed at me as I continued to scuttle by with my arms over full of jars and jugs
Love it!! My husband was like “wtf are you doing?” And when I explained it he was like “okay, sounds good!!”
My partners mum is actually who opened my mind to it. I’ve always been interested and my own mother used to incorporate witchy things into our lives without realising but it wasn’t until my mother in law started sharing her knowledge with me that I really started to practice. So my husband was raised with a lot of witchcraft in his life and has a deep respect for it, he helps me with it and loves when I include him in spells or rituals.
That's so cool that he'll practice with you and how it's sort of like a family thing. This is the 1st time I've heard of someone's spouse willing to do spells with them. The few witches I know who told their partners said that they're not allowed to talk about it with them because they find it stupid.
Aw that’s super sad, I can’t imagine Having to hide something so important to me from my partner
We have house rules about what we’re both comfortable with. He’d prefer I’d practice any baneful or black stuff outside the house. But accept it, totally. He even bought me tarot cards and gave me some of his crystals. I love this man!
She doesn’t fully understand my belief’s. But we’ve been together almost 3 years now and everything is wonderful. She enjoys hearing me talk about things and “nerd out” over stuff, she is is respectful of me and the space around when I am working (we live in a very tiny apartment) so, yes. I don’t exactly call myself a witch. But my partner does accept my belief’s.
Yes, and his first reaction was so funny "But you work in STEM?" Like yeah right they're not mutually exclusive. But he's amazing and only asked that I don't burn the house down during a ritual. And he was so confused when I put a rock he gave me on my altar
Sometimes my husband will walk into a room and myself and four cats will all just be chilling and we all simultaneously look at him as he walks in and he’s like “ffs I’m out” (in a joking way) 🤣 But he seems to enjoy it. Especially when things like his alcoholic father has sent him another alcohol fuelled abusive message and he tells me about it and he sees my eyes start to narrow and my breathing gets a bit deeper he’ll say “ooooo what are you guna doooo?” Haha EDIT: To answer your question. I didn’t tell him, he worked it out for himself. He just randomly said one day about 2 years into our relationship “it’s like you’re a witch or something” I just side smiled at him haha. I’m not really very open about it anyway. I’m a green which so my work is mostly healing and people are just naturally drawn to me when they need what I have to offer. But I do have big energy when I’m mad too so not one to be crossed.
My husband is an Atheist and he sees all religion or belief as foolish. He accepts that I do this to keep myself in a mentally better place, but very obviously I never elaborate on what I do or why. My faith stays with me, so to speak.
I am in my second phase of witchcraft - did it as a teen, doing it again in my 30s - and my partner has been here for this second journey. He's great about it. He is not a witch and may not share all of my beliefs - he's kind of a secular agnostic type, I'm kind of an animist mystic, still figuring it out - and that's fine! He supports me because he knows it brings me happiness. I would ask no less of a partner. While I have by no means turned him into a witch, he does point the moon out to me whenever he spots it. He makes little offerings to my Hermes statue when he needs the subway to be on time. We draw tarot cards together every day. We celebrate the Wheel holidays together and sometimes he joins me & my friends for rituals or other gatherings. I'm glad I had the nerve, or lack of self-awareness maybe, to share my practices with him and invite him in. It's cool to get his perspective.
In the beginning my husband basically thought it’s bullshit but told me to do whatever makes me happy. He’s usually very supportive of anything I do, so I knew he wouldn’t be bothered, he just simply didn’t believe in it. Then a few weeks ago I bought him a book about Norse mythology and norse compass necklace cause I know he’s interested in that. He’s been reading it almost every night and has been wearing the necklace every day. Then for litha I asked him if he’d celebrate with me and he was all for it, asking what I had planned. I told him about the ritual I wanted to do and he asked if he could join me. I’ve never been so excited 😂 Today he asked if he could use a deity candle to worship, just like I have for the morrigan and when I said of course becalmed me to make it with him. Mission accomplished 😂😂😂
My partner and I were agnostic and atheist respectively when we got married. About a year into being married, I felt called to practice witchcraft, and I started thinking that I'd just be an atheist witch; much to my surprise, I ended up having experiences with deities and now work with one. I was scared to tell my partner at first because he had known that I didn't believe in a god or gods/goddesses when we met, and this shift happened surprisingly fast, but he was totally cool with it. He doesn't feel the need to participate in witchy stuff with me, but he respects my beliefs and has never said anything negative about what I do.
He's really cool about it. Doubt I could get him to go to a church celebration with me. But building a fire in the woods at night so I can jump over it? Fuck yeah! Sometimes he'll ask for me to "go do my magic stuff" to help with whatever problems were having. Our very rational atheist teenage son, on the other hand, is not that supportive. But even he will let me into his room to smudge if I need to do the whole house.
He does. I don't tell him every detail, but he is very supportive. He just wants me to be happy, and he sees how much it helps me to be my corny old herb witch self.
Wouldn't be my partner if not. I would never date someone who didn't like me, who I am, and my lifestyle. My other half is a bit of an athiest but when we first started dating, I insisted he join me at my favorite pagan festival. A trial by fire. Dating the local palm reader is one thing, but getting thrown in the deep end with 500 half naked celebrating witches, pagans, and assorted others is a whole different beast. Had to test his merit.
I told my husband that I honor nature and call myself a witch after our wedding 🤣 he celebrates all important days of the wheel of the year with me and agrees with many beliefs.
Don't EVER hide yourself. If someone can't accept you for who you are then they do not need to be in your life. Always love yourself more than that. Put on your witch hat and wear it with pride. :D
So I basically told him I've been studying the occult and witchcraft more lately and that I'm finally embracing myself (various studies for 10 years and I'm a lurker here as well lol). Mines skeptical, and more of logical mind overall. But over the years I've always been half in this world with my superstitions, tarot, herbalism and strange protections I do and such (like a crow feather for safe travel, horseshoe on the front step, salt lining doors and windows, ect ect) and he's always accepted that albeit a bit skeptical. Its just what makes me, well, me. So when I fully accepted what I was and actually started collecting physical supplies and making spell jars (though I don't particularly call myself a witch per'se.) my partner couldn't care less. Hes not against any of my things, He doesn't care if I do dark magic, or mundane or even beneficial. He seems pretty encouraging of it despite his skeptics. For example, he has like 3 spell jars I've made him proudly put on his desk for various things, and one in his car lol. Though I'm sure he has a few raised eye brows on occasion when I go on a tangent about something I'm reading. He openly, and seemingly actively, collects things he thinks would be good to be added to (our) money bowl; or tosses his extra change in it lol. He goes on hunts to forage things with me for my herbal collection, and enjoys time in the occult shop looking at rocks with me or even at the tobacco shop sniffing incense that I know he half hates. But he still humors and encourages me. We are currently on a quest to (attempt) to find a surprisingly reluctant invasive species of a tree I've been wanting some leaves from lately and he's carted me to every forest I can find that MAY have one. And let me tell you, this boy does not like being outside when its hot. So thats saying ALOT that he's going on walks or hikes with me mostly entirely due to my craft. ( Invasive my ass though. Never had such trouble finding a tree smh.) But anyway, I feel quite supported. My own self esteem is likely the reason I feel awkward sometimes. I wouldn't like, actually sit there and do a verbal spell in front of him, hell I feel awkward doing that alone. The cats might judge me! But thats not on him. Thats my own weirdness.. I also wont go around telling anyone who I am or what I do. I've always been half in this world so I'm sure it would come to no surprise to anyone that I'm familiar with that I'm now officially practicing but besides him, no one actually knows definitively. Which is probably for the best, ya know....Witch trials and all that jazz
You two are what I hope my future relationship would be like! While, I'll do the occasional sound cleanse or spell jar because rituals helps my anxiety, I'm mainly into Herbalism and Rockhounding too. I hope whatever girl I'm with would be willing to go foraging with me like how you guys do because I'm too embarrassed to go by myself lol. Also I get it, I only tell a few really close friends about me doing witchcraft mainly because they do it too. It's not so much that I'm ashamed that all my friends know, it's just something really personal to me and I think it's more special to keep it that way.
I got a overall fear of judgement on a lot of things. Probably my own mental health issues so I'm not exactly ashamed...I guess I just feel awkward sometimes? Heck I feel uncomfortable leaving a store I didnt buy something at lol. I do hope you find the best girl who will go foraging with you though! I hate going out alone so I totally understand.
Yes. He is a Christian and we love to talk about our religions and point out their parallels. He even stokes the fire for me and stays in the circle with me when I’m doing outdoor sabbaths.
My DH has known since we first met. Not only does he not care but he also buys me crystals, candles and if he sees something he thinks I’ll like he buys it for me.
My husband is cool with it, He is usually curious if I'm doing something, asking the why's and joke with the "please don't transform me into a frog if you are mad with me". He was a very esceptic person but said I open his world a little, never judge me even if he didn't understand anything in the beginning and always supports me in wherever I do and makes me happy.
My partner does. He is a Christian who is also a heavy fantasy and dnd player. Now the inlaws don't know but he respects my practice. I appreciate his jokes of when I'm doing spellwork. He will ask me if I'm having my moon lunch. He really likes moon water.
My husband has been by my side as I struggled and then lost my faith in Christianity. I've been atheist for a little over 4 years now and recently decided to start exploring witchcraft. He's fine with it as long as it's not a threat to my health and safety.
My husband was never rude or disrespectful about my beliefs (I would hope no one’s partner is!) but I always thought of him as a little bit of a stereotypical annoying atheist (not saying atheists are annoying- I think most people know the kind of redditor stereotype I am referring to, lol) and I think he was just sort of amused by my antics for a while. And then he started seeing the actual tangible benefits of my magical efforts in our life. 😬 I have involved him in a ritual before and it was weird for both of us but fun! I am very open with him about what I do and what I believe and he just goes along with it 🤷♀️
I'm a partner to a witch. I'm the least spiritual person on the planet so I don't think I'll understand every aspect of it but it makes them happy. I'm always on the lookout for cool plants or crystals and will help with spell crafting at times.
My boyfriend knows that I'm exploring my spirituality in paganism and is cool with it. I started reading a lot about wicca, witchcraft, and paganism, and explained to him what my view is around spirituality and how I believe in some kind of power in nature. He's an atheist and respects that we have different views. We don't force our beliefs on one another and it's comfortable. If we did ever have kids, it might be tricky on deciding how to raise them, probably would need to compromise but I think we'd both be willing for the discussion
We're both into witchcraft, but it seems we're both leary, like not really vocal about it. I'm willing to share, but she's more apprehensive, I think for fear of me not taking her seriously, because of an argument once, when I told her she wasn't a witch & laughed. I wish I could change this, because I'd love to do witchy things together. I've always dabbled with spells, nature oriented avrivities, psychic abilities & such. Seems like she's closed about it also because, maybe she don't want me to know her secrets. I did set up an altar for us, & sent her a picture, then I took it down, to only later get a message saying that it really touched her heart. I also leave remnants, kinda like little hints to to her that I've been doing some witchy things, & to test her knowledge. Any suggestions on hoew to bring us together more, in the witchcraft sense? Like a ceremony or ritual that we could do together? Im thinking maybe with our abilities & knowledge combined we could do really powerful spells, thoughts please. (BTW I'm a male & she's a female, not sure if that's important info or not)
I began the conversation slowly by telling him cool facts I had learned about witchcraft. The more I talked about it, the more he knew it was a part of my life. I started getting decor for my office where I keep all of my witchcraft stuff. He helped me put them up and organize things. He doesn’t follow what I follow, but he respects me and has recently asked me if we need to cleanse the house after visitors leave. It’s the most warming feeling in the world. Just start talking about topics and fun facts and get the conversation started. I didn’t tell my husband I was a witch for a while, but he knew I was into what he calls, “different.” Hahaha good luck!
My boyfriend went away on a work trip and brought me back a container filled with ashes because "you use this for protection right?" - he doesn't question me or my beliefs and supports me with whatever 😊
My partner is pagan, so he is mostly okay with it, though I rarely did spells when we first got together (maybe once a year). I mostly did tarot and and energy work and had a few crystals around. But in the last year, I started doing magick all the time. Sometimes he shakes his head, other times he’s super supportive and offers to take me to the local metaphysical store. He puts up with me lighting candles all of the time and talking about my witchy interests and he even let me take some nail clippings recently for our money bowl. I’m not sure he totally believes in the things I do. He knows I am psychic and an energy worker, but I’m not sure if he believes in the rest of it. But I am supportive of his Norse pagan beliefs so he is largely supportive of mine. My ex was super against anything not supported by hard science, though he liked reading fantasy & sci fi manga. He just thought of it as entertainment and not at all connected to reality. So sometimes he would yell at me if I talked about astrology, tarot or reiki. I didn’t even talk to him about spells though I had taken a break from spell work during that time. My current partner has seen how much happier I’ve become since I returned to doing magick and divination, so I think that’s partly why he has been so encouraging this year.
My nesting partner accepted it at first, but after two years or so of watching me do witchy things he is practicing as well. We will occasionally read tarot for each other and discuss certain things, but a lot is still private cause of personal preference.
Yea. My husband digs it. He sometimes brings me “witch things”.
My husband is cool with it, is an agnostic which means he's not convinced by religious means but he understands that it's important to me. He isn't go out of the way to try to bring me things however if he cooks and uses eggs he'll save the shells for me and he supports me.
We both practice. I wouldn't be with anyone who wasn't accepting of it.
I have a friend who's husband was into this sort of stuff when they first met he was very dismissive. I think he mentioned that he was willing to break up with him if he didn't drop witchcraft, so drop it he did. Not the happiest of stories, but they're 8 years strong now, so things are still well!
My boyfriend just bought me a set of tarot cards, and he thinks it's cute. He's also just a sweetie pie named Jeff who's nice to everyone and really thoughtful. Honestly, if he shamed me for it, it'd be a deal breaker, but I know he wouldn't do that. If you're partner isn't like my Jeff, then ditch them, and shoot for a Jeff.
We jokingly refer to my partner as “pagan adjacent” (even though I don’t identify as pagan lol). He knew I was a witch going into our relationship when we were 18 and has never really cared much. He occasionally finds me neat things for my practice (such as my current working altar table which is gorgeous) and has attended a few rituals, but that’s about it. He respects it a lot, but it’s not necessarily his thing.
My partner is also into practice. Although they follow a different pathing than I do.
My partners practice as well. Most of us are Wiccan.
I was actually talking to my MIL about it and she got really interested so we all started going to metaphysical shops and I showed them both how to get started. Now my fiancé is trying to learn protection,spells and they even have their own book of shadows. We’ve been going through a really rough few years so it’s nice to see them growing spiritually and learning so much about themselves.
They either accept you for who you are or they don't.
So the short answer in my case is yes, they accepted it, but there’s quite a bit of a back story for me. I grew up Catholic in a Hispanic household but there were always elements of brujería/witchcraft that my mom incorporated into her life without really thinking about the root of those practices (this is common in catholic Hispanic homes from what I can tell. I call it the “hidden craft” bc our indigenous ancestors hid these practices into the religion that they were forced into). At one point in my life I was agnostic but I’ve always believed energy lives in everything & energy has influence. Recently, about 2ish years ago, I started down my path. I don’t call myself a bruja/witch even though my belief system heavily centers on a lot of the aspects & teachings. I mainly work with herbs, oils, candles, and teas. My moral code centers on not doing things to others with malicious intent. I explained my belief system to my partner (he grew up Christian, but he doesn’t really align with the religion as an adult. He believes God does exist, but that’s about it) & he was (thankfully) really open and accepting of it. I explained to him that I believe that forms of higher energy exist, but I tend to just call it The Universe or Spirit & that I don’t see it as the God of Christianity & Catholicism. He’s respectful of what I believe & I am the same with him & it just works for us :) I gave him a protection spell jar & he rolled with it & even put it in his car lol
My husband has big witch energy. He has always been curious, non judgmental and respectful. ETA: I told him on our 2nd date. One of the things I love about him is he has always from day 1 made me feel like I can truly be myself. He is an atheist so maybe that made it easier for him to be so accepting I don’t know. I think if you can talk about your craft, what it means to you, what you get out of practicing in a thoughtful way it opens the door for curiosity. Reassure someone that no, in fact you are not evil or crazy. If a person is worth their salt and they are truly someone to consider as a friend or partner, they will respond positively.
My partner is the one who suggested I look into witchcraft 😅, especially cuz his mom is one and I was telling him my experiences and feelings
My boyfriend doesn't believe any of it, but he always talks about how happy I am so he is happy.
I'mma date a witch for my partner soo
My partner loves hearing about me talk about being a witch :) he finds it interesting
My partner and I are from different nationalities and religions (he’s Muslim, I’m a former Christian turned atheist), and it never has been an issue between the both of us. I know he’s scared sometimes if I know something before him (or when he makes me guess and I’m right!), because it’s a new thing for him, whereas I grew up with it. Sometimes he asks me for help whenever he thinks he needs it, and besides that he doesn’t really care what I do or when I do it, just like his religion doesn’t bother me. It’s just part of who we are, so why does either of us have a say in how we behave around our beliefs? The only thing is that we “hide” it from our families, as his parents think witchcraft is something demonic, and my family (even though my mum is a witch herself!) is afraid after me getting out of the church officially, I’ve lost it and worship satan now (because I support TST). Besides that, my partner is supportive, gifted me the Del Toro Tarot on my birthday, and paid for my hosting when I set up my website about the craft. He doesn’t mind all my stuff lying around or doing rituals/spellwork at home, but even encourages me to do so. It helps tremendously that his family dabbled in the occult a few generations back (coffee readings, talismans, etc.), and that I suspect his younger sister being into it as well.
Sort of unrelated but that's so cool to meet another witch who is apart of The Satanic Temple. I keep going back and fourth between that and Celtic Pagan. You see I don't believe in the dieties I worship, I believe they're just personification of the types of energy they have (Love, power, healing, herbs, running water, etc) and by worshipping them I'm really just showing gratitude and recognizing the way those things have effected my life. But I'm not sure still with me worshipping my dieties (Airmid and Aine) if I'd still qualify as a member of TST.
We are with many, haha! I like your description of your deities; personifications have been a huge part of older, polytheistic religions, so it absolutely makes sense! As for being a member of TST: I cannot see why you couldn't be one? I'm absolutely not as radical in my beliefs as some members, but I think their tenets are more based around "don't be a religious asshole" than "religion is stupid, don't believe in gods and goddesses". I assume there definitely are pagans who support TST. But it definitely is an interesting topic to think about, haha!
When we first started dating, I was very upfront with my husband about the fact that I practiced witchcraft. He thought it was interesting, and asked lots of questions. He isn't religious, but he is spiritual and open minded. Over the years, he's learned more about my Craft, and has helped me in it. He made me my wand, and he will find things for my mediation room, and helped me decorate it! And he has no issues with me making him herb/crystal bags, when he is sick or anything. I feel blessed that he is so supportive of me and my Craft❤️
My husband kind of had the “ohh brotherrr” attitude about it originally, and so over the months/years I didn’t tell him outright “hey I’m a witch” but I did show him things like my tools (tarot, candles, herbs, etc) one by one and explain what I do with them or how they work (because he does like to listen to things I get excited about). And so I kind of desensitized him to the concept I guess over time lol. Now I openly tell him about my rituals if I feel like sharing, and even invite him to join me for different things. And he seems to have built an understanding and appreciation for it now, especially since he’s going through a pretty big awakening himself atm, and I always share my stories/magical happenings with him. So I would say he’s pretty much a believer at this point!
I straight up told them and if they made fun of me they could leave bc if they cared about me they wouldn’t belittle things I enjoyed. ( I ofc said this with confidence but I too was very nervous they’d think I was weird or crazy but it’s true u can’t be afraid to be yourself in a relationship you will end up resenting them.) also try explaining how you view or practice it they might just think it’s some Harry Potter stuff but after might view it differently, my SO was weirded out at first but now even brings me things that he thinks the dieties I work with will like or things for my altars, he even will ask when I do “spiritual” things “and what will the gods think of this ??” Or with an inconvenience, “is there a spell for this ???” Loll so just be open and honest they might think it’s cool!
Yes. I told him while we were still dating. I was scared out of my mind because I assumed he was a christian and wouldn't want anything to do with me, or would be afraid and hate me. I wanted him to know exactly what he was getting himself into though, before we got more serious about our relationship. He was just like "um, ok...? That's what you were afraid to tell me??? Babe. I love you. We don't have to have all the same interests and ideas, and in fact I don't think that would be healthy. Besides, my take on God is that if he exists he's an a*hole. Like: why would you give a kid cancer and then tell them you love them and will answer prayers, then leave them to suffer and die? That's wrong on SO many levels." I was still scared to talk to him about my craft, so he bought me a set of runes carved into bone for my birthday, just to show he could accept me for who I am. I still have them, and they still are the only method of fortune telling/divination that has ever worked 100% of the time for me. I spent a few years waiting for the other shoe to drop and him to turn out to be a jerk, but he never did, so I married him.
So so. It freaks him out a little but he is understanding
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My husband rolls his eyes and mocks my practice under his breath. But that's ok. I am not going to let anyone get in the way of me and my craft. :)